Discussion Anyone here told their family about their decision to CTB and they accepted your decision ?

[epic]

I am thinking about telling my parents about my decision to CTB to ease their pain after CTB.
Anyone here told their family about their decision to CTB and they came around accepting your decision ?
Please tell me your story .
How did you convince them? . Any tips ?

 

[CentreMid]

I didn't tell my parents, they found out through a classmate of mine in middle school.

They essentially laughed it off and refused to believe that I was suffering, and often used my suicidal ideation and self-harm to mock me when I got upset over things. I remember one specific incident when my mom straight up handed me a kitchen knife and said "why don't you go up to your room and slice yourself open for a bit if you're so sad? Aren't you gonna do it, huh?"

This is just my take, but I don't advise telling your parents. That being said, best of luck in whatever you choose to do

 

[expired_dreams]

imo it's better not to tell. People generally don't understand the wish to leave this world. It's like a foreign concept in their mind. I think it would only cause them more pain.

Obviously I don't know you or your parents' situation, but I can tell you that whenever I tell people about the thoughts in my head, it never ends well.

In addition, nobody is owed an explantion of any decision you make.

I wish you well.

 

[Valky]

I didn't tell my parents, they found out through a classmate of mine in middle school.

They essentially laughed it off and refused to believe that I was suffering, and often used my suicidal ideation and self-harm to mock me when I got upset over things. I remember one specific incident when my mom straight up handed me a kitchen knife and said "why don't you go up to your room and slice yourself open for a bit if you're so sad? Aren't you gonna do it, huh?"

This is just my take, but I don't advise telling your parents. That being said, best of luck in whatever you choose to do

That is absolutely disgusting. Your mom is an incredibly bad person. I hope she Rots in hell. I am so sorry That you had to endure this.

 

[deathLiberation]

imo it's better not to tell. People generally don't understand the wish to leave this world. It's like a foreign concept in their mind. I think it would only cause them more pain.

Obviously I don't know you or your parents' situation, but I can tell you that whenever I tell people about the thoughts in my head, it never ends well.

In addition, nobody is owed an explantion of any decision you make.

I wish you well.

Indeed. It´s a poor decision. "Look im going to kill myself, i dont care if you love me or you hoped i would be an happy person. Are you gonna stop me? No? Why? Yes? Why?" What is the point of telling? Even goodbye letters can be dumb.

Yet if you really want to hurt some peoples feeling, go ahead and tell i guess. Or if you think telling is some sort of revenge.

 

[dwindlingfirst]

I didn't tell my parents, they found out through a classmate of mine in middle school.

They essentially laughed it off and refused to believe that I was suffering, and often used my suicidal ideation and self-harm to mock me when I got upset over things. I remember one specific incident when my mom straight up handed me a kitchen knife and said "why don't you go up to your room and slice yourself open for a bit if you're so sad? Aren't you gonna do it, huh?"

This is just my take, but I don't advise telling your parents. That being said, best of luck in whatever you choose to do

Holy shit that makes my family look like a picture perfect family. I feel bad about being so damn depressed in such a loving family, especially because people have it way worse than I do, but I can't help it. It just makes me hate myself more

 

[NoLightRemains]

I don't think any family is going to give you their blessing for CTB, barring some extreme circumstance like a painful, terminal illness.

Even if it hurts them to see you suffer, they probably would still prefer you alive and suffering (with the hope you might magically improve still around) than dead and at peace.

In general, I don't think it's a good idea to tell people your plans if you're serious about CTB. If you want help or someone to stop you, telling others might be a viable option.

 

[CTB Dream]

Ni tell any ctb human no undrstnd nly see outer

 

[enviro400mmc]

Holy shit that makes my family look like a picture perfect family. I feel bad about being so damn depressed in such a loving family, especially because people have it way worse than I do, but I can't help it. It just makes me hate myself more

It's crazy how sometimes on SaSu you just find a mirror image of yourself

 

[Ambivalent1]

That would be incredibly stupid of them and you. Do you expect them to be ok with you dying?

 

[epic]

That would be incredibly stupid of them and you. Do you expect them to be ok with you dying?

