be wary of potential suicide 'partners' with an agenda

[Kalista]

i'm getting sick of the fake intentions these people have -- pretending they also want to die with you when they clearly have something else in mind.
be careful of people who responds to your suicide partner request as they may only be after one thing and that's not to die with you.

these are just a few things to watch out for. it may not be true all the time, but be cautious still. being a little paranoid is not a bad thing in this kind of environment.
- rapid increase in the number of posts when they've only joined within the day.
- their private messages consist of an attempt to 'save' you in a subtle or sometimes obvious way
- the conversation slowly leads to them asking you for an sn source, then stops talking to you after not providing any
- watch out for inconsistencies of information between their pm and public posts.
- if you're female, be prepared for men with an agenda. this forum is no different from any other social media sites

the partners megathread is mostly a joke. too many users with an agenda. i'm still hoping to find a partner, but it looks like i really will be leaving by myself.

 

[opheliaoveragain]

Bump for visibility. This is all EXTREMELY true. I've experienced the same thing with randoms DMing and eventually trying to source as well as the crazy amount of posts for how old an account is. BE CAREFUL EVERYONE.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

We've had actual predators on this site in the past and the partners thread has always been a bad idea imo.

 

[Chinaski]

We've had actual predators on this site in the past and the partners thread has always been a bad idea imo.

Absolutely right, there's no need for the "partners" thread to exist particularly given its use as a smorgasbord for actual murderers, there is presently a thread about "bad discord actors" which suggests an undefined but serious degree of threat, scammers have long circled these waters, sharks swim here - your presence here marks you as vulnerable by definition, when anyone approaches you as a friend the first question you should ask yourself is "why?"

 

[_AllCatsAreGrey_]

This podcast recently had an episode of a warning case from ASH days. It's def important to be cautious.

https://casefilepodcast.com/case-295-nadia-kajouji-mark-drybrough/

 

[willitpass]

I've always stood firm that the partners thread is a bad idea for more reasons than one. Bad PR, for one. But more importantly the danger aspect. You have no clue who you're meeting up with other than the fact that you met them on a website looking to kill yourself. There are so many ways that could go wrong. Even if you both are truly looking to CTB if one of you survives you are likely going to jail. Most people here are unwell, and you never know what kind of unwell. They very much could be paranoid, hallucinating, homicidal. Or they could be mentally with it and just flat out a disgusting human being looking to take advantage of vulnerable people. It never should have existed IMO.

 

[Chinaski]

.Bad PR, for one.

Quite. Hoping the outriders for this website will someday understand "PR" is not far off hoping a dog will someday make you an omelette

 

[maniac116]

That's really sad & awful

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Particularly be careful of the "one" who claims to have 4 bottles, or 8, or whatever it is, of Halatal and is looking for someone to come to their country and "share" it. I have no evidence that the listing is fake, but I'd still be suspicious. They keep posting over and over in the Partner Megathread, but have very little activity, if any, anywhere else in the forum.

 

[BornByGhosts]

- if you're female, be prepared for men with an agenda. this forum is no different from any other social media sites

lmao wow, just, wow. i can't even anymore

 

[DrinkyCrow]

when anyone approaches you as a friend the first question you should ask yourself is "why?"

I'm already two steps ahead of you, thanks to being bullied as a kid.

Jokes aside, i also noticed some of this.

And it might be just me always assuming the worst, but the guys only specifically looking for women always make me wonder about the real intentions behind that. And i say that as a man (more or less at least) myself.

 

[Downdraft]

As you see mods that thread always did more harm, we request to get it closed.

 

[Ashu]

I've always stood firm that the partners thread is a bad idea for more reasons than one. Bad PR, for one. But more importantly the danger aspect. You have no clue who you're meeting up with other than the fact that you met them on a website looking to kill yourself. There are so many ways that could go wrong. Even if you both are truly looking to CTB if one of you survives you are likely going to jail. Most people here are unwell, and you never know what kind of unwell. They very much could be paranoid, hallucinating, homicidal. Or they could be mentally with it and just flat out a disgusting human being looking to take advantage of vulnerable people. It never should have existed IMO.

I guess people with a genuine wish to partner can always find each other without a special forum.

 

[ForgottenAgain]

It could be very comforting to ctb with someone else that has pure intentions, but even if all goes well and the person is honest, if one of you fail to die, then the survivor is going to jail and that's just not worth the risk imo...

 

[rozeske]

Partnering might have it's benefits and there are people that look for it but the potential risks surrounding it and the precautions needed goes without saying. There are the obvious risks to consider but what some people don't understand is discussing suicide is one thing but actually witnessing death might be more than what you bargained for and may end bad.

 

[uglyugly]

Even if both parties really plan to ctb and one fails, the fallout for the survivor would not be good. I would not ever trust anyone I did not know in person for years.

 

[Marco77]

It's all risky. But there are people who would never commit suicide without a partner, due to lack of courage or otherwise. If there are two of them and one helps the other with a gunshot and then throws himself from a skyscraper, there isn't much risk. Or if a couple throws themselves under a train. In Russia there was the case of a boy who cut the throats of three friends and then hanged himself in full suspension. Death is almost guaranteed and everyone is happy. Of course you can also find dangerous people or scammers, but that's all in life.

 

[Davey40210]

I'm also additionally quite worried about people somehow "outing" you, like figuring out who you are and then blackmailing or something. Or perhaps like a police trying to get you to partner up and then arrest you for supporting suicide. Perhaps I'm being paranoid.

Somehow I would feel like there would be safety in numbers.. if we would meet up in a group of 5 or something. If anyone has a plan to do that I would join. But even then I would be worried about people having multiple accounts.

But it would be nice to partner up and get some support through the experience.

I'm also additionally quite worried about people somehow "outing" you, like figuring out who you are and then blackmailing or something. Or perhaps like a police trying to get you to partner up and then arrest you for supporting suicide. Perhaps I'm being paranoid.

Somehow I would feel like there would be safety in numbers.. if we would meet up in a group of 5 or something. If anyone has a plan to do that I would join. But even then I would be worried about people having multiple accounts.

But it would be nice to partner up and get some support through the experience.

And on that, I am just wondering - how would you approach this to ensure it is legit? Perhaps reach out over chat but then have phone calls or something? Or how to go about this so you are able to get a support from a partner with minimum risk of the above negative things?

 

[lnlybnny]

A lot of people here are very naive from what I've seen. They believe almost anything without critical thinking

 

[Next]

This post really touches me again. He shows me once again that SaSu's community is awake and self-critical. Not everyone who communicates on PMT has CTB intention, that's what I've been able to gain experience from. On the other hand, I have also had the experience that honorable partners choose someone else, which is completely okay in such an important matter. Despite all the risks and additional burdens associated with it, I still hope to find a reliable CTB partner this way. This hope in my heart has long given me the strength to get through today, the week and the month.

 

[Emeralds]

I don't know why anybody thinks that the partners mega thread is a good idea. I'm surprised that the mods haven't gotten rid of it especially with all of the attention the site is getting. It's one thing that actually makes the site look like a death cult.