Discussion Do some people think youre lazy too?

[Baskol1]

I dont have a job, and im autistic, and have other health problems. But because im not bedrixden, some people think im just lazy and dont want to work or get a job. But who wants to give me a job anyway? Especially a job that says enough to live? People say your disability, or mental problems are not an excuse to not get a job, because there are successful disabled and mentally il people. Often they say because stephen hawkigs was sucessful despite ALS, there is no excuse so cant be successful in life. Are you getting tired of called lay to?

 

[HGL91]

I dont have a job, and im autistic, and have other health problems. But because im not bedrixden, some people think im just lazy and dont want to work or get a job. But who wants to give me a job anyway? Especially a job that says enough to live? People say your disability, or mental problems are not an excuse to not get a job, because there are successful disabled and mentally il people. Often they say because stephen hawkigs was sucessful despite ALS, there is no excuse so cant be successful in life. Are you getting tired of called lay to?

Yeah, I've had jobs on and off in my life and it's so hard for me to keep a job.

Especially as a woman with periods, every time it comes around, I'm super emotional and my mind is a raging bitch, so being super nice at work when my brain is thinking about yelling gives me anxiety. I often get fired for being too anxious, running around too quickly and fidgeting with my hands. I also can't help but cry in a bathroom when I get bullied at work.

I think about how there are over 7 billion people in the world, so I'm like "Why would someone want to hire me when they have so many options?"

 

[Baskol1]

Yeah, I've had jobs on and off in my life and it's so hard for me to keep a job.

Especially as a woman with periods, every time it comes around, I'm super emotional and my mind is a raging bitch, so being super nice at work when my brain is thinking about yelling gives me anxiety. I often get fired for being too anxious, running around too quickly and fidgeting with my hands. I also can't help but cry in a bathroom when I get bullied at work.

I think about how there are over 7 billion people in the world, so I'm like "Why would someone want to hire me when they have so many options?"

Ever got called a lazy bum? I got that called all the time, and now it doesnt bother me anyone. I dont care what society thinks of me. They dont want me anyway.

 

[HGL91]

Ever got called a lazy bum? I got that called all the time, and now it doesnt bother me anyone. I dont care what society thinks of me. They dont want me anyway.

For me, just by family. Strangers don't call me lazy.

 

[StillWaiting]

It is just sad when there are people who suffer from mental illnesses are able to function well, people expect you to be the same.
Trying my best to get something done but it is never good enough as compared with the people in my cohort.

 

[Tabbyql]

Yeah my bf and his family think I'm a lazy work shy bum.

 

[coma-baby]

It's hard for me to keep a job. I have anxiety that stems from my depression.

My education didn't continue past high school graduation. The only jobs I've been able to land have been minimum wage bullshit customer service jobs. The service industry is absolutely miserable when you're mentally ill.
Due to my anxiety - specifically my problems with performance anxiety - I usually try to be good at these shit jobs. Great even. I take them seriously and I go in and I do my best. Because I am always constantly waiting for management to give me the boot over something. Anything.
I'll get promoted from the grunt work up to a shift management position. That's what happens when most of the staff are teenagers just making pocket money. Anyone who takes the job with an ounce of seriousness is seen as management material. It's miserable.
After getting promoted, things are nice. I make about 50 cents more. I have more hours. My bills are being paid comfortably for the first time in a long time.
Then anxiety and an overbearing feeling of worthlessness come to pay me a visit. Every day. Talking louder and louder as time goes on. I haven't lasted more than three months in a management position. My worries of being fired for any infraction multiply exponentially. I constantly am worried about under performing. And again. Remember. These are minimum wage jobs. These are jobs just one step above cashiering. One step above burger flipping. These are jobs meant for teenagers. Children.
And I somehow crack under the pressure. It makes me feel so absolutely worthless. I can't contribute to society. I can't contribute to my family. I feel like a leech wriggling and crying in the muck.
Right now, I'm out of work. I had a plan to CTB in July and my fiance got worried, so I spent some time in the hospital. While I was in the hospital, he quit my job for me. I don't know what to do at this point. I know the same cycle of anxiety is going to start as soon as I find more work. It's pointless. I'm not doing anything worthwhile at the moment. That's why I've been so active here. It all makes me so much more ready to CTB.