That's the goal .
and if not "Ok" atleast familiar with what's to come.

To all those who are skeptical watch this guy. He managed to tell his parents what's to come. They even joined him in his campaign -

 

[Ambivalent1]

That's the goal .
and if not "Ok" atleast familiar with what's to come.

To all those who are skeptical watch this guy. He managed to tell his parents what's to come. They even joined him in his campaign -

That guy was an anomaly. But I've been trying to find that video for awhile. Thanks

 

[girlsboysthems]

That guy was an anomaly. But I've been trying to find that video for awhile. Thanks

not really an anomaly, i have similar diagnosis, started having psychosomatic pains this year and lost a lot of weight. if i dont kill myself my brain will kill me. thats why we need people to start treating mental and physical illnesses as equal, even in regards to euthanasia.

 

[Ambivalent1]

not really an anomaly, i have similar diagnosis, started having psychosomatic pains this year and lost a lot of weight. if i dont kill myself my brain will kill me. thats why we need people to start treating mental and physical illnesses as equal, even in regards to euthanasia.

You misunderstand. His entire situation (including nice, understanding parents) is the anomaly.

 

[girlsboysthems]

You misunderstand. His entire situation (including nice, understanding parents) is the anomaly.

sorry i misunderstood, i do agree that parents being supportive is quite an anomaly yes.

 

[FuneralGrey]

It's a fantasy of mine, but I've never done it, no.

It's hard to say without knowing your parents. Only you know if they're more likely to get you locked up in hospital or to be understanding, even if it takes them time to come around to the idea.

If you decide to go forward with telling them, I hope you find empathy and support. You deserve to be able to go out on your own terms without leaving the people around you in the dark, if that's what you wish.

 

[EmptyVessel42]

I am thinking about telling my parents about my decision to CTB to ease their pain after CTB.
Anyone here told their family about their decision to CTB and they came around accepting your decision ?
Please tell me your story .
How did you convince them? . Any tips ?

I did this recently and it's just made it harder to plan/carry out the method, as they are trying to 'get me help' and are watching my every move (even though I've tried explaining that this is what I want and it's a decision I've made). If you're serious about ending your life and are sure you want to, then don't tell them.

 

[iLikeFrogs]

I told it to my now ex best friend. We even planned double suicide but we stopped being friends before we started planning it. I'm glad I didn't do it with her bc she was abusive and manipulative. Also I told (or screamed) it to my parents why argument few times but I don't think they took it seriously.

 

[Jezzibell]

I told my brother and his comment was that I should take out funeral cover.

 

[Linda]

Sort of, but my situation is very different from yours. My husband knows that I will ctb after he is gone, if he dies before me. But since he won't be around then, it isn't really an issue for him.

Unless you have some medical condition that is obvious and clearly hopeless (e.g. cancer than is uncurable and is going to kill you anyway in the near future), the odds are that your parents won't understand your decision, and probably they won't accept it.

 

[CentreMid]

Holy shit that makes my family look like a picture perfect family. I feel bad about being so damn depressed in such a loving family, especially because people have it way worse than I do, but I can't help it. It just makes me hate myself more

It's alright. I know that my relationship with my parents is far from great, but there are people here whose family situations are even worse. No need to feel bad, your suffering is absolutely valid

 

[EmptyVessel42]

Holy shit that makes my family look like a picture perfect family. I feel bad about being so damn depressed in such a loving family, especially because people have it way worse than I do, but I can't help it. It just makes me hate myself more

I used to feel that way. But everyone has their reasons; it's not a competition. People can suffer greatly regardless of what things look like on paper.

 

[dwindlingfirst]

I used to feel that way. But everyone has their reasons; it's not a competition. People can suffer greatly regardless of what things look like on paper.

