do i help my friend or myself?

[motherwithtwoheads]

I want to start this post off my saying that i was addicted to cocaine for two years. ive been sober for about two years now.

my friend just brought up to me that she wants to try coke, in casual conversation. i feel as though this is not something she should have brought up in general. especially not around an ex addict. its good that she talks about it but she needs to know her audience. i told her that cocaine is not the way to go to solve ongoing problems in her life, but it will only cause more problems. especially since shes already medicated. i told her that i dont surround myself with people that are users of coke. she asked me if i would not spend time with her if she did it. i answered that ive cut people off for using, since its common that it resurfaces urges and potentially enables those urges. she told me that she would not do it around me or be around me while shes high, and definitely not enable me. i told her that if that ever starts happening i will likely cut her off. i also reminded her that ive talked about my years of addiction and how it was the worst time of my life.

what should i do? i know i cant stop her from doing anything but she also seemed to disregard my advice. pls help!

 

[Rainbow Dash]

Welp. As a ex drug user myself on pain pills only...

It depends.

If that person is truly a good friend then try to talk them out of even experimenting with it as you already have.

If they do choose to ignore the warnings and do start looking or trying it them I PERSONALLY would cut them off as you would.

But that is my personal advice/feelings.

I don't want myself and I don't want you to relapse as drugs only do more harm than good in the long run.

Mental health, financial, and physical too.

Stay strong brother or sister and do what you think is best <3 <3


Edit: To answer your question in the topic you set.... Always put yourself first.

 

[isolatedl111]

I want to start this post off my saying that i was addicted to cocaine for two years. ive been sober for about two years now.

my friend just brought up to me that she wants to try coke, in casual conversation. i feel as though this is not something she should have brought up in general. especially not around an ex addict. its good that she talks about it but she needs to know her audience. i told her that cocaine is not the way to go to solve ongoing problems in her life, but it will only cause more problems. especially since shes already medicated. i told her that i dont surround myself with people that are users of coke. she asked me if i would not spend time with her if she did it. i answered that ive cut people off for using, since its common that it resurfaces urges and potentially enables those urges. she told me that she would not do it around me or be around me while shes high, and definitely not enable me. i told her that if that ever starts happening i will likely cut her off. i also reminded her that ive talked about my years of addiction and how it was the worst time of my life.

what should i do? i know i cant stop her from doing anything but she also seemed to disregard my advice. pls help!

Personally I think you should put yourself on the 1st place

 

[whywere]

Like the other 2 family members here mentioned, put yourself first, and especially about street drugs.

If it comes down to it, it is HER choice upon whether to have a great friend or use street drugs. If she wants to use, then I would say goodbye. Putting oneself in harm's way in the short and long term of things is disaster period.

I have 24/7 chronic pain and I am on Hydromorphone and I have never tried sreet drugs and never would and especially with my meds. I mention this as you said she is on meds and also wants to try street drugs? Hum, NO way would I want to be around that situation.

You are way too valuable of a soul to put yourself around street drugs again since you were smart enough to get the heavens off of them.

Please put yourself 1st and foremost if it comes to that, as I want and need you here and not in either rehab or much worse.

Lots of hugs and caring thoughts to you, my good friend.

Walter

 

[Forever Sleep]

It sounds like you've done all you can really. Warned her of the pitfalls of starting. Warned her that it may end your friendship. Ultimately now, it's up to her. If she decides to go ahead though and it become massively triggering for you- I think you need to put yourself first and avoid her- if you need to. It's not fair to compromise your health.

It's so tricky though. Before you started using- would that conversation have put you off? Say you had a friend that warned you off and warned you it could destroy the friendship. Would that have been enough to stop you?

 

[ratvroomvrooms]

Please put yourself first. It's not worth risking your progress over. You, as a friend, have taken the steps to try and keep her from trying it. You've done your part for her. If she doesn't listen, then she's responsible for herself. What's left is you being responsible for yourself, so might as well take care and listen to your needs. Sending virtual hugs.