Black and white thinking

[prototypian]

I have severe black and white thinking. I live with it all day:

If I don't completely this perfectly and on time I am a failure. Because I was not a success 10 years ago I am a failure. If I have to do this (insert whatever) I should kill myself.

I think about it all the time whether I want to or not.

 

[Nuance]

https://yourlogicalfallacyis.com/black-or-white (JK this isn't a Reddit argument)

I know it's tough to sway those thoughts. When you do something, you feel like a failure for doing so. When you don't... Just the same.

What is to continue living another day but a compilation of small successes that amount to your entire life? If the bad is always at the back of your every thought; why not try to push the good alongside it? You know, like a scale, deliberating the pros and cons.

If how you're feeling isn't tied to anyone other than yourself, think about it as rebuilding a ship. Plank by plank you can shape it into something different and yet, it will still be you. There's no universal method for that, I wish you could find advise from thousands of people and pick the one that suits you best but at the end of the day it is personalized. Personally? I kind of embraced nihilism in the positive way, hard to mold you way of thinking to not focus on the bad stuff but certainly not impossible.

 

[DefinitelyReady]

Something is better than nothing? You didn't get this way overnight; therefore it won't change by tomorrow. Life isn't black or white. Having it all or nothing sets you up to fail. It's unattainable and unrealistic. :/