Discussion Anyone completely dependent on their mother/father, despite being adults?

[Mr2005]

Yes. I relied on my parents to get me plastic surgery. By the time it dawned on me they had no intention it was too late

 

[Bob_Luman]

I still live at home I'm 19 and despite still young I don't see myself moving out anytime soon. This is mainly due to the expense of mortgages and renting nowadays. My plan is to wait it out if I ever meet a girl to do it then, but that probably won't happen. My initial plan which I will obviously decide over the years as it's a long time away, is to ctb when I get to age 30, in 10 years time if that opportunity hasn't come for me yet. I sure as hell won't give it longer then that. The only way I can think of is driving a car off a cliff but then again it'd take some gut to do that.

 

[262653]

On survival, yes. The alternative is earning the bread for myself aka doing something I don't want to to maintain the state I'm not very fond of. Fuck work, lol. I'm getting exhausted from cooking and showering alone.

 

[Taran]

Yes. I relied on my parents to get me plastic surgery. By the time it dawned on me they had no intention it was too late

Im 20 and im worried if I live more I will become a burden for them...I lost interest in everything in life for searching for a job or college

 

[lowres]

Im completely dependent. I look for work regularly but i guess im unemployable or something. Its miserable especially when my parent uses it as an excuse to mistreat me.

 

[Lastravel]

Over the time I became totally dependant toward my parents. They have always been over protective. Schyzophrenia didn't help, even if I managed to do studies, I was exhausted mentally. Now it has been 3 years that I came back at their house and I feel like a fucking vegetable. Time has come for me to stop this shit. Medication is not for me. Now I just want my parents to leave me alone and stop thinking about me. I want to stop living.

 

[Nolivesmatter]

Yes. I had a breakdown last summer and moved home with them. I'm in a lot of debt, so they pay for food and don't charge me rent.

 

[s1mplem3]

Sorry, I don't have parents, siblings or friends, have to work a lot to survive this f... amazing world.

 

[Rockman]

26 yrs old. I finished first degree studies. Have few shitty jobs for really short time during studies. Never worked full time. After that i came back to family home and became maximum dependent on parents that was one of worst decision of my life that lead me to really suffering. 3 years of hard depression, making more horibble decision based on false earlier diagnose and relationship pattern. Ended in 2 psychiatric hospitals after atemptt and suicidal thoughts with diagnosis: personality disorders, identyfication disorders, hard depression.
Fake of my earlier myself. I would never thought that i end in this way.

 

[Final Escape]

Oh most definitely. I live at home partially because it's so god damn expensive to just rent an apartment where I live, but I don't have a fuckin' clue on paying bills/utilities, handling phone calls and all that shit because my mom took it upon herself to do literally everything in my life which in turn has crippled me for self-reliance.

Those parents are the worst. They cripple u by doing everything for u so u can't get away. It's almost like they did it on purpose so u will have no choice but to be there to take care of them in old age. Yet u can't even take care of yourself lol!

 

[elsilbon]

That's me, but I'm ten years older.

That's me, but I'm 4 years older than you.

 

[Starseedchip]

Yes but it's her own fault. She adopted me knowing I had experienced very bad trauma and never bothered to get me help for it. I then had an extremely traumatic 4 years in high school which consisted of extreme bullying, sexual assault, and that led to my ocd, anxiety, depression, disassociation, and complete lack of self worth. I tried my hardest countless times begging, screaming, crying for her to let me leave that place but she wouldn't. I never got the proper help I needed and now I am a broken adult who is dependent. If only she gave a shit and helped me things could be different. Even now I work full time but it's not enough due to living in one of the most expensive cities in the world. She's still just as self absorbed and has no regard for my feelings so I don't feel bad living rent free.

 

[whereispeace]

Yes. But apparently I'm far from the only one, so that makes me feel slightly better. I've been drowning in an ocean of self-loathing.

 

[Partial-Elf]

I'm 25 and live with my parents and younger brother (he's 23). I finished college and have worked full time since then.

On the one hand, I've been able to pay off debt and save around $65k between cash and retirement. Which I feel decent about.

On the other hand, I'm in an economically and culturally depressed area of about 50,000 people. There are few social or dating opportunities (there were a few good ones but I drunkenly squandered them), and I've come close to killing myself every year I've lived here since college.

I constantly struggle with the desire to move out to a larger city, but my career isn't very mobile and I would only just be able to afford the necessities. I would also have to try really hard for a new job or build in a long drive to the one I work now.

I wouldn't say I'm dependent, but I also don't see an end in sight for me living here. I wish I could live my life over again knowing what I know now... or that suicide was more accepted. I wish I had stayed with a few of the girls I dated over the years-somehow it feels like that'd fix things.

 

[TheNorthernSilence]

Oh most definitely. I live at home partially because it's so god damn expensive to just rent an apartment where I live, but I don't have a fuckin' clue on paying bills/utilities, handling phone calls and all that shit because my mom took it upon herself to do literally everything in my life which in turn has crippled me for self-reliance.

I can relate to this. I have some independence as I have my own place and I also manage my bills and rent. But my mother was always very over protective of me especially when I was younger. I'm sure she thought that it was for the best but now I'm fucked up in a way because I can't take responsibility for my living (disability) and she's always offering me extra money although I don't need it, and I fucking hate the feeling. That's why I hate the whole Christmas concept too as I still get some presents and I never give anything in return. Birthdays are horrible too.