Always the least favorite person

[Desdemona]

Does anyone feel like out of their friend groups, they have always been the least favorite? I feel like my entire life I've been the friend that would be the first to get voted off the island if it really came down to it.

I won't go into it too much but basically from my entire life I can pull up a story where it was clear that I wasn't well liked. A resent event brought those feelings back.

Is this a common experience and I'm just overly sensitive? Idk. It seems like some people just have that "it" factor and everyone is drawn to them and loves them even if they're not a good friend or a good person and I feel like whatever that "it" factor is, I don't have it. People don't naturally gravitate towards me and it's very noticeable

 

[iftheworldwasending]

yes. i always feel like i'm the annoying one, the one no one likes, the one that people invite out of pity or just don't invite at all. you aren't overly sensitive. i feel the same.
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[NodusTollens]

*Raises hand*
You're not alone.

 

[demuic]

Yup. My friend group years ago was three people including me and I always was the third wheel, they chose each other before me. If their was a project were people had to partner up, I would always be the one left with no one jumping to partner with me. Most of my "friends" were actually my friend's friends, and not mine.

Now I only have one best friend, but even he has other friends he can go to when he gets bored of me. I have no one else.

 

[MindFog]

Same, i have the charisma of flea infested rat. Even if I manage to get friends, I end up being the boring one. I can't do small talks and it's hard for me to relate to people. So just don't usually initiate talking to people. Even online.

 

[Ardesevent]

Hear, hear. In the couple of friend groups I've had, I've always been the one you forget to invite or ghost a few weeks later. I can't blame them, honestly.

 

[Lifeiskillingme]

My old highs school best friend just went to rehab and got off meth. I had kept being her friend through the course of her addiction. Not feeding into it but being a FRIEND. Well guess who doesn't fucking talk to me anymore but is all buddy buddy with the same people who abandonded her during her addiction. Like oh okay your welcome for being there for you when you needed but now that your SOBER LIVING its fuck me?

 

[umbrellaphone]

My nerdy looks alone are enough to drive people away before I can even attempt to start a conversation.

 

[Gnip]

Not only was I the universally targeted omega wolf from first grade onward at age six, but I was never in a physical education class or playground game where I was not chosen last when sides were selected for playing games. School has no right to exist, and should be abolished.

 

[Symbiote]

I don't think I was the least favorite person, but I just had issues with connecting to others. Feels like I'm guessing at saying the right things rather than speaking my mind on something to garner support from others. Eventually it wears thin and you're still left with emptiness and knowing you had to fake yourself to make friends.

 

[Playlainin]

I know this feel

 

[Lotus]

Yes, I'm always feeling like the outsider. The most boring person and the one everyone connects the least with. I'm terrified of inviting people to things because they probably doesn't want to do that with me.

 

[Ghostly]

I'm the one you abandon then abuse after then leave again

 

[whywere]

I must really be the odd ball in Sanctioned Suicide, as far as I have never had any close friends. Not sounding like pity party but the few times that I reached out and tried to befriend someone, I always was burned bad. 2 quick examples, 1st one i tried to help out someone and he thought , I guess, that I was being snotty, as we went to anoher town, 30 mile from where both of us lived for a bar/restaurant and he drove off and I had to hitch a ride back 30 miles to my place. 2nd time, I let a "friend" use my atm card to get food, well she went and drained my bank account. After that I have had no more friends TILL I FOUND ALL OF THE LOVING AND CARING GLOBAL FAMILY MEMBERS HERE!!!!!! Walter

 

[rabbithole]

I have one friend who lives in another country. No friends at all "irl". but when I did yeah, I was the boring socially anxious one.

 

[Gnip]

I must really be the odd ball in Sanctioned Suicide, as far as I have never had any close friends. Not sounding like pity party but the few times that I reached out and tried to befriend someone, I always was burned bad. 2 quick examples, 1st one i tried to help out someone and he thought , I guess, that I was being snotty, as we went to another town, 30 mile from where both of us lived for a bar/restaurant and he drove off and I had to hitch a ride back 30 miles to my place. 2nd time, I let a "friend" use my atm card to get food, well she went and drained my bank account. After that I have had no more friends TILL I FOUND ALL OF THE LOVING AND CARING GLOBAL FAMILY MEMBERS HERE!!!!!! Walter

No, you're not the oddball in Sanctioned Suicide. After my mother, I will have nobody and will CTB before she can be interred. I have referred to "friends," but they have busy lives and responsibilities and my relationships are conducted with them remotely.

Even here I'm not fitting in, as Asperger's does manifest itself in typed form as well as in personal proximity contacts. (Posters with half the messages I do have two or three times as many reactions, yourself for one. Me: 445 messages, 949 reaction score. You: 540 messages, 1,866 reaction score. People are not connecting with me and my posts the way they are connecting with you and your posts. That is just the way it is and will remain. Asperger's is a psychiatrist administered euthanasia eligible condition for solid reasons.)

 

[MrBlue]

I actually almost died because of this once. A friend group I orbited were on an pedestrian island and when some other people joined us there wasn't enough room so they decided to push me into traffic. When I asked why they did it they said they'd prefer I died over other people in the class they had just bitched about seconds before they showed up.

 

[LonelyDude15]

I actually almost died because of this once. A friend group I orbited were on an pedestrian island and when some other people joined us there wasn't enough room so they decided to push me into traffic. When I asked why they did it they said they'd prefer I died over other people in the class they had just bitched about seconds before they showed up.

Those people suck and weren't your friends.

 

[Nymph]

Yeah, that's why I don't like friend groups. I'm mostly a loner

 

[LonelyDude15]

Does anyone feel like out of their friend groups, they have always been the least favorite?

Yes, all the time. Even when I've really liked people and tried to be useful there is some unappealing aspect about me. Previously I tried to improve myself so that I'd be better than them and some kind of "you'll be sorry" type of revenge but now I'm just really tired

 

[Mentalmick]

Yes us mentalists always seem to be on the outside looking in. It doesn't bother me that much when I'm awake, but my dreams are cruel as fuck.

 

[Captive of Mind]

Does anyone feel like out of their friend groups, they have always been the least favorite? I feel like my entire life I've been the friend that would be the first to get voted off the island if it really came down to it.

I won't go into it too much but basically from my entire life I can pull up a story where it was clear that I wasn't well liked. A resent event brought those feelings back.

Is this a common experience and I'm just overly sensitive? Idk. It seems like some people just have that "it" factor and everyone is drawn to them and loves them even if they're not a good friend or a good person and I feel like whatever that "it" factor is, I don't have it. People don't naturally gravitate towards me and it's very noticeable

I think this is a common experience but I also think my brain wasn't built for dealing with it well. Some people are okay with this fact enough to not have it affect them as heavily. I simply don't have what is required to maintain healthy relationships or be someone others are drawn to.