Are you a good person?

[3AM]

I know it's a very random question, but do you think you're are a good person? and it would be better if you could give a reason too.

 

[redkitsune98]

I like to believe I am. I try to always be gentle, nice and helpful, and even go out of my way to make sure others are comfortable and fine. I never did any crimes nor did I make anyone do too much for me. I even neglected myself and my own need for help not to bother others. I keep to myself, try to be polite to strangers...

But you know what that got me? Absolutely nothing. None of my dreams came true, I had to deal with everything on my own and all of my failures felt like I wasn't good enough to succeed anyway.

Even recently, when for the first time in my life I had something good and wanted to be selfish and keep that something, that someone, in my life, I was instead just discarded like trash, without even having a chance to say goodbye or to understand why he made that choice.

Even though I was always the best, most caring, loving and giving person, he still chose to hate me and abandon me when I needed him the most.

Being good never gets you anywhere, and instead of rewards, all you get are punishments.

 

[graysme]

I don't think I am. In recent times, I've lost all faith in humanity and just see people for what they can give me. I and the few people in my life that I love never received help, or compassion. I despise most humans, and I think they are intrinsically evil since birth. So yeah, I've turned into an actor as well, just like everybody else.

 

[LapseInTime]

I know I used to be a good person. I don't really know what I am now since I rarely interact with others. Even if somebody says that they think of me as a good person, I do not believe it. I'd say I am "good" if that means I don't intend to mistreat anyone.

 

[Ganymede]

I'm not. I think watching too many gore videos from a young age kinda messed my brain up.

 

[chester]

Nobody is 100% good or bad. All of us have a dark side and a good side, I've done many things I'm not proud of and I'm sure many people who think good things about me would change their minds if they knew. But this is a part of being human. We all do bad things, the best we can do is minimize damage and learn lessons.

 

[heavyeyes]

No. I think I used to be years ago but I'm too cynical now and I lost my faith in people. I try to be good when I can but if someone treats me badly I'll treat them the same if not worse. I've become quite selfish in recent years too

 

[sancta-simplicitas]

I'm certainly not perfect, but I try my best to be.

 

[wren-briar]

I, like @redkitsune98, believe that I'm overall a good person. I've certainly had many, many people go out of their way to tell me how their lives are better because of things that I've done or said.

I too wasn't "lucky" in love, but I watched a lot of assholes, and straight up abusive individuals, always have people willing to date them. So clearly, being a "good person" didn't do me jack squat in the dating department.

And frankly, the things that I NEEDED out of life, well, there's a reason I'm actively suicidal, so clearly being a good person didn't help on that front either.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I feel like people generally cannot be simplified down into good or bad. I don't like myself and I often consider myself to be a bad person, but I'm aware of the fact that people in general are nuanced, including myself, so technically I'm somewhere in the middle like everyone else. Sometimes, I find myself accepting the fact that I'm just as complex of a person as anyone else, but other times I find myself falling back into my usually self-loathing ways, ruminating over how awful I am. I tend to fixate a lot on my past shitty actions, which there are a lot of, along with my many flaws. In the past, I would stay up late consumed by thoughts about how awful of a person I was. I still get those thoughts sometimes but they aren't as intense as before. Before they caused me to cry myself to sleep. I believed that my existence was a sin, and I don't mean that as an exaggeration. It was a thought that came up a lot. My own beliefs about me being a horrible person were so bad that it would cause me to throw away all logic, believing that the lives of everyone, including complete strangers, would suddenly change for the better if I died.

I still really hate myself (and that'll probably never go away) and I've done some incredibly shitty things. I still find myself feeling like a bad person, but those thoughts are generally nowhere near as intense as before (mostly thanks to me spending my time tripping and shit). I still find myself falling into black-and-white thinking at times but I'm trying to work on it. I feel like a lot of people on here, and in general, really need to stop believing that they are either good or bad. It's a regressive mindset that has a history of leading to people harming themselves and others. Then again, who am I to lecture anyone on this when I'm still guilty of it myself?

 

[killorbekilled]

I don't see a point in being what is considered 'good' by society. I am neither good nor bad, I simply exist. I do not want to be considered 'good' or 'bad' by a society that is internally messed up and always will be. What is considered perfect for one person can be awful for another. If helping someone make a life or death choice about suicide is 'bad,' then I guess most people would consider me crazy.

 

[wondering&wandering]

No. But that doesn't stop me from acting like one.

Every good thing I do is motivated by selfish desires.

 

[Mirrory Me]

I don't feel good but I try to remind myself that I am.

 

[3AM]

I like to believe I am. I try to always be gentle, nice and helpful, and even go out of my way to make sure others are comfortable and fine. I never did any crimes nor did I make anyone do too much for me. I even neglected myself and my own need for help not to bother others. I keep to myself, try to be polite to strangers...

But you know what that got me? Absolutely nothing. None of my dreams came true, I had to deal with everything on my own and all of my failures felt like I wasn't good enough to succeed anyway.

Even recently, when for the first time in my life I had something good and wanted to be selfish and keep that something, that someone, in my life, I was instead just discarded like trash, without even having a chance to say goodbye or to understand why he made that choice.

Even though I was always the best, most caring, loving and giving person, he still chose to hate me and abandon me when I needed him the most.

Being good never gets you anywhere, and instead of rewards, all you get are punishments.

Being good doesn't give you rewards or punishment; it's the people and we ourselves who cause harm to us. We shouldn't be kind and helpful towards others for rewards or for our own good, but instead for humanity. You should be proud of yourself for being better human beings than others, and don't expect any good for your kindness towards others. Don't become like people you despise. I hope you'll find someone who you deserve. Life is long; you'll meet people who'll break you, and you will also meet people who will fill your life with happiness.

