Zegers
Enlightened
- Dec 15, 2021
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I suffer from a disability and my love life is non-existent, many healthy people struggle with this, when you are disabled it is even more complicated because the disability has added problems.
I'm dating someone else who's also mentally disabled. I guess I would date someone who's physically disabled unless they're in a wheelchair, that would just be too much for me to deal with, as selfish as that sounds. It's tough enough dating someone who's mentally disabled, the ongoing support needed takes a lot of work and strength which sometimes I just don't have, it puts a real strain on the relationship.I suffer from a disability and my love life is non-existent, many healthy people struggle with this, when you are disabled it is even more complicated because the disability has added problems.
I have a "hidden" disability and find it would be challenging to tell another person about it if I ever do date again or decide to get close to anyone in the future. It affects my body and could possibly get in the way of intimacy, especially with the stigma it unfortunately has attached to it. I would be open to date someone else with a disability, there are so many types of disabilities though some being severe and incapacitating and others mild or even "hidden". Or like mine, hidden until it has its issues or an explosion lol it's also probably pretty safe to say we are all psychologically challenged to some point, I mean no "mentally healthy" person would be here right?I suffer from a disability and my love life is non-existent, many healthy people struggle with this, when you are disabled it is even more complicated because the disability has added problems.
ThisIf the stars align and we hit if off sure. But I am honestly not in the mood for a relationship atm.
Why should a person with a disability look for people with a disability? blondes should look for blondes? rich should look for rich and poor should look for poor? I know you didn't mean it in a bad way but that's classism.Can't you date other people who are also disabled?
May I ask what your disability is?
Yes, exactly. I just don't think people understand the stigma they themselves put on physical disabilities because they are healthy and don't "get it."Why should a person with a disability look for people with a disability? blondes should look for blondes? rich should look for rich and poor should look for poor? I know you didn't mean it in a bad way but that's classism.
Sounds like an interesting experience, and nice that she had you to accept her as she was and also learn from her. I am saddened that you feel the way you do about being trans, I think you are fabulous the way you are...but then I don't have a right to judge others and want to love all humans for who we are. Sadly, there are a lot of people in this world who do judge others and who also put out hate. But despite this, I thought people are becoming more accepting of others especially with many influencers out there on social media normalizing things.I dated someone who was totally blind before, can't see anything other than pitch black type blind. Not only that, she lost her sight just before she turned 20, so had to know what life was like before and have her vision taken from her. She was trans too. It was fascinating to see and learn about how she had to adapt to function, the tech she used to be able to use things I took for granted, etc.
Fuck me though, being trans alone is enough of a reason to want to end it imo. Huge respect to her for not only that, but to do it while blind too and still be able to keep a good outlook on life.
No, it's not me. It's a girl who has the same disability. In my case i can't get used to the disability, just can't look in the mirror and get used to a faulty body, i don't feel good like that and i won't feel good, i don't feel good in this skin so i want to take it off. I guess i will be spiritually healthy when I get rid of this life.using it only as an explanation of what type of disability you have, I admire your strength and believe anyone who gets to know you for who you are will not be fixated on the fact you use supportive devices. You are beautiful for who you are, I want you to believe that truth. Sad thing is, it is difficult for us to show others our true selves, to open up to others, to accept love from others and feel comfortable in our own skin, not to mention with others... commitment is tough when we are unable to even commit to ourselves. How can we want love and validation from others when we cannot give that to ourselves? Biggest reason I'm afraid to date, and avoid it altogether, is that in my state of mind I would most likely attract the wrong type. It's my history and it will continue to repeat until, if, I become healthier spiritually.
Its fine be honestIt would depend on the disability. I assume of course that you mean physical rather than mental. That said, if I am being perfectly honest, it's not likely. I feel bad saying that, but it's the plain truth. If we really clicked and they had other appealing qualities, I would consider it, but the bar would be really high.
I'm not much of a catch either though, so it's not really a loss on your part.
I imagine acceptance would be very hard as well as adapting to it. Sorry you have to deal with this challenge, it is not fair what some of us have to accept and adapt to with a sudden disability that is disfiguring/changes our bodies so much. Mine is not mobility but it is a drastic change to my body and having to adapt to using appliances daily (plus changing the appliance and cleaning the wound that is permanent). So I can imagine your hardship, but mobility challenges seem to be harder to adapt to.No, it's not me. It's a girl who has the same disability. In my case i can't get used to the disability, just can't look in the mirror and get used to a faulty body, i don't feel good like thatnd i won't feel good, i don't feel good in this skin so i want to take it off. I guess i will be spiritually healthy when I get rid of this life
He was able to have sex?He adamantly refused to date anyone bc he said eventually they would want sex
It blows my mind when someone in wheelchair can even be happy, sure it depends on the personality of each individual but feel fine when your body doesn't work properly? i cant. sigh*mobility challenges seem to be harder to adapt to.