Thoughts/experiences please. They're trynna make me go to therapy, and I don't know, know, know
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Bitcoin (BTC):Ethereum (ETH):Monero (XMR):To me, it felt like gaslighting myself, which didn't, and still doesn't, work. But I'm neurodivergent. Neurotypical people may have more success with it.
This is exactly what I thibk abput it. I also don't generally have enotions, just agitation and SI. So I am not sure it fits my case. I am feeling like I would have to endure it, and it will make me angry, tgen I will get blamed for not trying hard enough.
If you think you may be neurodivergent, I would check that first. Because if you are neurodivergent, there is really no use in trying standard DBT.
You can always try or look into other type of therapy (look for pinned post on recovery)
The worst can happen it will not work for you
flowerbomb
Member
- Nov 28, 2024
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If you have experienced trauma in your life, it could be that specific trauma focused therapy does help even more than DBT.
bl33ding_heart
Borderline
- Jun 24, 2025
- 494
nitrogenous
Just wanna break free of all suffering
- Dec 26, 2025
- 277
I am a neurodivergent and have done months of dbt without any real difference :( Do you have any suggestions what would work instead?
with trauma? EMDR (with good therapist)
with figuring life? idk, check pinned post on recovery
lilb0wpeep
Will I ever escape from this nightmare?
- Mar 9, 2026
- 30
Looking at the comments I just want to note that it seems like some people may be confusing Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and Dialectical Behavioural Therapy. The main difference being the CBT focuses on changing ur thoughts and DBT focuses on changing your actions and in turn regulating ur emotions. Often the two are paired together but it's important to differentiate so as to not blow off therapy/the possibility of benefiting from it as a whole.
I myself have been in LOTS of therapy for many years in different times of my life. Originally I hated cbt because it felt like ignoring/lying/gaslighting myself and it wasn't working anyway(misunderstanding of what they were trying to teach me). Eventually I looked at in a different light and I understood why it's beneficial and crucial. DBT felt "stupid" to me as if I was just play acting at times, and that I was/am so sick of "just coping". That said learning the skills and effects of everything I do was also beneficial and important.
Do I want to live, absolutely not. Do I find therapy as a whole unhelpful FOR ME, yes and every single time I try again/hope it'll help me and doesn't, it chips away at my soul. That said therapy is probably the only reason I'm able to survive/be rational at times/(preformativley-)function at all. Through all my dislikes and discourse with it I still say that if u can, try(like actually try) to go and learn something from therapy. Whatever kind that it is; CBT, DBT, IFS, etc. And it doesn't always feel helpful at the time but weeks, months, and or years later you'll realize that you have learned something helpful to you and that you wouldn't be where you are now(you'd be worse off) without it. It can change your thoughts, actions, beliefs/rational, relationships, and who you are yourself(the important one if u ask me. Not that anyone "needs" to change, but clearly if you are looking into therapy you're not happy living the way you are. And to change our lives we have make a change in ourselves.)
It may not make u want to live again, but at the very least it may ease your suffering/make ur life a little bit easier.
So don't dismiss it before going, or even soon after. Allow yourself to and try to get something out of it. There's a pinned thread in the recovery section about 'how to make therapy actually work for you' (or something along those lines) that is well written and may be useful, in any case it's something you should def check out.
-From someone who "hates" therapy(but will always continue to try if given the chance)Last edited:
