Are you single and lonely?

[esoterispeec]

I am :(

 

[Throwawaysoul]

Sometimes I get lonely. But I instantly snap out of it with the thoughts of all the bullshit I would have to put up with, if I had a partner.

 

[iwanttodie000]

I am not single, but I am just as lonely. I am one of those people who is surrounded by people yet lonely as fuck because of my own thoughts and state of mind dealing with my depression/anxiety

 

[Ender]

Both.

 

[booray]

Both. Even lonelier being suicidal and having to hide the fact.

 

[LONE WOLF.]

Single but unwilling to let someone into my heart again! My staffie Max being the only exception!

 

[iwanttodie000]

Both. Even lonelier being suicidal and having to hide the fact.

I feel that. I have a partner and hiding how suicidal i am from them and everyone is exhausting. I'm starting to slip and let people in on that a little bit and I don't want to because I don't want anything to come in the way of ctb. But I still hide it to my partner, my parents, my family etc. They know I suffer from depression, but have no idea how on the verge of ctb i am

 

[Loser47]

I don't know maybe I just miss sex

 

[feast or famine]

I don't care about being single at this moment in my life. I miss having solid friendships more than anything. Too much attention is paid to romantic relationships. A lot people forget just how important it is to have fulfilling friendships with others and how necessary they are for survival.

 

[HappiestDayOfMyLife]

Yes, and I'm tired of it. It's a huge chunk of why I'm suicidal.

 

[who doesn't matter]

Ever since I was born

 

[demuic]

I don't care about being single at this moment in my life. I miss having solid friendships more than anything. Too much attention is paid to romantic relationships. A lot people forget just how important it is to have fulfilling friendships with others and how necessary they are for survival.

That's how I feel. I would rather have a few friends who really understand me than a relationship right now. A relationship is too likely to fail, and end in heartbreak. It's too much work.

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

My only trigger-point is the "tfw no gf". I don't really take psychological damage from my life-situation, lack of friends or anything else. So simple, yet impossible to solve (in my case).

 

[stygal]

For me it's selfmade loneliness most of the time. I feel like I have the inability to connect to people on a deeper level and at times not the mental strength to keep up a "friendship". Sometimes I feel sad about it other times just numb.
I don't know if that will ever change or if I can ever truly connect. I've definitely made some progress (ever since being here) and opened up more... but my own issues seem to hinder me time and time again.
I need to learn to accept the way I am I suppose when it comes to friendships - and definitely want to work on finding "the right ones" (who understand me).
I had a lot of good romantic relationships though (weirdly enough).

 

[sorella santini]

I'm married and lonely. I have a spouse who loves me dearly but will never understand or connect with me the way I need him to.

 

[Hatari]

I am not single but might as well be. Considering we haven't slept in the same bed for 2 years and hasn't touched me in 4 years, it's as good as being alone.

 

[oneanonymous]

I don't care about being single at this moment in my life. I miss having solid friendships more than anything. Too much attention is paid to romantic relationships. A lot people forget just how important it is to have fulfilling friendships with others and how necessary they are for survival.

This is exactly where I'm at. I'm lonely, but it's not about romance for me. I just want a close friendship, and be able to keep it.

 

[Metalhead]

I have no romantic partner, just a few irl friends but none of them know how suicidal I am. A couple of online friends that do know about it.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Yes and I have been my entire life. Not a single romantic experience and I'm already about to turn 27. It only gets really bad when I'm reminded of just how lonely I am and that even some people who are single/lonely now were just lying snakes to me by trying to assume they know how I feel when they've at least already had relationships before.

 

[Gadget_333]

Yes - I got burned when I was 21 and since then seem to destroy any relationship that gets too close. Would like nothing more than loads of friends and a close partner but cannot let myself be there.

 

[it's_all_a_game]

Yeah, I'm lonely. People have rejected and bullied me since I was 13; I haven't had any friends since middle school. All I have is my Mom who mistreats me often. No one loves me either.

 

[muffin222]

Yes

 

[OpheliasFlowers]

I'm married and lonely. I have a spouse who loves me dearly but will never understand or connect with me the way I need him to.

