Discussion Are you a incel?

[-Tandem-]

Absolutely not. Not with anyone currently but have had plenty of partners and 3 gf's. Personally it hasn't changed a goddamn thing for me. I wish fixing all this was as simple as getting some pussy. It's like anything else. A quick dopamine hit and then you're back to square one.

 

[Just_Another_Person]

I think the forum should change its name to "Sanctioned Homicide" the way Roseate is murdering these incels/misogynists

 

[EG1141]

Am I a virgin? Yes. Am I an incel? Absolutely not, I do not want to be related to that term at all.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I think the forum should change its name to "Sanctioned Homicide" the way Roseate is murdering these incels/misogynists

Not really. Saying shit like "just grow up" and telling someone that their negative assumptions of them were right isn't "murdering these incels", it's just reacting aggressively towards them. None of these points acknowledge things, like the specific societal expectations in place, that lead to incels being incels. It instead treats the issue as a completely individualistic one, rather than as, in part, a reflection of our failings as a society. I don't like incels either and I'm not going to pretend as though I haven't reacted similarly to them before, but this type of reaction isn't helpful, especially when they aren't being that misogynistic under this particular thread. Hell, I'd argue that @Dr Iron Arc is less of an incel, despite calling himself that, and is more of just a normal virgin with self-esteem issues (I view incel as being a label that applies more to a specific subset of male virgins who typically tend to be misogynistic and hostile towards others).

 

[Deleted member 8119]

I'm a girl

Noooo!!! You're supposed to be Jon Arbuckle!!!!!

It shows that you never were loved as a child or you were neglected or mistreated as a child so you look to other people for love.

Sorry, but I can't take you seriously and I'm not the only one. The way you pull out assumptions straight from nowhere, generalize without a shred of evidence and pass your opinion as a fact with no base or attempt to know anything is hardly what I'd call a win. Respectfully, this posts are so full of BS I genuinely regret reading them, but this one is just the icing on the cake.

You don't look wise. You don't look smart. And near the whole thread is disgusted by your posts. Even I, who dislike incels like no one else here, can't find any value at all in anything you said last the first post.

BTW: suicide can be a choice, many could do recovery if they wanted, and your barriers are based in baseless subjectivism. Throw all the tantrums you want. Cover it with as much pseudo-morality as you want. You're empirically wrong.

 

[Unspoken7612]

I reject "incel ideology".

I am aware that I could very easily have sex and I choose not to.

I would like to have sex within the context of a mutually-loving relationship with someone I admire and respect. Unfortunately that is considerably harder than just having sex. For a long time, I thought I'd find the right person sooner or later, but that no longer seems realistic.

 

[Chr0nicAnhedonic]

I fit the most common definitions of incel (my only real sexual experience was I sucked a guy's dick once in high school), but I'm not sure if I can/want to necessarily call myself one.

Putting aside its negative connotations with certain kinds of men, the title "incel" implies that it's not for a lack of trying or that it's the fault of everyone but that individual. That just doesn't resonate with me, the problem is squarely with me. I'm a trans enby who is reasonably attractive and could probably score some easy hookups if I really wanted/tried, but I don't. I'm the kind of person who needs intimacy and closeness in a relationship, and my horrific personality ensures that people stay away from me. I feel like there ought to be an alternate term for these kinds of cases, but I'm not sure nor could I provide any myself.

 

[pyx]

I fit the most common definitions of incel (my only real sexual experience was I sucked a guy's dick once in high school), but I'm not sure if I can/want to necessarily call myself one.

Putting aside its negative connotations with certain kinds of men, the title "incel" implies that it's not for a lack of trying or that it's the fault of everyone but that individual. That just doesn't resonate with me, the problem is squarely with me. I'm a trans enby who is reasonably attractive and could probably score some easy hookups if I really wanted/tried, but I don't. I'm the kind of person who needs intimacy and closeness in a relationship, and my horrific personality ensures that people stay away from me. I feel like there ought to be an alternate term for these kinds of cases, but I'm not sure nor could I provide any myself.

the term you are looking for is volcel

 

[Trav1989]

But wouldn't that make you not an incel? Choosing to find love before having sex is not really involuntary? It's a choice. And it has nothing to do with love or not finding someone. Love is rare and finding someone who is for the long haul is even more rare for both genders. People want something easy and low effort and don't want to pour into anything or even give their hearts, they'd rather play game. So if that's the case then most of the world would be incels, right? Cuz a lot of people are choosing to be single than do exactly what you say you don't want to do. Maybe you don't understand the meaning of the word.

I guess I didn't understand the meaning of the word in all honesty. I've never actually ran into the word before or met anyone who claims to be such so I guess I was out of my element in regards to this threads subject matter admittedly.

Thanks for filling me in though.

 

[legoshi]

Yeah, sadly. I have trouble communicating and I'm not very outgoing. I also tend to keep to myself and don't go out, so meeting women is kind of nonexistent for me.

 

[Reflection]

Technically, yes...my girlfriend left me a year ago and I havent been able to get over her since...although I could get into another relationship, I shouldnt nor do I want to...(un)fortunately I am going down with this ship.

 

[Roseate]

I guess I didn't understand the meaning of the word in all honesty. I've never actually ran into the word before or met anyone who claims to be such so I guess I was out of my element in regards to this threads subject matter admittedly.

Thanks for filling me in though.

Wanting to be in a long term relationship is normal, I know hookup culture have skewed peoples mindset but it's normal.

 

[Fragile_]

By your definition yes and no at the same time. I got exposed to porn at very young age and that led to long term addiction with severe consequences.
So yeah, I fucked myself up but I had no idea what effects porn is going to have on me since I was just a lil curious kid

 

[sceáwere]

yes, i'm an incel because i'm a profoundly dysgenic man who has absolutely no hope of ever finding love due to my hideous appearance and my utter lack of social skills