Discussion Anyone completely dependent on their mother/father, despite being adults?

[Darkhaven]

Would like to have a word with someone on the same situation as me.

 

[ExitStageLeft]

Yes. I can't even buy a stick of gum without her. It's.... grotesque. I am thirty-one.

 

[TAW122]

I'm currently dependent on my family for financial security as my living situation changed at the end of 2019, beginning of 2020. However, I wouldn't consider it completely dependent on them as I still pay most of my own items, aside from rent and food, which they provide for the time being. All other bills and upkeep I pay by myself (phone bills, gas, personal items, car insurance, etc.).

 

[Ulisses]

i am 33, i live with my parents. I have no job, no money and no ambition. I am totally dependent on my parents.

 

[heheb27595]

I live with my mother unable to find a good affordable appart. All the available place are nothing but troubles.

 

[Worthless_nobody]

Yep. Not being able to be financially independent and live on my own as an adult is just one of my many reasons. I'm either at the mercy of my parents or my ex to help me because I cannot work full time yet I'm not considered "disabled enough" to receive disability.

 

[Darkhaven]

Yep. Not being able to be financially independent and live on my own as an adult is just one of my many reasons. I'm either at the mercy of my parents or my ex to help me because I cannot work full time yet I'm not considered "disabled enough" to receive disability.

I don't think i will ever be able to get out by myself. It's making everything look like a nightmare.

 

[Thinkinaboutit]

I'm 41. I have a job that is torture but is not even close to paying a living wage for the cost of living in my area. Thus I have to depend on my fathead father, who is retired, and crazy, control-freak step-mother for much of my financial support. My step-mother is cheap and is always obsessing about money; she has access to my own bank account and regularly monitors and withdrawals money from it because she doesn't work. She quit a job which made her about $100,000 a year in April 2018; she greatly regrets quitting that job and comes up with all sorts of excuses not to get a new job because she is in a mental funk caused by the fact that her old employer won't hire her back.

I have Asperger's Syndrome and no close friends. My step-mother virtually never stops talking when she is not asleep. She is always ordering me and my father around, and rambling, rambling, rambling. She is highly excitable and has an extremely loud voice. She causes me sensory overload. My dad sometimes seems to loathe her; but he had enough evidence of who she is before he was stupid enough to marry her. They are in another state right now, but will back in less than a week and a half. Part of me wishes that the good lord would strike me with a very severe strain of the Coronavirus. I had to have open heart surgery in December 2017 but may otherwise currently be in too good of health to be completely destroyed or even noticeably harmed by the virus even though I live in an area which has been hit hard by the virus.

 

[terry_a_davis]

I live with my elderly parent but i'm not reliant on her, apart from sharing a roof we are independent, we get along well thankfully. I used to be a sole homeowner until i became ill.

 

[Darkhaven]

I'm 41. I have a job that is torture but is not even close to paying a living wage for the cost of living in my area. Thus I have to depend on my fathead father, who is retired, and crazy, control-freak step-mother for much of my financial support. My step-mother is cheap and is always obsessing about money; she has access to my own bank account and regularly monitors and withdrawals money from it because she doesn't work. She quit a job which made her about $100,000 a year in April 2018; she greatly regrets quitting that job and comes up with all sorts of excuses not to get a new job because she is in a mental funk caused by the fact that her old employer won't hire her back.

I have Asperger's Syndrome and no close friends. My step-mother virtually never stops talking when she is not asleep. She is always ordering me and my father around, and rambling, rambling, rambling. She is highly excitable and has an extremely loud voice. She causes me sensory overload. My dad sometimes seems to loathe her; but he had enough evidence of who she is before he was stupid enough to marry her. They are in another state right now, but will back in less than a week and a half. Part of me wishes that the good lord would strike me with a very severe strain of the Coronavirus. I had to have open heart surgery in December 2017 but may otherwise currently be in too good of health to be completely destroyed or even noticeably harmed by the virus even though I live in an area which has been hit hard by the virus.

I also hate my stepfather. Living in the same house as him is making me go crazy. But i could never make my mother get rid of him and he's stuck at us.