I understand this 100% and am sorry you feel this way. I'm married, but my spouse and I have never had a real connection and he's never understood me like I wish he could and need him to. After years of this kind of disconnect and him getting more and more frustrated by me, and resentful (which I totally understand and don't blame him) and ME feeling resentful towards him for other reasons, our relationship is in irreparable tatters. (Throw the pandemic quarantine in there and that really made everything worse). Anyway, I am more lonely being married to him than I ever felt when I was single. I can't leave though; my health is too bad. I guess all I can say is that when you're with someone but still feel utterly lonely, then you often get that additional layer of resentment added on as well. It sucks.

I am not single but might as well be. Considering we haven't slept in the same bed for 2 years and hasn't touched me in 4 years, it's as good as being alone.

I understand, my friend. It's been years since I shared a bed with my husband (although to be honest, that part doesn't bother me so much) but I do miss the feeling of connection with another person, mentally and physically (not even meaning sexual - just a good long hug would be nice.)

I'm sorry you're in the situation you are. <3

 

[oneanonymous]

I understand this 100% and am sorry you feel this way. I'm married, but my spouse and I have never had a real connection and he's never understood me like I wish he could and need him to. After years of this kind of disconnect and him getting more and more frustrated by me, and resentful (which I totally understand and don't blame him) and ME feeling resentful towards him for other reasons, our relationship is in irreparable tatters. (Throw the pandemic quarantine in there and that really made everything worse). Anyway, I am more lonely being married to him than I ever felt when I was single. I can't leave though; my health is too bad. I guess all I can say is that when you're with someone but still feel utterly lonely, then you often get that additional layer of resentment added on as well. It sucks.

I understand, my friend. It's been years since I shared a bed with my husband (although to be honest, that part doesn't bother me so much) but I do miss the feeling of connection with another person, mentally and physically (not even meaning sexual - just a good long hug would be nice.)

I'm sorry you're in the situation you are. <3

I've experienced this too when I was married. We were only married for five years, but lived together for eight.. so, felt like we were married for eight years. The last year or two, I slept on the couch and he slept in the bed. We didn't have sex at all the last year we were together. I knew that I wasn't even in love with him, even when we got married, although I did love him. I was afraid to leave him because even though there was a disconnect and I knew he wasn't my one true love or anything like that, he was still the closest friend I've ever had. Which was kind of depressing.

I've never been with someone I've had a genuinely huge crush on. There was someone that came a little close, but it only lasted two months and I think we only saw each other maybe four times. He ended up being a dick though and I lost interest him pretty quickly. So even though I've been in relationships before, I don't really know what's like to be with someone I'm head over heels for.

 

[HappyForever?]

Yes, and it's my major reason for wanting to die.

 

[Ashley_1988]

I am also both. But one of my issues are not being able to let someone in in a romatic way. That´s at least what my friends, family are telling me. And I guss I started to buy into that idea- that if i had a romantic partner- i would not feel so lonely. But than again many at that platform who are actually are in a relationship were describing in a comprehensive way that being in a relationship dos not mean not being alone.
And I guess i get their point, hence I actually am capable to have platonic but profound frindships- but nevertheless i know the feeling beeing among friends in a room full of loving people - but still feeling allone and not understood. I know it is also kind of my fault to not talk about the deep stuff- but i am positve that they could never get me..and than again their only answear would be "get a boy or a girlfriend" you feel better if u are in a relationship...

 

[Marktheghost]

I'm single and lonely.

 

[Sslsh]

I personally think getting into a non-platonic relationship is like buying an iphone. Its overrated and the excitement incrementally starts reducing from the moment you step out of the store. Plus if you are depressed without a relationship then there is a good possibility that you will be even more depressed post the "honeymoon period", once you enter a relationship. You could argue that it's like that fox and sour grapes story but this works for me ;_;

 

[x~Sophia~x]

I am not single but might as well be. Considering we haven't slept in the same bed for 2 years and hasn't touched me in 4 years, it's as good as being alone.

Do you feel able to share why you've stayed with your partner?

 

[StringPuppet]

Yes but I'm hoping I can get over it because I have no use for a relationship really. Loneliness just seems like the mind's way of trying to get you to procreate.