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Emissary of the right to die.
- Aug 30, 2018
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This is a common phrase and/or similar wording (but ultimately the same thing, same meaning at the end of the day) said to suicidal or depressed people. I see this a lot of many subreddits on Reddit. I am going to explain why it is like a dismissive tactic. It is dismissive because it ignores the person's reasons for feeling depressed or suicidal and instead, just brushes aside said person's perspective as invalid while at the same time projecting their perspective to the suicidal, depressed person. It is also gaslighting such that it brings up the credibility of the sufferer's plight by questioning his/her rationality.
This isn't limited to online forums and Reddit as well. It is also prevalent with Mental Health Professionals (MHPs) when they are talking to their patient. In the past (a few years ago), I have been to many of them and this is one subtle way of them trying to dismiss what I have to say, my feelings, my reasons for feeling the way I do. Mind you, I never talked directly about suicide (for obvious reasons) but just the things that bothered me IRL. It is incredibly invalidating, dismissive, and rude for them to do that. Sure, if therapy means to ignore the reasons and causes of why someone may feel the way they do (I know not all MHPs and not all therapy is like that, but I'm talking about the general case here), then project another view (oftenly self-centered) onto said patient, then it's not helpful, it's gaslighting at it's finest. Of course, after making up my mind and the experiences I had, I have decided never to see them again (for many other reasons too; not limited solely to this one).
Has anyone experienced this before either online, IRL, or through MHPs?
This isn't limited to online forums and Reddit as well. It is also prevalent with Mental Health Professionals (MHPs) when they are talking to their patient. In the past (a few years ago), I have been to many of them and this is one subtle way of them trying to dismiss what I have to say, my feelings, my reasons for feeling the way I do. Mind you, I never talked directly about suicide (for obvious reasons) but just the things that bothered me IRL. It is incredibly invalidating, dismissive, and rude for them to do that. Sure, if therapy means to ignore the reasons and causes of why someone may feel the way they do (I know not all MHPs and not all therapy is like that, but I'm talking about the general case here), then project another view (oftenly self-centered) onto said patient, then it's not helpful, it's gaslighting at it's finest. Of course, after making up my mind and the experiences I had, I have decided never to see them again (for many other reasons too; not limited solely to this one).
Has anyone experienced this before either online, IRL, or through MHPs?