Thank you, that comforts me a little

 

[RedHarlequin]

Yes. A month after I had spent 1 1/2 years at 2 of the best psychiatric University hospitals in Europe and after they had tried every treatment available at that time (2 yrs ago) I announced that this was the path I was taking. They were of course overwhelmed and hoping I would not do it. I told my partner, my mother and my best friend. My mom and bf were obviously creeped and nervous first, and in denial. It took months and countless talks with them. In the end, I stopped formatting it a way that sounded like I was asking for permission. I just announced my decision, told them it's what I had to do irregardless of their opinion and just asked them if they'd like to be there as I go, as it would mean a lot for me. They agreed. My best friend however, the most intelligent (both emotionally and in general) person I've met went as far as saying she would take the bullet and help me administer the drugs if needed. It was the best and most useful/ validating feeling in the world, that she recognized the extreme suffering I was in. This announcement and my determination to go through with it was probably the thing that led my family to focus on researching the treatment options, even the ones unavailable in the country they had been living in, and the procedure we went with in the end ultimately saved my life. It was extreme, more extreme than ECT and something that was only done as research in a couple of centers in the world, but it was what managed to pull me out and be able to live again.

 

[epic]

Yes. A month after I had spent 1 1/2 years at 2 of the best psychiatric University hospitals in Europe and after they had tried every treatment available at that time (2 yrs ago) I announced that this was the path I was taking. They were of course overwhelmed and hoping I would not do it. I told my partner, my mother and my best friend. My mom and bf were obviously creeped and nervous first, and in denial. It took months and countless talks with them. In the end, I stopped formatting it a way that sounded like I was asking for permission. I just announced my decision, told them it's what I had to do irregardless of their opinion and just asked them if they'd like to be there as I go, as it would mean a lot for me. They agreed. My best friend however, the most intelligent (both emotionally and in general) person I've met went as far as saying she would take the bullet and help me administer the drugs if needed. It was the best and most useful/ validating feeling in the world, that she recognized the extreme suffering I was in. This announcement and my determination to go through with it was probably the thing that led my family to focus on researching the treatment options, even the ones unavailable in the country they had been living in, and the procedure we went with in the end ultimately saved my life. It was extreme, more extreme than ECT and something that was only done as research in a couple of centers in the world, but it was what managed to pull me out and be able to live again.

Wow ! That's everything I am hoping will happen to me too . Acceptance of my decision to CTB followed by a miracle cure.
Thank you for sharing your story.
I am happy things turned around for you.

 

[unnormal9]

I haven't heard from those fuck faces in 5 years; nor do I care what the hell they think.

 

[RedHarlequin]

Wow ! That's everything I am hoping will happen to me too . Acceptance of my decision to CTB followed by a miracle cure.
Thank you for sharing your story.
I am happy things turned around for you.

I wholeheartedly hope that You and all of people looking for recovery experience a positive Ending as well.

I think I haven't mentioned this on this formum already and pardon me if I have, but one of the last things I asked the neurosurgeon before the Anesthesia took me to dreamland was if he could just let me not wake up if the surgery didn't work.

Most likely the cure your looking for is buried deep inside all the possible treatments. This shit gets unbearable and to my best understanding none of those people who spit out half-assed promises of easy fixes have or even come close to experiencing this hell. In
my point of view, it is ok to feel like you can't go on as well as it is ok to not go on if you can't take it.You don't owe your life to ANYBODY. This shit gets unbearable and to my best understanding none of those people who spit out half-assed promises of easy fixes have even come close to experiencing this hell. To me it all seems worth it after living with a somewhat healthy brain for two years now. The suffering I had endured for years didn't seem worth it before the surgery the same way it didn't seem worth it shortly after.

 

[hodbu]

My family is 80% responsible for my CTB decision, so all I plan to do is write them a letter about what horrible shitheads they are and tell them about how they kept destroying my life and go fuck themselves when I die.

 

[UKscotty]

I'm sorry but I feel very strongly about this topic. In my view telling people is beyond evil, you will cause them immeasurable pain and suffering as they will feel they should have stopped it.
If you want a cry for help, tell a medical professional.
We have no right to burden loved ones.

 

[Catastrofe]

It just makes me hate myself more

This is something I have already mentioned here, but maybe it helps you. I have asked my therapist "Why do some people develpo suicide thoughts whereas others, enduring even worse pain, don't?". He replied : "Million books have been written, we still do not know". This attitude is irrational, and there is little everyone of us can do about. Do not hate yourself, it is not a fault or choice.