99% of people think like this commenter… and it’s scary

[glowing.purple.aura]

Of course I ended up seeing this while I was already feeling hopeless and wanting to die.

I swear… if you're anything like this commenter, just don't speak, ever. Those of us normal people left in the world will thank you.

This commenter is actually the worst type of person and it seems like everyone these days thinks and acts just like them. They try to justify their selfish actions too by calling them "boundaries"—no, you're just borderline evil.

And the worst part is… suffering will most likely never catch up to them. They'll just continue to live their happy lives while being rewarded by society for having no empathy whatsoever.

 

[SarahThrowsGin]

What's worse, is that this mentality "I'm your friend not a therapist" coexists with therapists who think they (therapists) should debate not validate you, because otherwise therapy wouldn't be different from friendship. Imagine having no friends as autistic person, having only those who will argue not support, then coming to therapy, where therapist decides your views need to be challenged (as if you don't get that for free in daily life). Worse yet, that therapy based on tearing into your views is considered "evidence-based" (CBT). No empathy in society, no empathy in therapy room even when you hire them for money (therapists working in approaches other than CBT can still, and often will in my experience, default to challenging your views, Socratic dialogue etc.).

 

[Jamesbond]

Are you expecting sympathy by posting things that would call for that response, or are you hoping they will have a magic wand and magic things better for you? What makes them a bad person in your eyes?

 

[glowing.purple.aura]

Are you expecting sympathy by posting things that would call for that response, or are you hoping they will have a magic wand and magic things better for you? What makes them a bad person in your eyes?

1. That's not my post, I just came across it
2. I don't even know how to reply to this because it doesn't make sense in response to what I posted... I never suggested that I wanted anyone to fix anything for me. I also think that the screenshot by itself is enough to show that they're a bad person... that's how they react to someone in desperate need of help and support. I don't know how to explain it any further to you.

 

[Jamesbond]

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1. That's not my post, I just came across it
2. I don't even know how to reply to this because it doesn't make sense in response to what I posted... I never suggested that I wanted anyone to fix anything for me. I also think that the screenshot by itself is enough to show that they're a bad person... that's how they react to someone in desperate need of help and support. I don't know how to explain it any further to you.

I don't think they are a bad person for saying that. I assumed it was your video my apologies for that. I know with my problems there is nobody that can help me with them. If I was to post something on a public platform I wouldn't be expecting someone to magically make me better. He's just wrote he doesn't know them and he's not a therapist. I don't see how that makes them a bad person. I believe now a days people look for reasons to find offence far too easily. It is what it is, just someone responding to a post with an opinion.

 

[owo]

1) social media is shit
2) friendship is degenerated and initial definition is not actual anymore
3) even if 2) wasnt true many others will dont care because of their garbage personality

 

[Jamesbond]

1) social media is shit
2) friendship is degenerated and initial definition is not actual anymore
3) even if 2) wasnt true many others will dont care because of their garbage personality

I don't think it's people don't care, everyone else has so much shit going on of thier own it's a lot to deal with other peoples problems. But you're right, social media in general is shit and not productive

 

[Forever Sleep]

I know I'm being really dense here but- I don't get it... What usually happens when the person in the image randomly tells people they love them then? Why aren't people accepting that they love them? Are they arguing back?

I suppose I'm just trying to recall it from a personal perspective. Usually, it's nice if someone tells you they love you or, appreciate you as a friend. If it's out of the blue though- it may indicate that they are feeling lonely and they want their love to be reciprocated.

So, why would they want the person to accept but ignore that? Wouldn't they actually want an: 'I love you too' in response to that? If they are sending the message out randomly and frequently though- it may lose potency.

I don't know- it just seems an odd phrase to me. I don't know if passive, aggressive is the right term but, it reads like that for me. 'I love you- just accept it.' So- loving but then- assertive and almost borderline aggressive: 'just put the phone down and accept it' is an order! We can't demand people accept our declarations of emotion in a certain way. They will respond in their own way.

The person in the image is saying- accept that I love you and put the phone down- so- accept my affection and shut up about it- effectively. Again- why is the recipient hesitant to accept it? The times when it does annoy me are when someone really has a go at me/ berates for something but then- ends with: 'I do love you'.

Maybe they nagged because they cared but people also nag and berate us because it suits them. They effectively upset you but then want reassurance that they haven't damaged the relationship. So- that feels manipulative in that moment. They upset you then, emotionally blackmail you into accepting their love and (hopefully) returning it. When- in that moment- you might be feeling angry with them. 'I love you' can be used manipulatively as well.

Maybe that's what the commenter meant. That they wouldn't be drawn into a discussion on what the person actually meant. They would do as they asked- just accept the text and not be pulled into a heated discussion.

Really though- if you received that as a message from someone- wouldn't you feel like you'd done something wrong to them? It sounds more aggressive/ manipulative to me- rather than purely friendly and loving.