Autism can ruin one's life

[tration7]

"The one shot I had at life is ruined all because of asperger's and there's nothing I can do about it. I don't know how much longer I can take this." Link

Another sign of autism is Not understanding social "rules", such as not talking over people

 

[hans0solo]

yeah. It took me a few decades to realize. and then it slowly made more sense. I looked for videos, book, and articles on it. I had to relearn how to act and how to talk to people. and joined a aspie social club.

 

[chocolatebar]

Just got diagnosed with autism yesterday and, while it explains a lot of my life, I feel like it was mostly ruined by it, especially because I'm too old now to live some change

 

[FuneralCry]

I have autism as well and I was diagnosed when I was very young. It is hard to live in a world that I am not meant for. I have always struggled to cope with life and I have been suffering my entire life. I will personally only find peace in death.

 

[rabbitlinnt10]

Ya it sucks especially when you have some things you had going for you that are gonna go to waste that you could've put to use to have a great experiences if you didn't have it. Life is a joke smh

 

[chocolatebar]

I have autism as well and I was diagnosed when I was very young. It is hard to live in a world that I am not meant for. I have always struggled to cope with life and I have been suffering my entire life. I will personally only find peace in death.

Do you think things would be worse if you only found out about autism much later in life?

 

[thedaywillcome]

All inborn conditions can make life painful, not just autism.

 

[jimmy7754]

Getting older does too

 

[Crazy4u]

I have some of the signs above but was never diagnosed with anything. In my case, my life was ruined before it started. There is no hope

 

[that_guy2611]

Ah fuck i tick most of these boxes. What do i do now ?

 

[chocolatebar]

Getting older does too

Every time I see a calendar , younger people, or something that brings me some memories, I want to ctb so badly... time is the worst of all problems, because there's no solution :(

However, this thread is focused on discussing autism. Perhaps, we can begin another one to discuss getting old. What do you think?

 

[FuneralCry]

Do you think things would be worse if you only found out about autism much later in life?

No, it would just be the same. I would still be living a miserable existence filled with suffering. Being diagnosed with autism did not change anything for me.

 

[710]

Although I've never been diagnosed with autism, I've often wondered if I'm somewhere on the spectrum. I've always had social anxiety and have not done well when trying to relate to others.

 

[ceserasera]

Can't relate to the autism community on mainstream social media like twitter etc. They talk about it being a 'superpower' and expect everyone to be so happy and relived to find out they're autistic. I'm not happy about it and I don't need anyone trying to make me happy about it. All it's meant for me is that my suffering is baked in to my existence. Even supposed healthcare professionals don't care about your suffering when you have an ASD diagnosis because apparently everything is to do with Autism and because it can't be cured there's apparently no point trying to make your life less painful. Honestly screw it. Oh and then there's the way every 'misunderstanding' is blamed on you. People use ASD as a stick to beat you with. It gives permission to people to mistreat you.

 

[SpenceGence]

Can't relate to the autism community on mainstream social media like twitter etc. They talk about it being a 'superpower' and expect everyone to be so happy and relived to find out they're autistic. I'm not happy about it and I don't need anyone trying to make me happy about it. All it's meant for me is that my suffering is baked in to my existence. Even supposed healthcare professionals don't care about your suffering when you have an ASD diagnosis because apparently everything is to do with Autism and because it can't be cured there's apparently no point trying to make your life less painful. Honestly screw it. Oh and then there's the way every 'misunderstanding' is blamed on you. People use ASD as a stick to beat you with. It gives permission to people to mistreat you.

You couldn't have said it better. There's a plague of people down playing the overwhelming negatives of being on the spectrum. I think it's great that there's a good chunk of people with ASD that like it in their life, but it's far from an accurate reflection of life on the spectrum. There's so much miscommunication out there, like how you pointed out how people think it's a super power, when in reality, being an autistic savant is very rare. I can't blame people too much, given that public education and general knowledge of it is limited, but it still baffles me how much people push aside ASD as a minor inconvenience. Challenges of career building, relationships, and self-fulfillment are all dialed up to 10.

 

[freedompass]

Going out to everyone's favourite high functioning Autist

@FuneralCry wow I never noticed how close the word Autist is to Artist

All I know is…the girl's got talent

 

[tiredone]

Ah fuck i tick most of these boxes. What do i do now ?

Depending where you are, you may be able to seek official diagnosis and support.

Ah fuck i tick most of these boxes. What do i do now ?

Depending where you are, you may be able to seek official diagnosis and support
I am currently waiting for the result of my full assessment. The wait is horrible. It would make so much more sense of my whole life. Another thing its something that my kid is displaying as well. It would explain why my existance is so hard to get by, and why they find it so hard too. No savant skill, just bad traits.

 

[MyLifeisHell]

Autism killed me before I was even before. My dearest wish for humanity's future is that this shit can be eliminated. It's not valuable to humanity, certainly not enough for the suffering it causes to be worth it. No wonder people with it are disproportionately represented in spaces like this one. And that's the hill I'll die on. A hill that autism put me on.

 

[MentalStefan]

I'm autistic and I agree wholeheartdly.

 

[TAW122]

I have it too, and while I'm considered high functioning, my life really sucks overall, being aware of how futile life is and all the suffering (I suppose it is a benefit as well as a curse). Now mind you, I don't want to glorify that having this 'trait' is supposed to be good because in my opinion, the drawbacks outweigh the benefits I get from this. (Then again, in a different universe, different life; had I been neurotypical, I might not have had the critical thinking, introspection, or experiences to be a pro-choicer). I myself have had many lost opportunities, been excluded from groups, circles, and the like (not withstanding the other problems in life) just from the lack of social awareness and not knowing how to interact with people. I think most people who don't understand the diagnosis (or even those who do) suffer from some sort of optimism bias, only looking at the ones who have succeeded in life, gotten what they want, or are high profile individual(s) who found success. These "successful" individuals are the exception and not the standard.

 

[hardknocklife]

I'm not diagnosed with autism but I suspect I have been masking pretty much my whole life. It would explain why socializing is seemingly much more tiring for me than other people. I get along with everyone because I just chameleon into whatever they need me to be

 

[Winterreise]

It is. Maturing is difficult. We don't have a feedback loop, or any mechanism correcting our behavior. Few of us are in constructive relationships. Most are worn out by their 40s, from stress, abuse, and unsatisfactory life in general.