Are you a loner who sometimes gets lonely ?

[pauly369]

Im a loner, and always have been. Yet sometimes I get lonely, its like Im a contradiction of sorts.
I used to be a misanthrope , yet I realised that I dont actually hate people, Im just very disappointed with society in general.
Being around people is very draining for me but sometimes I wish I had a friend or partner, someone I could really love and trust.
Does anyone else feel this way ?

 

[LimpandNumb]

I understand. I find being around people is good for my mental health but it is draining isn't it. So much bull to figure out and people say things that they have no intention of following up with, yet I'm suppose to know that... that's a social norm. 'Oh next time we will grab a coffee have a catch up' yet I know next time doesn't happen so why say it? Why get my hopes up?
I'm fortunate I suppose I have a few people in my life I can trust but I find the majority of people are just full of shit. I guess that's society in general. All this positivity it's exhausting.
Saying that, I will appear positive myself, easier than sharing the truth.
I probably haven't answered your Q but this came to mind.

 

[CatLvr]

You would think the way I can work a room that would be true but actually, no. Someone recently asked me to describe myself and I said the old crone who lives in the woods WAY far back where no one goes, with her pets (dogs and cats here but I would like to think all the birds, foxes, ocelots, etc. too) and her garden. I NEVER leave my house except for doctors' appointments, my weekly meet-up with my son, and when the husband MAKES me go to dinner with him. He says he is taking out but we both know we are going out because he wants to go and doesn't like to eat alone in public. I would be perfectly happy if the only people I ever saw again in my life were my son, his girlfriend and her children.

 

[NonEssential]

Sometimes I guess. I've realized for me it is mostly just because friends/a partner are something I'd need to have if I want to seem like less of a loser/outcast. I've never had a crush on anyone and currently at school I don't really see anybody who I actually would wish to befriend.

 

[steveholt]

I have a partner and my best friend (my dog)
And 2 good mates but ive have been lonley and truly alone for the last 21 years,
i never got to see my daughter grow up..

 

[Daenerys Targaryen]

Every day, the forum is the only help and support I have, thanks sasu

 

[CatLvr]

Every day, the forum is the only help and support I have, thanks sasu

You know, you have reminded me of how I was when I first came here. I am married but I literally have no one. He is only concerned with me when I inconvenience him in some way.

Anyway, I wasn't really bothered with being a loner. I did miss my children (another long sordid tale) but they are all adults now, with their own lives, so I didn't want to bother them. Things I read here about doing "the deed" and what should or should not be done beforehand in the way of not leaving a mess for anyone caused me to contact my children -- whom I had not seen in almost 20 years.

I know have a son back in my life, as well as his family. If it hadn't been for SaSu that would NEVER have happened because I would never have summoned the courage to contact any of them. And now, I am in recovery mode. That's me!! Come to a suicide forum and it saves my life. I swear I am ALWAYS doing things backwards!

So, anyway, I stay here now because I owe this place so much. And I have made friends here. Friends I hope will stay with me for a long LONG time, and if they chose not to, for whatever reasons, then I will do what I can to support them. I will be heartbroken if they go but I will also understand better than a lot of people who've never been where we are ever could.

 

[Daenerys Targaryen]

Thanks, darling. It seems like no one understands us outside of here, and it's true. We support and help each other in every way we can, even if we can't do more.

You know, you have reminded me of how I was when I first came here. I am married but I literally have no one. He is only concerned with me when I inconvenience him in some way.

Anyway, I wasn't really bothered with being a loner. I did miss my children (another long sordid tale) but they are all adults now, with their own lives, so I didn't want to bother them. Things I read here about doing "the deed" and what should or should not be done beforehand in the way of not leaving a mess for anyone caused me to contact my children -- whom I had not seen in almost 20 years.

I know have a son back in my life, as well as his family. If it hadn't been for SaSu that would NEVER have happened because I would never have summoned the courage to contact any of them. And now, I am in recovery mode. That's me!! Come to a suicide forum and it saves my life. I swear I am ALWAYS doing things backwards!

So, anyway, I stay here now because I owe this place so much. And I have made friends here. Friends I hope will stay with me for a long LONG time, and if they chose not to, for whatever reasons, then I will do what I can to support them. I will be heartbroken if they go but I will also understand better than a lot of people who've never been where we are ever could.

Thanks, darling. It seems like no one understands us outside of here, and it's true. We support and help each other in every way we can, even if we can't do more.

 

[Pluto]

 

[pauly369]

I have a partner and my best friend (my dog)
And 2 good mates but ive have been lonley and truly alone for the last 21 years,
i never got to see my daughter grow up..

Yes, dogs are wonderful.
They give lots of love and never let you down.
Unlike most humans.

 

[LonelyMe]

Im a loner, and always have been. Yet sometimes I get lonely, its like Im a contradiction of sorts.
I used to be a misanthrope , yet I realised that I dont actually hate people, Im just very disappointed with society in general.
Being around people is very draining for me but sometimes I wish I had a friend or partner, someone I could really love and trust.
Does anyone else feel this way ?

Yup, I feel that way too.

 

[Forever Sleep]

It's rare for me. The vast majority of the time, I am ok alone and, I am alone most of the time. It's more that I wonder if I could have been happier if I'd been more social. Especially if I happen to have a good interaction with someone, it makes me wonder. Thankfully though, it's not an aching type of loneliness for me at the moment. It's more a curiosity. Really though, I find I do enjoy being alone and I almost feel a need for it overall.

 

[Shadows From Hell]

I rather like being alone. No bullshit from other people, fake friends, and so forth. SaSu is the only circle of friends(so to speak) that I have

 

[LoveroftheDark]

I'm kind of a weird case, because I hardly feel anything for anyone, nevertheless I still have some friends, but maintaining the friendship is way above my capabilities. So I'm not sure if this counts as a friendship. More like charity cases.
Also most of my friends are weird themselves, not as much as I am but still have experienced what's it like to feel different.

Im a loner, and always have been. Yet sometimes I get lonely, its like Im a contradiction of sorts.
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Does anyone else feel this way ?

Yes, I do feel this too. Like I know for me it's best to self-isolate not to hurt anyone, also I am a loner because I just am, but that doesn't mean sometimes I envy people with girlfriends, or best friends. Like it seems to me like it is so easy for them, but completely out of reach for me.

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That's such a cute kitten, I wish I could comfort it

 

[SickNSad2024]

I am a loner but I am not that lonely. I prefer being alone than being with people who hurt me.

At the same time, message me if you are lonely. I could use someone to talk to. My cat of 13 years died a few months ago and someone gave me a new kitten, but it's just not the same. It feels like someone ripped my soul out.

 

[EgoBrained]

I have been a total loner for years now. For the majority of that time, I have felt content being alone, but in the past couple of months, it seems that it has finally started to affect me. Thinking about how I have no one else that can understand me and with whom I can share my emotions leaves me feeling hurt, knowing that, as I am now, I will never be able to find someone else, especially when it comes to finding someone I can cherish, and who will cherish me in return.

The feelings I'm experiencing are similar to what I can only describe as grief, even though I do not know what it is that I am grieving for. Perhaps it's the person that I could have been, had I possessed the strength to change myself.