whose to say just because we are young that we don't have issues that will never go away? i've been through severe abuse and traumas and have a long list of mental illnesses that are far from just teenage hormones and i'm not even 20 yet. i have been mentally ill for over half of my life. i don't see anything getting better. my childhood was robbed from me and now i don't even know what it's like to feel okay. age does not equate to how bad your suffering is. being told that we should just give life a chance because we are young just makes it feel like people are just saying everything is growing pains. i don't think i'm going to grow out of this and i don't even care to stay to find out at this point. i just want it to end, i don't care about the rest of my life
Well , you kinda are ;)
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I fully agree with this, the OP didn't sound right at all, it's contradicting itself.
I think you are one of the smartest people I've ever met! Thank you so much for taking time and making a effort to write this down for all of us! You are ABSOLUTELY INCREDIBLE and I'm beyond thankful for this post and for you in general. And thankful for knowing you, even if it's a little bit.Well , you kinda are ;)
I understand your intentions were good, you were harshly and aggressively criticized, and I'm sorry for that -- I'm not here to criticize but to explain. "Give life a chance" -- which came from a genuine, emphatic, compassionate place -- is generally a hallow cliche without much meaning or help ; that members often hear on prolife helplines ; mentioned offhand without listening ; and often makes many even more depressed and stressed.
I really understand this did not come from a harmful place , but it can be easily perceived as condescending and dismissive (the way it was phrase). That's a problem. I generally try to be thoughtful with my words and not to trigger people, really thinking about every word I write, often rewriting posts before I click "post", even short ones.
I'm glad you are exploring people's situations here which is great . I'm just explaining why age or 'give a chance' (general) may be offensive for people who are sensitive to it.
People here are in active trauma situation . (that is pain & ctb) ... It's better to pay attention to wording .
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Polarizing -- and Wording
I personally don't appreciate some of the phrasing occasionally used in posts on this site in general and/or the way subjects are sometimes represented: young-old , men-women , physical-mental , etc. I'm not speaking about the OP but in general . Presenting subjects in a polarizing way is a problem . This binary / dichotomous thinking is not beneficial .
Especially as members have their own deep resentment -- against women/men, old/young , etc ; and further more they have anger from the way they were treated by society which they may turn onto others as individuals or group.
This is a really unique place where abused women may talk with previously abusive men -- about ctb.
I assume if someone is here they are tired , exhausted , angry , hurt , and distressed (and that's the good case scenario-- there's also seriously abused or in danger) . I don't think such people can spare their time and energy. I can tell you what's better for you, but I don't feel a suicidal group needs agitation or provocation (intentionally or not) . While there is free speech and I'm not 'telling anyone off' , I hope we can discuss our angst and pain , our suicidal ideation or options of recovery -- rather than turn blame towards each other or 'groups of people' .
Btw I have done a similar thing when I wrote about "well-off ignorant selfish Babyboomers" -- but I have detailed the caveats and who I'm referring to, and acknowledged it's just a portion of that demographic. I personally think that crude generalizations are not helpful nor constructive.
I can see these threads becoming toxic --- members just spew anger at each other. I understand the triggers and they are real , however we mostly have bigger problems than "offensive post"
I hope people will take all of that into consideration.
* I don't know if mods (@Hasssssuùuu ) should look into some profanities and personal attacks here . #toxic
See, I'm at the point where finding out I have an terminal illness actually sounds like a good thing. Somehow just to know that yes, there's an out coming would make things seem a bit more peaceful for me.
It's crazy that you actually quoted me a second before i edited my last post to referencing the same thought.
Well, having the illness also makes it just a tad more easy for people to accept it happened. Like, if I was on a countdown timer with a reference point, it would be even easier in my mind to justify finally just getting it over with. It might make it a bit easier for those who survive me to accept it.
Well , you kinda are ;)
I understand your intentions were good, you were harshly and aggressively criticized, and I'm sorry for that -- I'm not here to criticize but to explain. "Give life a chance" -- which came from a genuine, emphatic, compassionate place -- is generally a hollow cliche without much meaning or help ; that members often hear on prolife helplines ; mentioned offhand without listening ; and often makes many even more depressed and stressed.
I really understand this did not come from a harmful place , but it can be easily perceived as condescending and dismissive (the way it was phrase). That's a problem. I generally try to be thoughtful with my words and not to trigger people, really thinking about every word, often rewriting a lot before I click "post", even on short posts.
I'm glad you are exploring people's situations here. I'm just explaining why age or 'give a chance' (general) may be offensive for people.
People here are in active trauma situation . (that is pain & ctb) ... It's better to pay attention to wording .
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Polarizing -- and Wording
I'm personally less appreciative of some of the phrasing occasionally used on this site and/or the way subjects are sometimes represented: young-old , men-women , physical-mental , etc. I'm not speaking about the OP but in general. Presenting subjects in a polarizing way is a problem. This binary / dichotomous thinking is not beneficial.
Especially since many have deep resentment -- against women/men, old/young , etc ; and further more they have general anger from the way they were treated by society which they may turn onto others, as individuals or group.
This is a really unique place where abused women may talk with previously abusive men -- about ctb.
I assume if someone is here they are tired , exhausted , angry , hurt , and distressed (and that's the good case scenario compared to seriously abused or in real danger) . I don't think such people can spare their time and energy. I cannot tell others what's good for them, but I don't feel a suicidal group needs agitation or provocation (intentionally or not). While there is free speech and I'm not 'telling anyone off', I hope we can discuss our angst and pain, our suicidal
Sorry for your loss . Rest in peace to your parents
We're in a similar boat. I'm 28 and lost both of my parents to cancer as well.
Thank you for condolences. Yes, I've been diagnosed with recurrent depression. The depression comes and goes, at best I've had many depression-free months in a row. I warmly suggest looking it up if you think you might have it as well.
I'm so sorry for your loss, I hope you still have some family left.
