I listened to a podcast the other day in which a group of people were discussing a lot of the topics/questions that you have been asking over the past several weeks/months.
They came to the conclusion that the beautiful/happy/successful don't mix well with the ugly/bitter/lazy nowadays. It simply rarely goes or ends well. Look at social media today such as TikTok, Twitter, Instagram, etc. If someone sees a picture of a beautiful person, you will see thousands of negative comments. Same for posts from the happy and/or successful.
I'm not really agreeing or disagreeing with them, but they went on to state people should stay in their lane, whatever that is. Otherwise resentment, jealously, negativity, etc is in your future.
Seek out someone similar in luck as you. Don't try to improve your lot. Life isn't an effing fairytale.
BTW, I'm on disability, and I have zero problems dating women. I project confidence. What I do for a living, or what I did for a living in my case, is just a question. Especially when they realize I'm not stupid. I know how to balance a checkbook, have steady sources of income, etc. Why lie? That's so low. Aim higher. Be better. Simply be yourself. Living a fairytale life of getting new bitches every night is ridiculous.