I don't think I am. In recent times, I've lost all faith in humanity and just see people for what they can give me. I and the few people in my life that I love never received help, or compassion. I despise most humans, and I think they are intrinsically evil since birth. So yeah, I've turned into an actor as well, just like everybody else.

Don't lose yourself because you didn't meet the right people. Be proud of yourself for being better than those who hurt you.

 

[derpyderpins]

It's a question that has been asked and answered before but it's a good one because it inevitably prompts discussion of what makes one a good person.

I normally say something like this:

I do try to be a good person, whatever that may be. I know I come up short, more often in some areas than others, but I have evidence that I'm good in others. [For bad: reliability and diligence. For good: patience and idk it's hard to say good stuff but good people think well of me so I guess kindness.]

I like to look at it a different way. It's a little easier to identify a bad person. Having worked in a courthouse for a few years I've seen bad people. Not to say anyone who commits a crime is bad, but willfully being able to harm innocent others with no remorse is pretty inarguably bad. Repeating behavior. Targeting the weak. Lacking empathy. And a big one, not trying to improve.

I know that if I met myself, and learned all about myself, I would not put myself in that category. So, while it's hard to argue I am good, I feel pretty confident in saying I am not a "bad" person.

(And yes, as others have said, it's a spectrum, not a black/white. The large majority of the bell curve falls on the slightly-to-the-good-side-but-not-great part, and that's probably where I am.)

(Also, I do think you can reach a point where you are just "bad," though. If you sex traffic children I don't really care if you buy your wife flowers just to surprise her.)

 

[AtheistCDsissy]

I don't think so. I feel like I try to be but in the end I'm pretty selfish and hedonistic. I develop a deep hatred of most people that encounter and I know that's something about me that isn't, "normal" and I don't think its good. Most of the time I feel like an awful POS.

 

[-nobodyknows-]

I don't know. I'd like to be able to say that I am, but I don't really consider myself to be one. I definitely wish I could be though.

 

[wren-briar]

@3AM -

I was never "good" for transactional purposes. Although, I'd also be lying if I said that I never got anything out of it, but that was never the reason that I was "good".

However, watching assholes and abusers win the ladies, bullies get job promotions, scammers scam nice people out of their hard earned savings while they make bank, etc, etc, well, it honest makes you wonder what the point is.

 

[pedrbel8805]

Yes, i think so.

 

[wCvML2]

No, not a good person. I like my comfort way too much and I'm really lazy. I don't have a good solid reason for it other than the hedonistic treadmill and not willing to sacrifice comfort for the greater good. I'm probably average somewhere in the gray area, maybe leaning more to a little bad. I can't really know what the average is.

 

[SVEN]

I don't know about good, however I am harmless.

 

[YandereMikuMistress]

I am a bad person, and if I were to give a resone then I'll have people hating me as much as I hate myself, that's the best explanation I can give at least.

 

[Lost Magic]

I don't think it is black and white as that. Most humans have the capacity for good and bad. All, I can say is: I have done and said things that I am not proud of (especially when I was younger. Growing up was rough). I am trying to be more mindful of what I say and do but it is all a matter of perspective.

 

[FuneralCry]

I'm just someone who was unfortunate enough to be forced into existence, to me existence is what is so bad instead of myself, I personally see it as such a horrific, terrible tragedy to be burdened with this existence, I'd never wish to exist, I was never meant for something as cruel and torturous as existing where there is all this suffering and pain all for the sake of it, I only hope to never exist again.

 

[disjectamembra]

i guess its not up to me to decide that - i could be a good person to one guy and be a bad person to the other. what i feel inside and how i act are completely different and deciding which one to go from is impossible, to me atleast.

 

[AllTheseQuestions]

No. I am objectively a bad person based on my actions. I can blame drugs, addictions whatever, it is me that chose that. It's my responsibility. I have hurt people I love countless times. People that have shown faith in me and believed in me. People that deserve better. My family, my ex, her children.

Being clean makes me realise that no matter what I do, I can never undo the hurt that I have caused. I do not trust myself to not hurt anyone else in the future.

I deserve a painful death, lighting myself on fire would give me some inkling of balance being restored; Karma if you will. But I don't have the guts for it.

I despise myself

 

[3AM]

No. I am objectively a bad person based on my actions. I can blame drugs, addictions whatever, it is me that chose that. It's my responsibility. I have hurt people I love countless times. People that have shown faith in me and believed in me. People that deserve better. My family, my ex, her children.

Being clean makes me realise that no matter what I do, I can never undo the hurt that I have caused. I do not trust myself to not hurt anyone else in the future.

I deserve a painful death, lighting myself on fire would give me some inkling of balance being restored; Karma if you will. But I don't have the guts for it.

I despise myself

You realized your mistakes, and that means a lot. Sure, you can't undo the past, but you can decide your future. You don't deserve death; you deserve a chance—a chance to improve yourself. Give that chance to your inner self who wants to live. Write your future by yourself.

You're clean now, right? That's a big achievement, and you should be proud of that. Don't let your past actions ruin your future; you can write a new and better past for your future self.

 

[futurebuscatcher]

I don't think I am. I feel like I'm an extremely toxic and angry person that's good at pretending to be a good person. I try my best to be kind to those around me but I always feel like I have some ulterior motive or it's not real.

I'm honestly very terrible. I think I am at least

 

[wayn]

I would say overall yes, but it's very relative question to be honest. If you are a lion and kill a zebra just to eat it and feed your little tigers then you would be a good person from their perpective, but you might be bad from the perspection of the zebra's children.

 

[Ramsay Fiction]

I'm not a bad person but I think my morality is too muddy to be considered good, either.