Any life-long introverts/loners Here?

[Death_is_Escape]

I wonder if We Keep Alones have an historical higher rate of CTB?

 

[Lethe]

Yeah, haven't had an irl friend like elementary school I think. Learned people were assholes and given them a wide berth ever since.

 

[Death_is_Escape]

Wise move: if it ain't broken . . . .

 

[DarkDane]

Yeah, was sick for most of my life and as it got worse I isolated more because of zero lack of energy. Had few people to play games with but that was about it.

 

[passenger27]

I've had agoraphobia for years so I can't even remember the last time I had a friend. A long time ago. At least I managed to get a gf through my sister. She helps a lot, but I dunno. Friends as in buddies to hang around with, all that's a distant dream to me now.

 

[Jean4]

Never had a friend. Have no family. I don't leave my house or even get dressed (I own no street clothes that fit) unless I have a doctor's appointment. I wouldn't know how to do something 'normal' like go to a movie.

 

[Deleted member 1465]

I hated not fitting in as a kid. I made a virtue of it as an adult. I always travelled alone and it helped me meet people. That and beer. My favourite place was stepping into any strange bar alone. I could always make friends then leave them behind. Such ephemeral relationships lthough

 

[Laststop]

The first two thirds of my life I was somewhat in between. I still had some family I knew loved me, but they're gone. I have others I know do too, but we're all messed up, and I've kept my distance for a long time to keep things in my own life from getting worse. As for friends I have only had a few at a time all my life, or sometimes none. No real ones. For a really long time I've kept to myself, and have maintained distance, both real and metaphorically, on my own accord. Both because my options are few due to not connecting with people well, and because I hate the way people "disapprove" of me. People either laugh at me, or actually get mad. Everywhere I've gone, just being myself, people treat me like I'm not right.

 

[Nephis]

For me I have trust issues and I don't like becoming close with other people this was something I came across when I was in middle school and bullied to this day I still don't understand why as a result of all that and being tricked constantly and the heartache I just avoid making real friends I just put on a smile and act when in reality I'm thinking in my head over and over that these same people are no different than the scum from that time of course there are other reasons like anxiety although lately I't hasn't been as evident in my everyday life except maybe when I present.

 

[Slaanesh]

I have a strong case of 'hedgehog's dilemma'. Hedgehogs may want to move together during the cold winter for warmth but their spikes keep each other apart.
As much as I might want to make freinds i'm scared of hurting them in the process because of my mental disorders and depression.

 

[peacetoall]

I have a strong case of 'hedgehog's dilemma'. Hedgehogs may want to move together during the cold winter for warmth but their spikes keep each other apart.
As much as I might want to make freinds i'm scared of hurting them in the process because of my mental disorders and depression.

AvPD?

 

[Slaanesh]

AvPD?

Yup mixed with PPD it's not fun..

 

[truthseeker]

I feel that childhood trauma and abuse put me on a path to being a loner. Less chance to be hurt. Don't necessarily want it that way but know little else and it's how I survive.

 

[Darkhaven]

Add me to the list!

 

[snowman626]

i dont have friends and i like it that way. people drain my energy and i hate conversations where i have to act "normal" like making a certain facial expression, forcing a smile, or saying annoying things like "oh yeah" "right" and other stupid shit to pretend like i give a fuck what they're saying. then there's the part where they stop talking and it's my turn to say something, then i have to force myself to have an opinion on the subject cause if i dont it will be awkward silence. if it's in a group setting its even worse. man fuck all that bullshit.

alone is so much better. wherever i am if i wanna go right i go right, if i wanna go left i go left. if i wanna go to booster juice i go there without having to say "hey guys wanna go..?" if i wanna grab pizza i just go. if i wanna go home i dont have to say goodbye to anyone.

i dont need or want friends and i enjoy my life better without anyone to get in my way.

the only problem is i want a girlfriend or at least some woman to have sex and cuddle with. that's why im looking into cuddleup.com for the cuddling part, and also escorts for the sex part. and if in the occasional chance that i do want a friend to hang out with i can go on rentafriend.com to rent someone for a day.

