Anyone else feel like they’re bad at relationships? (Platonic and or romantic)

[stoicseal]

I feel like I'm inherently a miserable person to be around, and that my own sadness just rubs off on other people. I've witnessed so many former friends descend into depression after extended time with me. My college roommate used to be a jovial and bubbly person, and after rooming with me for years she is also now a social recluse and deeply unhappy with life.

I also don't think I'm built for romance. I have an amazing partner, but I'm incapable of giving him the true peace he deserves because of my own issues. I can't do things like cook for him because I have no energy. My pessimism wears him down. My low self esteem is only a burden on him. He deserves someone fun and full of life, like him. I hate that I can't make him happy.

 

[Glowarm]

"Anyone else feel like they're bad at relationships? (Platonic and or romantic)"

All the freaking time.

 

[Pluto]

I have this problem too. In theory, the solution might be to focus on our own wellbeing so we can approach interpersonal relationships from a healthier baseline, but being alone can allow misery to spiral out of control.

 

[depressedmaniac]

absolutely. Anyone getting close tome gets hurt by me. They dont believe me even if I tell them. It just leads to them learning the hard way sadly.

 

[lostmylove]

I think I'm a good partner. Maybe if anything I don't lack much respect and let them walk over me slightly but I'd prefer that to the feeling of absolutely crushed by grief .

 

[Al Cappella]

My track record says I am.

 

[Messgram]

I used to be able to make great friends, but after so many traumas my mind is so broken that I can't connect with anyone else. I can only feel hatred and anger towards people. I seem to have some sort of curse too, because the people I care about fall out of favor while the ones I hate seem to rise in life, I just can't explain.

 

[Slimetae]

I can't feel nothing for anyone rn so don't try just leads to more problems and I already have enough

 

[Lullaby]

A bit opposite in my case, as anytime I get close to anyone, I get hurt; every time. Maybe my insecurities just shine through me and people know that I'm easy to manipulate and take advantage of, regardless if it's romantic or platonic.

At this point, I've hit my limit and I'm done. I'm pretty sure I'm meant to be alone and it'll stay that way until I'm gone. I have zero interest in getting hurt anymore.

 

[HappyForever?]

I'm bad at forming relationships. No one really takes an interest in me.

 

[Journeytoletgo]

Same here I'm just naturally depressive and anxious and miserable oh well.

 

[braindead911]

A bit opposite in my case, as anytime I get close to anyone, I get hurt; every time. Maybe my insecurities just shine through me and people know that I'm easy to manipulate and take advantage of, regardless if it's romantic or platonic.

At this point, I've hit my limit and I'm done. I'm pretty sure I'm meant to be alone and it'll stay that way until I'm gone. I have zero interest in getting hurt anymore.

Idk why but you look very familiar lol if your profile pic is you i mean

 

[Versailles]

I don't think I'm a good partner, although I like to make my partner feel how important he is to me, my emotional state is quite volatile and sometimes I lose interest in almost everything, that's one of the reasons why that one of my partners broke up with me

 

[WorthlessTrash]

Can't be bad at something I am unable to obtain :)

 

[its-about-time]

Yeah. I generally understand why I'm this way but that's done nothing to help me change. Just really fuels the ol' self hatred.

 

[AstroV]

I don't even know what relationships are. They're foreign to me. I've never really had them.

 

[Lullaby]

Idk why but you look very familiar lol if your profile pic is you i mean

Do you live in the US/East Coast?

 

[braindead911]

Do you live in the US/East Coast?

Yeah i do. I don't know if I've ever met you. Just looked familiar lol kinda like my ex lol

 

[Lullaby]

Yeah i do. I don't know if I've ever met you. Just looked familiar lol kinda like my ex lol

Hmm I won't push it lol but that would be pretty insane

 

[braindead911]

Hmm I won't push it lol but that would be pretty insane

Lol yeah

 

[stoicseal]

I have this problem too. In theory, the solution might be to focus on our own wellbeing so we can approach interpersonal relationships from a healthier baseline, but being alone can allow misery to spiral out of control.

Yeah, I've spent years fixated on self improvement for this very reason. Little to no return. I've given up lol

I'm bad at forming relationships. No one really takes an interest in me.

Yeah, it really sucks when you know your company isn't wanted. Like damn am I that bad? Clearly!

 

[Hollowman]

I don't feel like it, I am completely incapable of them.