Anyone think how lucky terminally ill patients are when they die?

[Deadinside24]

I always think to myself they get to die and not have to suffer anymore but not only that people around them accept that and make that persons last days joyful. You even get help from the doctor to make sure you die quick and painless.

But here we are not getting any acceptance for our condition, no support from family, no help from doctors to make sure we die quick and painless. We get ridiculed and belittled from people for even contemplating wanting to die just because we aren't in a hospital bed. Then we gotta try to find methods ourselves that are unreliable or can get us thrown in jail.

It's ridiculous how mental illness/depression is not taken seriously by society.

In all honesty I wish I could switch places with them. I wish I could give my life to someone who wants to live.

 

[akosineenee]

In all honesty I wish I could switch places with them. I wish I could give my life to someone who wants to live.

Like many on this thread, I would NEVER wish terminal illness or any form of suffering on anyone. This thought/wish has always crossed my mind though. My great aunt was a cancer survivor and died of kidney failure. My uncle died of brain cancer. My mom from respiratory failure due to her COPD and my dad from cardiac arrest due to sepsis and complications of his diabetes. I have witnessed them suffer and cared for my dying parents. They had such vibrant lives. They all wanted to live and now they're gone. I've always wanted to die and I'm the one left behind. I wish I have the kind of resilience that they had.

 

[medusa]

I always think to myself they get to die and not have to suffer anymore but not only that people around them accept that and make that persons last days joyful. You even get help from the doctor to make sure you die quick and painless.

But here we are not getting any acceptance for our condition, no support from family, no help from doctors to make sure we die quick and painless. We get ridiculed and belittled from people for even contemplating wanting to die just because we aren't in a hospital bed. Then we gotta try to find methods ourselves that are unreliable or can get us thrown in jail.

It's ridiculous how mental illness/depression is not taken seriously by society.

A friend of mine has cancer and DOESN'T want it. Wish I could give her my body and take hers.
I would be lucky to get cancer-I can die peacefully and it is not all my fault

 

[lv-gras]

don't envy them necessarily, because know they usually don't want it and just wish for them to be ok. but do sometimes envy or wish for what they are going through. would sometimes like to be able to take it from them, if that was a thing. would be willing to even endure some of the pain for that. does that make any sense?

 

[BKC]

Been a 24/7 caregiver for my mom for the last year and I've told her more than once. If I get terminal cancer I'm outta here. I'm going to go see some shit and then sit down somewhere with a great view and no people and take myself out. I don't envy the pain of cancer but I do envy It's clarity.

 

[GoingSoonish]

I sometimes have fantasies of being terminally ill in a hospital with lots of morphine in me (to the point where i am completely drugged right up until the point that i die).

I mean no disrespect to the terminally ill. I know they suffer so much and would want to continue living life if they could do so without the suffering they go through.

 

[Lost]

Yes, I still hope my cancer comes back. Even when it hurts. I won't have nothing done anymore. I told that my family but they don't understand and my husband....well he don't care anyway

 

[bigj75]

Yes, I still hope my cancer comes back. Even when it hurts. I won't have nothing done anymore. I told that my family but they don't understand and my husband....well he don't care anyway

People never truly understand something they haven't experienced themselves. So I can't completely be mad at people for that and society as a whole is rigged anyways so I can't expect people to understand. I just gotta keep my mouth shut and plan as best as I can for my ctb.

 

[Iwant2sleepforever]

I wish a terminally ill person who valued their life and didn't want to die could transfer their illness to me, it would be a win win situation to say the least.

 

[bigj75]

I wish a terminally ill person who valued their life and didn't want to die could transfer their illness to me, it would be a win win situation to say the least.

true.

 

[Deleted member 1768]

the terminal illness isn't lucky but the way people treat you when treatment won't help anymore and you gotta die is.

Check out a hospice center for the terminally ill. Guaranteed that you will change your mind...

 

[bigj75]

Check out a hospice center for the terminally ill. Guaranteed that you will change your mind...

you know what I will. I am curious about this.

 

[Deleted member 1768]

I sometimes have fantasies of being terminally ill in a hospital with lots of morphine in me (to the point where i am completely drugged right up until the point that i die).

I mean no disrespect to the terminally ill. I know they suffer so much and would want to continue living life if they could do so without the suffering they go through.

Why do you think that the terminally ill want to live? Most of the people I have met want to die at home, and much sooner than the medical profession will allow them to. I have watched 3 close family members trapped...in that situation, and it is nothing like what is depicted here. Sorry...I wish it was.

 

[lv-gras]

Why do you think that the terminally ill want to live? Most of the people I have met want to die at home, and much sooner than the medical profession will allow them to. I have watched 3 close family members trapped...in that situation, and it is nothing like what is depicted here. Sorry...I wish it was.

think the dying at home and the other stuff may be less connected though? might be different if/when more services are available outside hospital?

