Be careful: My desire to be loved and have companionship led to people taking advantage me

[FireFox]

When I started my job I was 25 at the time and I befriended two older work colleagues. First was the 55 year old man who I ended up failing deeply in love with and the older woman colleague is a mother whoose kids are the same as age me. She is a black woman just like me. Everyone at work respected her and she was good at her job. I looked up to her. Both these work colleagues knew how lonely I was because I was open about my loneliness and I struggled to fit in at work.

The man when I met him he was open about being upset over spending Christmas by himself being unmarried, childless and grieving for death of his elderly father. Since he had nobody I sent him a Christmas card. He liked it. Around December we did bond at work. I liked how special he made me feel all my life guys ignored and now finally someone notices me. We both confidened in each other about our issues. Once he got back with his on/off partner for 20 years he completely distanced himself from me. It was so cruel the pain he put me through after I worked out how he uses women. The man spread lies about me to our boss

The women I was always good to her at work and we had common interests. When I told her about my heartbreak involving the man. After promising me she wouldn't say anything she went to the man and told him ALL the contents of our private conversation. Unfortunately I really insulted the man in our private conversation. Her gossip spread across the workplace.

before I got fired my final days at work was pure hell because of these two people. They knew how vulnerable I was and they took advantage. I hate my naivety. Don't make my mistake

 

[lookingforsanctuary]

That sounds awful. But it's not your fault. Trust is a good thing, you have a good and open heart, it's not your fault they took advantage of you. You will learn now to be a little more careful with yourself.

 

[FuneralCry]

It's true that you cannot trust people in this world and rely on them, I guess that the best thing is not to be too trusting as this could very easily just lead to more suffering. It's so awful how other people can very easily just make existing much worse.