 

[Disintegration]

Yep... 41 and live in best friends house free of rent. Parents pay to keep me alive and I give up on working because of severe mental illness, schizophrenia, etc... can't wait to drop

 

[ExitStageLeft]

If you're going to drop anyway, does it not make more sense to target the system in some way?

 

[disabledandhopeless]

Me. Totally dependent.

 

[Disintegration]

If you're going to drop anyway, does it not make more sense to target the system in some way?

How would you suggest someone do that?

 

[ExitStageLeft]

How would you suggest someone do that?

I don't know.

 

[Disintegration]

I don't know.

You're not wrong, but I'm so apathetic I wouldn't want to waste my energy.

 

[Darkhaven]

Being dependent is one of the main reasons for me wanting to get gone. I don't i will ever enjoy being part of society, yet having my life completely dependent on my mother is wrecking me. Her mistakes always end up affecting me. And her lifestyle has repercussions on mine. If she decides to bring people into the house i have to take it because i don't have a job. I just wish i could have money to dissapear from here.

 

[zi99]

Yes. I'm 23 years old I finished the university, but I'm not working because of depression, it is hard for me to concentrate in something for long period of time. Sometimes I'm thinking of finding some easy work, but then I start to think about suicide

 

[faust]

As long as I do not have a job, I am dependent. If I get a job, everything will change.
It sounds strange, but I need a job to die. Because I cannot afford any of the methods now.

 

[ExitStageLeft]

As long as I do not have a job, I am dependent. If I get a job, everything will change.
It sounds strange, but I need a job to die. Because I cannot afford any of the methods now.

Precisely the situation which I am in.

This is why legal euthanasia is essential. Humane, cheap/free euthanasia for everyone. I'd volunteer to be Soylent Green.

 

[faust]

Precisely the situation which I am in.

This is why legal euthanasia is essential. Humane, cheap/free euthanasia for everyone. I'd volunteer to be Soylent Green.

The situation is more hard when my primary method is N.

 

[Fragile]

yep, although not entirely dependent on my mother financially, i'm living on some inheritances that my father left us that require her to do some paper work every now and then and to give me the money directly. chronic fatigue and other illnesses took any chance of me having a real job and true independence.

 

[TheGoodGuy]

Yes I am basically an adult-child I can´t even go to the mall, movies, travel etc. like other people my age it´s like I am still a kid who need a ride from the adults in order to do stuff even back when I had my own car driving to the mall or the cinema/movies would give me such anxiety but it always did when driving in a big city but driving a familiar drive without many cars I loved that it was so therapeutic I miss having a car both for the convience but also for how calming a nice long drive could be.

 

[18andlife]

Yep. 20 years old and no job. And every time I get a job, negative thoughts just overwhelm me

 

[Montparnasse]

Yep. 20 years old and no job. And every time I get a job, negative thoughts just overwhelm me

That's me, but I'm ten years older.

 

[18andlife]

That's me, but I'm ten years older.

Glad to hear I'm not the only one who can't work without a flood of negativity :)

 

[BabyYoda]

18, in college, no source of income except the occassional one on one teaching that I do. Does this still count?

 

[Green Destiny]

Oh most definitely. I live at home partially because it's so god damn expensive to just rent an apartment where I live, but I don't have a fuckin' clue on paying bills/utilities, handling phone calls and all that shit because my mom took it upon herself to do literally everything in my life which in turn has crippled me for self-reliance.

 

[Poptart]

I'm turning 23 on the 27th. I had a great job I loved until my Bipolar 1 kicked in. One severe manic episode and two months of hospitalization and I lost it. I ruined any references I could have had. I miss being a teacher.

I had never experienced pure mania until last October and it completely ruined my life. I developed delusions and paranoia and could feel my brain fizzling out.

I'm trying to get back into university to earn my second bachelor's degree but until then I live with my mother.

Ive been "Baker act"ed over 4 times now. My family doesn't want me living alone or getting a job. Everyone treats me like a ticking time bomb or invalid.

Im so sick of having to ask for money. I feel like a burden 24/7.

Thats part of the reason I want to CTB. Everyone would objectively be better off.

 

[Death.]

I'd gladly ruin my parents financially as punishment for thrusting me into this hellhole.