Discussion Anyone here resent the gender they were born as?

[selfhater]

i hate being a female so much especially where i live, it's one of the reasons why i wanna ctb

 

[noaccount]

I wish to be a female as a boy you are in constant fight or flight mode. If you are a boy you need to be an alpha. Alpha gets listening from other people and they have to fight. Yes we are taught to be strong but this is occupied by hidding our feelings. So its not that great being a man.

Be greatful for being a female. Its a blessing

Haha fuck off you don't know SHIT about fight or flight mode, this shit is in our BLOOD and we know it more intensely than you ever will. You have no fucking idea.

 

[selfhater]

I wish to be a female as a boy you are in constant fight or flight mode. If you are a boy you need to be an alpha. Alpha gets listening from other people and they have to fight. Yes we are taught to be strong but this is occupied by hidding our feelings. So its not that great being a man.

Be greatful for being a female. Its a blessing

man my life is literally hell becuz i'm a female u have no idea

 

[Searchinghope]

I wish i was born girl Or a straight guy life would have been much easier or in a country where I am excepted. I guess it's all matter of perspective.

 

[waterbottleman]

i hate being a female so much especially where i live, it's one of the reasons why i wanna ctb

Where do you live if you don't mind answering. If you do mind, that's cool don't have to answer the question.

 

[selfhater]

Where do you live if you don't mind answering. If you do mind, that's cool don't have to answer the question.

ksa

 

[Majin K.]

i've always thought about what it's like to be a dude but i've never actually wanted to be one. the only thing i envy about guys is how tall most of them are and how the world still revolves around them and the patriarchy (not so much the first world anymore, but third world countries are still very shitty to women).

anyways... to all the cis guys here who wish they were a girl (excluding the ones who think they could be trans), it's not all sunshine and rainbows over here. apart from our insides self-destructing and gushing blood for a week of each month, it's just... tough, and sometimes even scary. daily tasks you currently do without a second thought (walking home on your own, going to the grocery store alone) are daunting for most women. we constantly have the prospect of being raped, kidnapped, sex-trafficked, etc. sitting in the back of our minds. we always have to have our guard up. it's more than tiring. obviously these things can happen to men, but being a woman typically comes with sometimes fearing for your life whenever doing something trivial. i always have to carry a knife and mace because anything's possible. it sucks ass. the worst part is that shit like this makes radical feminists push the notion that "all guys are creeps!11!!!1" and other bs like that. i feel bad for the majority of guys out there who get a bad name. most of y'all are just average, everyday dudes.

being either sex has its ups and downs. no one gender is better than the other. that's how i feel at the very least.

Funny you say that, because statistically speaking men are far more likely to be attacked on the street.

 

[a.n.kirillov]

I'm not interested in a male vs female debate. I think the sexes are beautifully complementary. I think that should be embraced rather than used to drive a wedge as it often is nowadays. This is obviously from the perspective of a western society where women can and are allowed to do whatever it is they want; this is certainly not always the case around the world.

In regards to your statement "Women have less power" - this is totally ambiguous and doesn't really mean anything. Sure, women are less frequently CEOs of major corporations and powerful politicians, but what does that mean? Many studies on this subject will often draw completely unsupported conclusions that women are being discriminated against. Same with virtually every wage study - when all easy factors are actually accounted for and comparing apples to apples, the wage gap is only a few percent. They often imply or flat out state that women are being forced into doing some lesser work that they don't want to do. But rarely are garbage men, oil drillers, and other dirty jobs ever discussed in the same light. There's no concern why women aren't "equally" represented here. It's silly. It's cherry picking. It's divisive for division's sake.

As you note, women virtually always have the final say in who gets to have sex or be in a relationship. This means a lot more to 100% of humanity than who runs a corporation or wields political power or who makes more money on average.

We've come a very long way. No, nothing's perfect, and women will experience hardship in certain ways that men will not. Men will also experience hardship in ways that women will not. "Equal outcome" is not a worthy goal, equal opportunity is. Some unequal outcomes are the result of discrimination, some are not. In many cases, the discrimination is benign. That doesn't mean it's okay, but it doesn't mean that one sex is out to get the other either. If you go down this road, eventually you get to the point where you have to legislate parenting children as non-binary, and I personally think that is an atrocious outcome both because the government should stay the fuck out of it and because of what I said before of the sexes being complementary.

Just my too many cents.

I appreciate your thoughtful reply and agree to most of it.

One example I would bring forth is that women aren't taken serious in political or philosophical discussions, there is still an unconscious bias within many men against women. I didn't use to believe this, but I have observed it for myself with black people: I have a proclivity not to take a black professor, scholar or expert (on TV for example) as serious as a white one. I know it's bad, but I can't help it. I think we all have massive unconscious and conscious biases.

But I am not proposing we should take radical political measures against them (just yet). We have to be careful with such things.

On the other hand I find it pretty ironic that many so called feminists and black-rights activists focus solely on skin colour or gender and thus reduce the person (for example, Hillary Clinton ) even more to them.
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There are also arguments to be made in favour of prejudices of course.

 

[Crushed_Innocence]

Same here. I HATE HAVING BEEN A HETEROSEXUAL FEMALE. And a minority on that....
Yes, unless your drop dead gorgeous being female is worthless. Its been that way for me since day one.
Fuck this life.

 

[Let'sgetoutofHERE]

Not a transgender exclusive question. Cis people can answer too.

Personally I can't shake the feeling my life would've been much better if I had been born male, and I can't stand the thought of being stuck in this body till I'm 80 or so. I completely hate being a woman and I've been treated like shit for being one.
If I was a boy I feel like I'd receive love and encouragement instead of discouragement and abuse. Being a girl ruined my life.

Anyone else here feel like they would've had an easier time if they were born in the opposite gender?