 

[Final Escape]

Never had a friend. Have no family. I don't leave my house or even get dressed (I own no street clothes that fit) unless I have a doctor's appointment. I wouldn't know how to do something 'normal' like go to a movie.

Oh this is truly horrific, how are u even alive? :( this shouldn't happen to anyone. Then again we no longer live in a world where everyone is connected and cared about.
Yea I was a shy loner introverted sensitive girl which is not good traits to have in a psychopathic system where many kids are no longer treated well. These traits in current times put u in a disadvantage in the wrong environment because u are more susceptible to be traumatized.

 

[Sweet emotion]

Never had a friend. Have no family. I don't leave my house or even get dressed (I own no street clothes that fit) unless I have a doctor's appointment. I wouldn't know how to do something 'normal' like go to a movie.

You've never had one friend throughout your entire life? Do you work?

 

[Xaphous]

I have had friends before but now none, isolation and no love fucks the mind

 

[Larez]

I was always an awkward loner, hardly have any contact with anyone today. I feel insanely alienated from my family, mainly because of my paranoia and internal unwillingness to ever get better. I'm still a silent, awkward blob, who can go on for weeks without talking to anyone. I hardly ever manage to keep up with a spontaneous conversation.

I have two good friends. One I know since elementary school - he was always out-going, popular and insanely talented in the mathematical field. People were always surprised to see me, the weirdo, hanging out with the cool guy. We're polar opposites in many ways and he can be insanely patronizing and overly religious sometimes, but he's a solid stoner lad who strives to do great things. He's a great bloke to smoke with and talk about other cultures etc.

The other one is my best friend since high school. He's suicidal and lost as well, we relate in many aspects of our lives. He's still way more charismatic and has a way with people despite the awful shit he's going through, so he's still twice the man I am. We make music sometimes. Without him I'd have ended up six feet under already. Our high school experience was almost similarly fucked up. I guess I'm lucky enough to at least have that one best friend.

Well, there's also a third friend, who's, uh...it's a long story. A manipulative narcissist that I still hang out with sometimes. He has shit-ton of potential and finally became somewhat self-aware, but i dunno.

Aaaaaand that's basically it. There's always been only them. Other than that I'm either isolating myself or running away from people. I hardly even talk to my brother despite living under the same roof.

 

[Rachel74]

A few colleagues at work but no friends apart from the 4 legged variety. I now prefer being a loner. I ache for the peace and quiet and to be left to to read!

 

[Notf1xable]

I've always been a bit of a loner, I don't like going to the mall and grocery shopping. I'm thankful I can have my groceries delivered. I have a small group of friends I have known since elementary, but we all have moved and had families etc. I'm more a loner now more than ever because while I was with my husband I was harassed and he kinda didn't help the situation. Like, as a man how are you not gonna try, geez at least comfort I don't know. Maybe I expected too much from him, but the messages mostly focused on separating me and him. It's made it hard for me to trust people, I've met people but I cut them off so quick. I literally had someone analyze everything I did and use it against me. I couldn't brush my hair the wrong way, or the world would fall apart.

I wish I had given up on relationships before I had gone through everything with him. And the messages, and harassment, the world is tough enough without people hurting others. A study recently stated single people are happier. I think the issue is there is so much dysfunction, no one is shown how healthy relationships work. And the world is so focused on being competitive, instead of helping each other so many just hurt others. Any sane person would somewhat start to isolate and be a loner when looking at the world and seeing all the pain.

 

[Notf1xable]

A loner is a loner, you don't have to be single to be a loner. I'm sorry people have had different lived experiences, and have gone through differences in pain. But pain is pain regardless of relationship status or not. You also can't romanticize relationships, they are also work, just because you find people to "bond" doesn't mean it is good or healthy. I also have known women that consider themselves that same way, and nuns and priests do it voluntarily. I know people that do all sorts of different things, but what is right for one person isn't right for another. The first step is looking at all people as people.

