the risk of forcing away suicidal thoughts is that you end up doing things that you're simply not comfortable with
forcefully bringing yourself in certain situations might help, but it can also backfire at the same time
it's kind of the trick that you've got to find things in life that allows you to feel different than you do now
the kind of things that lets time pass by quickly
don't force too much, especially if you're well aware of not being fully comfortable in these situations bc once again, it can backfire and ask more from your mental / physical state than you think.
those situations can suck all the energy out of you; leaving you vulnerable in the moments whenever the thought of catching the bus starts to dominate inside your head
I can certainly get what you're talking about, since I did experience what you've said.
Forcing them away does indeed make life more bearable, as it becomes more or less a constant emotionless life.
But it is challenging since it also means there's nothing to really look forward to nor is there anything to think about.
And, the last part is certainly true! I usually force myself to become more social. But sometimes (it's becoming more frequent, though) I get the need to just get the hell out and find some way to urgently ctb.
I mean, all of this is because I'm thinking of ctb as the "comfortable state in which I wouldn't have to worry about anything or do anything anymore"
I personally think that we are what we are mainly due to our biology and, specifically, our neurotype
Might be true in some certain occasions; like getting a stomachache and suddenly you're in a really bad mood. But certain chemical reactions within the body wouldn't necessarily give you what you think.
Like, our SI makes it really hard to really go through ctb when u have the method. Which means body's chemical reactions or whatever that's called don't want you to ctb.
So thoughts or needs are a very distinctive "thing" from our biology. Though as I said, it can affect it
This isn't me implying that your childhood wasn't normal, but I'd like to add the very real phenomena of people tending to believe their fucked up childhoods actually were normal to the discussion. I know a lot of people - including myself - with traumatizing childhoods who had absolutely no idea about it. Partly this is because our childhoods tends to act like blueprints for the rest of the world; young children have no prior experiences of normal and tends to assume that what's happening in their lives is how the rest of the world works. Partly because a lot of themes in traumatizing childhoods are very covert and hard to spot even if it's playing out before our eyes; parentification, scapegoating, emotional incest, gaslighting, secondary traumatization etc. are all things that are actually quite hard to notice, even for adults. Partly because society (I do blame the DSM) has had a long standing narrative of the things that are considered to be "allowed" to traumatize you (physical violence, sexual violence, war, natural disasters etc.) and it's only very recently that there has been a discussion of the whole spectrum of potentially traumatizing events.
As for me personally, I was 23 or 24 when I first begun to realize that my childhood wasn't normal. I had a therapist at the time whom I told about some of the physical violence I had to endure from my stepfather and she - much to my surprise - got angry. When I asked why she said that was because it's not okay to hit children. I was surprised and defended him, said that that situation was different because I had deserved it. She looked me dead in the eye and said "No child, whatever they have done, deserve to be hit." After that it took me several years to even fully comprehend that I had been a child at all, because I've always felt like an adult. It took me even longer to comprehend the covert abuse, the attachment disruption and the emotional neglect and just how ingrained that is in me.
Now, what you said would have an entire different effect on me, to be honest.
I've always felt that I've become 'me' by 15. Like my personality had stopped developing, and it was then that I developed suicide ideation. Taking ctb as a good peaceful farewell.
Well, there were events of being hit, and many events of, I'd say "drama" between my parents. I always considered it normal since I thought maybe every household has the same thing going on?
But, my parents nearly divorced several times back then, and there were a lot of... things going on back then.
Thinking about it now, was that really what made me what I am? If so, how? Like how could any event make you want to ctb, when you're young?
For the last part, I'm very sorry for what you went through and hope that at least some part of it healed.
The first five years of your life tend to be a huge predictor of a big part of you when youre older, and how you relate to the world around you so Id say those events definitely effect you as youre older.
For me going to the psychward after psychosis and being put on meds fucked me up tho.
Sorry you had to go through that. Psych wards are never good for anyone, no matter where.
I just can't get the point of its entire existence.
And yeah, as I said earlier, what you experience when you're young may very much define you as a whole for when you grow older.