 

[262653]

All the time, should they only discover I'm a freeloader. And they're always right about that. Over a lifetime I developed a strong aversion towards boring work, probably because I never had to, and it doesn't promise any worthwhile results. I don't even cook or exercise anymore... But I don't view being called lazy as an insult, even if they do.

It annoys me when people like Hawking are exemplified in such manner. "Look, he managed to achieve "greatness" despite having ALS, and so can you, because you don't have such disadvantage. And yes, I'm conveniently omitting other important variables, like exceptionally high intelligence, rich background, right doses of challenge, etc.."

 

[Tragoedia Vitae]

Definitely. I've known some people who thought I wasn't doing enough, that I was falling short of my "abilities and capabilities." According to them, I just needed to put more effort in it and things would magically fall in place. At times they would get upset and frustrated with me because they thought I was purposely not doing something even though I could have done it------they refused to recognize the possibility that I might not be capable of doing it in the first place. The possibility that I might have very serious and real limitations never even occurred to them.

They only cared about the finished product----they didn't care about the sort of process I had to go through to achieve that product. So what if I went through hell to complete a paper? Interact with people? To wash and brush my hair? To brush my teeth? To function minimally? None of that mattered to them. Because obviously my supposed "intelligence" should be able to magically fix all of that. If not, I'm obviously an irresponsible, lazy bum.

 

[snowman626]

Yeah I sleep until 3pm and i vape weed daily and only work 2 days a week. Lol what have i become. When i was 15 i wanted to go to university to become a doctor i dont know how i ended up like this

 

[Readytogo227]

Yes I get called lazy all the time. People just look at me (I'm not physically fit) and say "Well, you should try exercise."

Like, I do exercise, number one. Number two, will exercise magically cure my Depression, Bipolar disorder, PTSD, and everything else? Is my mental illness stored in my fat cells?

How many push ups until I improve my financial situation? How many crunches until my family stops viewing me as a disappointment? Where's the workout video on that one? Assholes.

 

[Mr2005]

I am

 

[Conflicted Cat]

I too don't have a job. Because of mental issues, and it hurts to see people assume laziness...

 

[Wayfaerer]

Yes, but I know it's not true so I don't let it get to me.

 

[c824767]

With the ridiculous religious admiration of our society for "work ethics", everyone takes out the god given right to call everyone else lazy who works less than them. Idiotic!!!!Only helps capitalists to exploit us. That being said, it is nice to have something meaningful to do. But YOU PICK what you might enjoy and how much you want to do. That is dignified and appropriate for humans.

 

[Final Escape]

I dont have a job, and im autistic, and have other health problems. But because im not bedrixden, some people think im just lazy and dont want to work or get a job. But who wants to give me a job anyway? Especially a job that says enough to live? People say your disability, or mental problems are not an excuse to not get a job, because there are successful disabled and mentally il people. Often they say because stephen hawkigs was sucessful despite ALS, there is no excuse so cant be successful in life. Are you getting tired of called lay to?

Yea with the borderline personality disorder untreated I can't manage any structure or discipline not on my own. I feel like I need assisted living because I can't manage my life like other mature adults. Yea I totally feel u. It's humiliating. I know I could get help I just don't think it's worth it I'm so old now.

 

[c824767]

Yea with the borderline personality disorder untreated I can't manage any structure or discipline not on my own. I feel like I need assisted living because I can't manage my life like other mature adults. Yea I totally feel u. It's humiliating. I know I could get help I just don't think it's worth it I'm so old now.

You need dignity, and you deserve it. Ask for it every step along your way. Maybe you will get it. But only if you ask for it. Our society will not give it out of the goodness of its own wicked heart....