Venting Can blaming someone in your suicide actually traumatize them?

[MeowTheFlemishCat]

I've seen it thrown around before that naming anyone in your note can cause them lifelong trauma. Do you believe this is accurate/true?

 

[JessIsAlive]

it probably depends on the person

the person who hurt me is so cold and heartless and i think theyll get over my death even knowing they caused it

but i want them to know i sought death to end the pain they caused me

 

[Gangrel]

Yes of course, they can blame themselves, it doesn't seem like it but guilt is an extremely strong emotion. I wanna ctb because ive caused harm in the past against people. I feel so guilty sometimes that i literally want to die.

Someone thinking they killed a person and made them commit suicide is a good enough reason to scar them deeply.

 

[ladylazarus4]

I've seen it thrown around before that naming anyone in your note can cause them lifelong trauma. Do you believe this is accurate/true?

do I think it's always the case? No. But I definitely think that it would be traumatizing for ME if someone killed themself and blamed me. I think most people would be traumatized by that.

 

[Promised Heaven]

Yes, it can.

A suicide note is the last thing a person would ever say, and if after accumulating all those decades, you dedicate your final words to a very specific person out of the thousands you may of spoken to, if they're alive and realize it, will bring them a ton of pain that will haunt them, especially if they were close to you.

This doesn't mean such power should be easily weaponized without a good cause (Naming an abuser).

 

[Mirrory Me]

People can get trauma from any negative experience.

 

[LapseInTime]

I don't think so, especially if they're the sort of person to immediately go "Oh well, look what s/he has done, looks like they were crazy all along".

 

[Morte]

Most people will feel proud of it, they will even have an orgasm while reading your letter

 

[username12345]

I've seen it thrown around before that naming anyone in your note can cause them lifelong trauma. Do you believe this is accurate/true?

If you commit suicide or threaten it to be manipulative then yes that can traumatize people. However, people do commit suicide to get away from bullying, stalking, abuse, etc. People have also been legally help responsible for pushing people to suicide in the past so if someone is really responsible for your death then they traumatized themselves. It's so easy to just not push people to suicide that you don't really need to feel bad for people that push people to suicide.

 

[soonatpeace777888]

I've thought about doing this with my mother in order to hurt her even more mentally. I'm not sure it's a good idea though, I probably won't say anything negative in my notes.

 

[JessIsAlive]

If you commit suicide or threaten it to be manipulative then yes that can traumatize people. However, people do commit suicide to get away from bullying, stalking, abuse, etc. People have also been legally help responsible for pushing people to suicide in the past so if someone is really responsible for your death then they traumatized themselves. It's so easy to just not push people to suicide that you don't really need to feel bad for people that push people to suicide.

indeed, if they're truly responsible then they traumatized themselves and are facing the natural consequences of their manipulation/abuse

i want to blame my ex in my suicide note not because i think she will care but only to explain why to my family and to clarify it wasn't their faults

 

[astonishedturnip]

Regular people will be traumatized. Abusers, narcissists, sociopaths, etc. not so much, they will rationalize it away.

Of course, when such a thing happens, most of society rushes to assure the blamee that "it's not your fault, the only person responsible for a suicide is the person who commits suicide." So, whether through this or through therapy, they will get absolved and shed the trauma quickly or over time.

Some people would feel trauma their whole life long but I don't think it's as many people as one would believe. Suicide as a form of revenge is pretty useless for this reason imo. And this is coming from someone who was determined to do it because of some gruesome bullying at school.

 

[ladylazarus4]

Most people will feel proud of it, they will even have an orgasm while reading your letter

what the fuck… is this satire? I probably shouldn't be responding to you to give you attention but this is so incorrect

 

[deletedaccount30982]

Yes. It's incredibly traumatic. Unless someone severely abused you I would refrain from blaming them in the note as it will haunt them for the rest of their life. The weight of someone's death is incredibly heavy. Using it as a manipulation tactic or to intentionally hurt someone without very good reason is awful.

 

[Ol Messier 87]

At the same time, if you find yourself accused in these terms in a suicide note, I'd say that in 9 cases out of 10 you probably deserve it.
At least I imagine.