Definition of LONER

one that avoids others: such as; a person who is often alone or likes to be alone : someone who usually avoids the company of others; a typically solitary animal… See the full definition

www.merriam-webster.com

 

[Notf1xable]

I didn't realize there was a test for what a true loner was. There are famous people that stick to themselves and are obligated to go to things because they got lucky. Doesn't make their personality any less of what it is. And I'm pretty sure people that have experienced traumatic things that caused them to isolate would also say otherwise.
There are so many reasons for a person to isolate. It may be voluntary or not, that I can admit. But, there is also a bunch of nuances to any situation.

 

[*KNAZ*]

I've wanted to be happy and to fit in, but bullying really pushed me into myself. I've had moments of being an extrovert but it doesn't last. The older I have gotten the more I dislike mainstream society. I identify more with 19th century and its romanticism and even gothic flavors. The 21st century is just not my thing - just a vulgar, narcissistic, superficial, ugly time and place to be.

 

[Notf1xable]

There are posts on here of people in various relationships, and we only know what people show us. Some people in relationships that I've called "goals" have had such messed up stuff happen between them. And I'm sorry you have been alone forever. I've also seen people that appear to have healthy relationships fall apart in front of me. Honestly, part of me is not sure healthy relationships exist anymore, or really do exist. The talks about people wanting, not wanting, and other things has become so bad. We also never really see the truth of what people are anymore. Part because "perfection" is so valued. Even at my job you have to "be your own ceo" we sell ourselves to others in different ways. And to do that in order to fit in we have to erase and ignore the emotions and parts of us people don't want to see. Even with loved ones, or I could talk them about plans to ctb and I could have a send off and a peaceful way out. I couldn't even be myself anymore with my husband because of what happened with the situation surrounding the relationship. And I stopped talking to friends and everything, when you can't trust anyone you shut down.

Again I'm sorry that you have been through that, I won't invalidate anyone's pain and I only ask for the same in return.

 

[Mr2005]

I fit the bill

 

[dreamsofdestruction]

Yeah. There have been short periods in my life where I tried to break out of it, with varying success. But in the end I always stumbled and fell back into loneliness.

Last was a very long period of almost total isolation. Eventually I started working again, although I was really afraid to connect with people now. This year I dared to try something. It ended up not only confirming all my worst fears about myself but also showing me that I wasn't even at the low point I thought I was, but much much lower. And it ended up doing a lot of damage,

I can never find back into society.

 

[hypo666]

I would count myself as a loner ,apparently some people like and revel in their own company, I can see their point but I was made severely ill by my isolation. I isolated because the reason I became ill was due to the actions of others and I thought, just keep away from people . I had a nice little gym that I went to each day so I wasn't completely alone but when I returned home from the gym I was alone. But I got used to it, ,but then it all changed for me when I had a change of neighbours and ,anti social assholes replaced them in both homes either side of mine.

I became extra sensitive to noise and began to get all sorts of ideas and felt I was being targetted deliberately. I didn't think it was just anti social assholes, and I then bought some weapons. I didn't even think to let my doctor know how I was feeling, so that shows how useful care in the community is, they discharge you and expect someone with a history of paranoia to ask for help from the police/doctors when you get unwell. Last thing I was thinking about was asking for help, I was thinking this is the final battle I'll get the bullies from my past years ago. End result was I had a huge confrontation with a neighbour over his loud music at 3am, he threatened me with being 'sorted out', so I then left him and returned with a machete. Then realising I was in the shit I went up to beachy head and caused a load of chaos there. I was sectioned,lucky to not go to prison over the machete business.

Over the years I also stopped looking after my home,due to thinking no one will come to visit me anyway. Anyhow the end result is ,mental health professionals say I should never live alone ever again. They can't stop me as apparently now I have 'capacity', but they have all told me,being alone does not suit me.

 

[azucaramargo]

Maybe I expected too much from him, but the messages mostly focused on separating me and him

So, the harassment came in the form of (text) messages? I'm really sorry about that terrible time in your life.

A kid I knew in high school...his mom received threatening phone calls for almost a year, and it nearly tore the family apart. The caller turned out to be one of the kid's classmates! I never would have appreciated how caustic this kind of harassment could be. Your husband should have supported you. I hope you continue to heal.

 

[Titania]

Yep was like that in high school and now work. RIP my life.