 

[GoingSoonish]

Why do you think that the terminally ill want to live? Most of the people I have met want to die at home, and much sooner than the medical profession will allow them to. I have watched 3 close family members trapped...in that situation, and it is nothing like what is depicted here. Sorry...I wish it was.

Because most people want to live. I know there are terminally ill people that want to die. I imagine that in most cases it is because their quality of life is so low (i.e. they would want to live if they could get rid of their condition).

 

[Deleted member 1465]

Yes and no. Sometimes I think they can have my life and I can be terminal, but... we often change our minds when we get what we want! I think its the thought of being in a place where you can be cared for and are allowed to give up fighting. Its a bit of a fantasy.

 

[Morning Angel]

I don't think it's much easier, especially if they don't really want to die.

 

[windingdown]

I always think to myself they get to die and not have to suffer anymore but not only that people around them accept that and make that persons last days joyful. You even get help from the doctor to make sure you die quick and painless.

But here we are not getting any acceptance for our condition, no support from family, no help from doctors to make sure we die quick and painless. We get ridiculed and belittled from people for even contemplating wanting to die just because we aren't in a hospital bed. Then we gotta try to find methods ourselves that are unreliable or can get us thrown in jail.

It's ridiculous how mental illness/depression is not taken seriously by society.

It perhaps sounds blithe, but I would be delighted to have terminal cancer.

 

[Sun n showers]

I always think to myself they get to die and not have to suffer anymore but not only that people around them accept that and make that persons last days joyful. You even get help from the doctor to make sure you die quick and painless.

But here we are not getting any acceptance for our condition, no support from family, no help from doctors to make sure we die quick and painless. We get ridiculed and belittled from people for even contemplating wanting to die just because we aren't in a hospital bed. Then we gotta try to find methods ourselves that are unreliable or can get us thrown in jail.

It's ridiculous how mental illness/depression is not taken seriously by society.

Absolutely, all should have the choice !

It perhaps sounds blithe, but I would be delighted to have terminal cancer.

Same here

 

[Mountaingirl]

I am terminally ill (cervical cancer). I probably wouldn't be alive anymore by Christmas, my doctors say. I'll be faster. Don't want to suffer in hospital. So yes, I'll be very lucky when my day comes

It perhaps sounds blithe, but I would be delighted to have terminal cancer.

Trust me, you don't

 

[FuneralCry]

I guess that they are lucky in that they don't have to find a way to leave themselves, and worry about the chance of the method failing, even know it sounds awful having a terminal illness, at least it wont be for long. However, I only envy those who no longer exist. As long as someone is still alive, they can suffer and to me that is nothing to envy.

 

[Worndown]

Terminal illness and people wishing to die are two different situations. Seldom do suicidal people get a terminal illness. Life may not be fair but neither is death.

 

[WorthlessTrash]

I am terminally ill (cervical cancer). I probably wouldn't be alive anymore by Christmas, my doctors say. I'll be faster. Don't want to suffer in hospital. So yes, I'll be very lucky when my day comes

Trust me, you don't

If it means having a sure way of dying to where we don't actually have to carry the act of suicide out, then yes we (I at least) do.

Sure, it may suck and be really painful, but that pain is temporary to where the pain that causes us to be depressed is permanent. I want out so bad that I would embrace cancer with open arms.

 

[Worndown]

If it means having a sure way of dying to where we don't actually have to carry the act of suicide out, then yes we (I at least) do.

Sure, it may suck and be really painful, but that pain is temporary to where the pain that causes us to be depressed is permanent. I want out so bad that I would embrace cancer with open arms.

I do not believe one can make this comparison. Terminal cancer in unwanted, untreatable and very unpleasant. It robs you of the life you were enjoying.
Depression may have similar traits but many are able to seek treatments that help. Nothing helps cancer and its inevitable end.

 

[WorthlessTrash]

I do not believe one can make this comparison. Terminal cancer in unwanted, untreatable and very unpleasant. It robs you of the life you were enjoying.
Depression may have similar traits but many are able to seek treatments that help. Nothing helps cancer and its inevitable end.

Radiation and chemotherapy treat cancer (so long as it's not stage 4). The comparison is valid on the basis that both suck and can impede one's life. Also, treatment for depression doesn't work for everyone. There are people I am sure whom tried treating their depression, but CTB'd anyways.

 

[Worndown]

The concept that those that die early in life due to terminal cancer are "lucky" is flawed. I have had three friends and two family members pass this way. Their "luck" was never contemplated.
Depression may be equally unfair but is distinctly different.

 

[Shivali]

Das tue ich die ganze Zeit ... Ich rauche, um Krebs zu bekommen, obwohl es mein Risiko nur um etwa 0,02 % erhöht

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