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TimeToDie
Mage
- Jun 13, 2019
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I agree with the view that life is generally an overall negative experience such that it's questionable if anybody should reproduce. David Benatar makes a sound argument that nobody is harmed by not being born as they don't exist to experience that lack of life. While those who are born may be greatly harmed and end up on a suicide forum. Suicide is a major issue for philosophers like Benatar as his critics frequently ask "So why aren't you dead?" since you've just argued how very much life sucks. And suicide would be an obvious answer to the "life sucks" problem if not for the fact that suicide is exceedingly difficult, as I think everyone on this forum is painfully aware. Benatar's critics obviously miss the mark when they ask why he's not dead, since I imagine that a white guy (in South Africa) who's a professor & published author has a much better life than most of the 7 billion folks in the world. A world in which 20,000 people die each day from lack of food.
I've always realized that there are lots of people who shouldn't have kids, and it often seems that the least qualified parents are the ones who have the most kids. Women who have the most education -- and thus the most money -- tend to have the least kids as they don't want to take years off from a lucrative career to raise a herd of children. We often hear about how many children live in poverty and that's generally because people with no reasonable expectation of being able to support their kids went ahead and had kids anyhow. It's not a surprise that a single mom who dropped out of high school can't earn enough to support kids.
There is quite an abundance of bad parents out there, and I have always known that I wouldn't be a fit parent. Those who aren't mentally & physically & financially fit definitely should never become parents. My brother -- a mentally disabled gay man in his 60s -- toyed with the idea of having a kid. For $250,000 he could have a doner egg fertilized with his sperm & implanted in a surrogate. This is apparently how aging gay multi-millionaires deal with an existential crisis. I would note that he's never been able to maintain any relationship, so this potential kid would have only one (crazy elderly) father.
If you're wondering why he wouldn't just adopt, well, adoption agencies actually have standards and there's no chance in hell that he'd meet them. Fertility docs, on the other hand, have no standards at all so long as a client has plenty of cash. My brother jokingly said that an adoption agency "might give me a 17-year-old juvenile delinquent." Despite pretending to be woke, even a gay white guy doesn't want a brown kid.
I've always realized that there are lots of people who shouldn't have kids, and it often seems that the least qualified parents are the ones who have the most kids. Women who have the most education -- and thus the most money -- tend to have the least kids as they don't want to take years off from a lucrative career to raise a herd of children. We often hear about how many children live in poverty and that's generally because people with no reasonable expectation of being able to support their kids went ahead and had kids anyhow. It's not a surprise that a single mom who dropped out of high school can't earn enough to support kids.
There is quite an abundance of bad parents out there, and I have always known that I wouldn't be a fit parent. Those who aren't mentally & physically & financially fit definitely should never become parents. My brother -- a mentally disabled gay man in his 60s -- toyed with the idea of having a kid. For $250,000 he could have a doner egg fertilized with his sperm & implanted in a surrogate. This is apparently how aging gay multi-millionaires deal with an existential crisis. I would note that he's never been able to maintain any relationship, so this potential kid would have only one (crazy elderly) father.
If you're wondering why he wouldn't just adopt, well, adoption agencies actually have standards and there's no chance in hell that he'd meet them. Fertility docs, on the other hand, have no standards at all so long as a client has plenty of cash. My brother jokingly said that an adoption agency "might give me a 17-year-old juvenile delinquent." Despite pretending to be woke, even a gay white guy doesn't want a brown kid.
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