It's an interesting question you're asking. I'm actually the opposite, I think that if I was the opposite gender my problems would be way worse

 

[waterbottleman]

No I don't resent the sex I was born as. I'll be totally honest though, almost all women have a lot of life advantages that I am jealous and envious of. On the other hand those benefits come with a lot of downsides.

This is just my personal opinion, but I think the life men and women experience generally speaking are so radically different that it's almost impossible to fathom what it's like to be the opposite sex. I bet you if you are reading this and do resent the sex you're born as or think the other sex has it "better" chances are you've constructed an overly simplistic abstract concept in your head of what life is like for the opposite sex and how great it is. That's no fault of yours though because you're ignorant of what life is like for the opposite sex, as am I, as is every single person on the planet.

This is probably controversial to say, but my opinion above also makes me doubt the entire notion of gender equality. When I say I "doubt" gender equality I'm not saying that I think gender equality is a bad idea if it could be achieved, rather what I'm doubting is that it is even possible to achieve even if people claim to want gender equality (another thing that I doubt). I don't understand how you can achieve gender equality when you have two groups of people who experience life in such radically different ways. In addition I've always found the idea that men and women are "essentially the same" is ridiculous and so obviously wrong that only an intellectual could believe it. Lastly men and women are held to different expectations and are treated differently, I don't see this ever changing.

 

[Goth Girl]

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Odio ser hombre y todo lo que conlleva, y estoy concebido para siempre será otra fuente de miseria y vergüenza para mí. Sin embargo, no creo que nada de esto mejore si hubiera nacido una mujer. Simplemente no parece realista. seguro que muchas cosas serían muy diferentes, pero todo lo que equivaldrían a una miseria diferente, una vergüenza diferente. Especialmente haber nacido mujer en este tipo de país, en este tipo de familia hiperreligiosa sin cerebro, me habría abierto a tantos abusos emocionales e incluso sexuales. suena como pura tortura, así que solo tengo que aceptar a regañadientes mi masculinidad, a pesar de que a menudo se siente insoportable. la mejor opción sería no haber nacido nunca, no existir como cualquier género. esa es la única forma de evitar este tipo de dolor.
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[KiraLittleOwl]

Same here. I HATE HAVING BEEN A HETEROSEXUAL FEMALE. And a minority on that....
Yes, unless your drop dead gorgeous being female is worthless. Its been that way for me since day one.
Fuck this life.

I can't agree with you that there's no good in being a woman If you are not extremly good looking.
Women support each other more (at least in my personal expierence),
it is more acceptable be weak without being judjed for it,
you can express emotions more freely.
You can give birth if you are cis and healthy.

 

[5:45AM]

I frequently wonder if the world was more welcoming for trans people, I wouldn't hate being AMAB so much
I resent the societal standards and attitudes that pushed me deeper into my shell and deprived me of a childhood.

 

[Ghettofunk]

Parts of this thread made me want to kill myself.

 

[Black Rose Bunny]

Most deluded thing I have ever read. Don't even know where to start with it. I wish you could be a woman too.

Random boners...wet dreams...women's vaginas are considered beautiful!? Since when? They are mocked, treated with disgust, women get surgery on their labia, have to remove hair, get told they smell of fish...women can opt out of parenthood (some women are forced to keep children conceived of rape as our reproductive rights are stripped away. The trauma of abortion or adoption is lifelong, or consider forced pregnancy in marriage).

Women found not guilty in the court of public opinion?! (women are pilloried and scrutinised EVERYWHERE, we have recently had a suicide of a female celebrity unfairly decimated by the media).

It's illegal to have genitals mutilated as a baby?!(1 girl is forced to undergo EXTREME genital mutilation every 11 seconds, included having her clitoris cut out with an unsterilised boxcutter with no anaesthesia in many countries, including in the West and the barbaric practice is spreading).

Women free to express emotions?! If women express emotions we are called hysterical, unstable, neurotic, clingy and much worse. Or we get diagnosed with a mental illness more frequently.

Our health issues being given more funding LOLOLOL, try even attempting to be diagnosed with endometriosis or getting a hysterectomy, women's pain is frequently minimised. Try having medications not work for you or seatbelts not be designed for you because the male body is seen as the default. Socially unacceptable for partners to hit you...domestic abuse has been legalised in Russia. In the UK, 2 women a week die of DV and the rates in the U.S are horrific. No one seems to give a fuck tbh. On domestic abuse websites it is acknowledged most domestic abuse from females stops at a slap (doesn't make it right, but put it in perspective with the LEADING CAUSE OF PREMATURE DEATH IN WOMEN WORLDWIDE BEING MURDER BY MEN). False rape claims against men are about 3 percent of rape cases and this is actually higher than the conviction rate for real rapes! I am just going to stop there. Seriously. What I have said isn't even feminism, it's just reality. Go on the WHO website and read the truth. Why did I click this damn thread.

THANK YOU, I honestly wasn't even going to respond to them, it gets so exhausting, and they never actually change, idk how you put up with that but good on you

 

[homebound]

i hate the sex i was born as (female) but i know if i was born male i would hate it too. i feel so uncomfortable as either. i feel like i have no escape from it. i consider myself non-binary (agender, if you want to get specific) but its like there is no real way to physically be it. either way i biologically have to be one sex and i don't want to be either. sometimes i wonder if this stems from my desire to just not exist.

 

[BridgeJumper]

Maybe not resent, but I hate that Im considered less, a weaker element on this earth. That should something bad happen to me, my 59 kg ass wouldnt be able to defend myself. Not being able to achieve something major and be better than men most of the time. Remembering that Marie Curie was the first woman ever to enter university, and that in islam women are treated like shit and need to wear bags on their heads and stay inside all day