Discussion Autistic and having s**

[Fire&Ash]

I'm on the autism spectrum. I figure I could ask this question since this whole forum is about death lol. I'm afraid of sex. I don't enjoy kissing. I just don't like being touched but I know it's important. Does anyone drink or take anything to make it more enjoyable or bearable? I just feel gross and feel like I would rather not do it but I want a relationship

 

[Adûnâi]

How do you know you hate kissing? Have you tried?

If you're a female, you could maybe try getting your feet kissed instead? That's far away from the vital organs. (I'm autistic myself, but of course have never tried anything aside from chatting with AI.)

 

[mrpeter]

i think this means you're asexual

 

[kuchenn1238]

I'm on the autism spectrum. I figure I could ask this question since this whole forum is about death lol. I'm afraid of sex. I don't enjoy kissing. I just don't like being touched but I know it's important. Does anyone drink or take anything to make it more enjoyable or bearable? I just feel gross and feel like I would rather not do it but I want a relationship

i am also autistic and i became an alcoholic in the blink of an eye, i highly advise against alcohol to help with social interactions specially to people on the spectrum since it becomes a habit real fast.

Just be yourself and wait for the right one to come.

 

[dqngerous]

consider doing some research on the aroace spectrum.

 

[albert_camus]

Hell no, you don't have to do anything you're not comfortable with. Relationships are not necessarily sexual, maybe you're asexual and there are other people who are preferring a romantic but asexual relationship.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I misread the title and thought it said "Autistic and having to s**". I was going to suggest going to the toilet if you needed to shit so badly that you felt the need to make a thread about it. I'm kind of disappointed that this isn't what this thread is about...

 

[Fire&Ash]

How do you know you hate kissing? Have you tried?

If you're a female, you could maybe try getting your feet kissed instead? That's far away from the vital organs. (I'm autistic myself, but of course have never tried anything aside from chatting with AI.)

Ya I've missed and made out before it was nice but now it's unbearable

Ya I've missed and made out before it was nice but now it's unbearable

"Kissed and made out"

 

[lassie]

I'm on the autism spectrum. I figure I could ask this question since this whole forum is about death lol. I'm afraid of sex. I don't enjoy kissing. I just don't like being touched but I know it's important. Does anyone drink or take anything to make it more enjoyable or bearable? I just feel gross and feel like I would rather not do it but I want a relationship

i'm in a loving relationship despite feeling similarly. my partner enjoys physical intimacy a lot (including sex), but we discussed how unpleasant it is for me. communication is the most important piece in making any relationship function. all of my feelings were understood and respected. it even gave me a safe space to decide what levels of touch i actually find enjoyable: light kisses on the crown of my head, gentle hugging through baggy clothing, and holding my partner's jacket sleeve while we go on walks are all lovely things i get to experience now.

trying to force yourself to have sex is scary, gross, and painful. it doesn't feel far from someone else forcing it on you. please trust me when i say you'll find someone who loves you as you are. nothing is wrong with you.

 

[nameeater]

i'm autistic i don't enjoy sex or any kind of romantic intimacy at all i think it's quite common i don't drink though

 

[endofline2010]

Most importantly, don't do anything you don't want to. Almost equally important is for you to be honest and up front about your feelings to any potential partners.

This is 100% a deal breaker for a lot of people, and that's totally normal. You're going to have to find someone who basically feels the same. If they don't, and acquiesce to your feelings, they will just wind up resenting you.

 

[Adûnâi]

Is it my impression, or are asexuals exclusively female?

 

[dqngerous]

Is it my impression, or are asexuals exclusively female?

no, however i think it may be more common in women due to sexual trauma