Yet, she says she loves me...

[WornOutLife]

So, I met this girl some weeks ago and we really got on quite well and I ended up telling her my true feelings about life and death, in other words, that I'm planning to ctb some day and yet, she still says she understands my way of thinking and would like to spend the rest of her days with me by her side, so...

Is it too good to be true?

What should I do? Shall I believe her? I mean, she doesn't seem to be lying... but... I don't wanna break any hearts nor get mine broken...

Thus, any advice shall be appreciated!

Hugs and love,

Matt

 

[Worndown]

Believe her for now. Time will tell if she is as serious as you. If she is, you have found a true friend.

 

[Disco Biscuit]

Hey Matt! Nice to see you again :)

Congratulations on meeting someone you're able to be completely honest with. She sounds really lovely.

You should enjoy your time together. It must be great to feel that you're carrying around a big secret about yourself and you can be yourself around her. You know what, we're all going to die eventually and many people enter relationships with this caveat - that it's not forever in eternity. Every relationship ends eventually - through death or breakup - but many just assume that the end is a long way off in the future.

You should enjoy this gift of human connection that's come your way and who knows, you might even gain a different perspective on things. You might not of course but you have the opportunity for some fun and happiness and living in the moment with this girl.

You've done the right thing in being honest about your suicidal ideation, right from the start. Many people enter relationships carrying far worse problems or disclosures. Just remember to always be kind, open and honest with her and allow yourself to have some fun. :)

 

[whywere]

HI Matt!!
My cheesy opinion is this:
Life is way short, unless there is some financial aspect to be considered then I say go for it! I have been alone for way too long and it is so nice to have someone to watch a sunset with.

The fantastic part to all of this is: She might be your true soul mate and you and the young lady might have a life long love affair, HOW WONDERFUL!!!, and see each other into old age together.

I truly wish YOU all the love and GOD speed with lots of love and kindness towards you and your lady friend.

Walter

 

[ExhaustedExistence]

People are disappointment. They can make you feel good for a while but then they make you feel only worse. Don't trust anybody. I believed someone could really like me only once and then he didn't even say why he doesn't talk to me anymore. I realized that true love doesn't exist and nothing like soul mates is real. I really believed he could be the one even though we have never really met. If you trust anybody you will only end up heart broken. Just like me. So don't be so naive. Love makes you only vulnerable. That's it.

 

[death137]

I believe true love doesn't exist but what we call love can be very important so I say go for it and enjoy it while it last.

 

[Sakura94]

She probably will try to save you. It's probably not a bad thing

 

[Anonymous_A]

Wouldn't really be the best idea to tell a person you've only known a few weeks that you plan to ctb.

Probably won't end well but hey, you do you

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

My thoughts are to take it slow and see how it goes. I don't know if I would have brought up the "S" word after a few weeks but she seems ok with it. I wouldn't talk about it all the time unless she brings it up first. Hopefully it's something that can last.

 

[stygal]

Like most people already suggested: Just keep going with this relationship and maybe take it slow (not trying to idolize her too much or think this could never end) & enjoy every moment you have together in the present - nobody can really say what the future holds - not even normies/non-suicidal-folk are guaranteed a lasting bond.

 

[Lmd]

It's easy to support these things when you don't have strong bonds with the other one so I find it naive to believe these things in the begining of a relationship when you barely know how both of you are gonna handle it. If she makes your life easier and makes you feel good then go ahead, why not.

 

[justsayin]

It takes more than a few weeks to get to know someone. You can not love someone you don't know well, but you can like someone a lot.

What should you do? Just relax and enjoy the ride.

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

If you have to actively decide to believe her I guess you don't. But that's unimportant, what matters is getting rid of the skin hunger et. al.

 

[BluesRunTheGame]

Marry her.

ASAP.

 

[Gaybonez]

So, I met this girl some weeks ago and we really got on quite well and I ended up telling her my true feelings about life and death, in other words, that I'm planning to ctb some day and yet, she still says she understands my way of thinking and would like to spend the rest of her days with me by her side, so...

Is it too good to be true?

What should I do? Shall I believe her? I mean, she doesn't seem to be lying... but... I don't wanna break any hearts nor get mine broken...

Thus, any advice shall be appreciated!

Hugs and love,

Matt

Are you sure this is a productive use of your time? You're a suicidal man and you plan on entering a relationship. I mean, if you can't see what's wrong there then good luck. You could spend the time on this relationship in therapy or a hobby.

 

[Pharmaruined]

Don't expect anything. This is what leads to misery.. just enjoy the days with her.. if she changes her mind so be it. If u change your mind about her so be it.

Live in the now, mentally stay in the now.. no dreams or fantasizing of the future, mapping out your life etc etc.. and u won't get heartbroken if it all crashes down.. this is how the Tibet monks do it . And it makes sense .

 

[FuneralCry]

The way I see it, people can be very disappointing and can let us down and that can cause us a lot of pain, but I guess I am very pessimistic. At the same time, I wish you the best with it and you are lucky to have someone that seems to support you and your views.

 

[Apathy's Girl]

You obviously find something about this woman as trustworthy otherwise you would not have talked to her about life and death. I think being upfrontwith her was the right thing to do - and she still wants to be with you.

 

[Grav]

Like others said, I also say go slow but if things are positive for you enjoy it. Sometimes it's easy to fall into a "he/she gets me!" and get in too quick and too deep (ask me how I know) and then get burned. Not knowing how much you two interacted, telling her how you look at the world and feel is not always a bad thing and clears some potential misconceptions. She may have had the same thoughts or is aware that not everyone is walking on clouds and is accepting you as you. Either way count pleasant time you spend together as a positive. At some point you might want to get her thoughts on your statement.

 

[Lolkillme]

So, I met this girl some weeks ago and we really got on quite well and I ended up telling her my true feelings about life and death, in other words, that I'm planning to ctb some day and yet, she still says she understands my way of thinking and would like to spend the rest of her days with me by her side, so...

Is it too good to be true?

What should I do? Shall I believe her? I mean, she doesn't seem to be lying... but... I don't wanna break any hearts nor get mine broken...

Thus, any advice shall be appreciated!

Hugs and love,

Matt

In my experience this was too good to be true, she took advantage of my outlook and used it to be abusive spiraling me into the worst depression of my life. Do what you want but my advice is not to trust people with your heart, as some people will use it to walk all over you

So, I met this girl some weeks ago and we really got on quite well and I ended up telling her my true feelings about life and death, in other words, that I'm planning to ctb some day and yet, she still says she understands my way of thinking and would like to spend the rest of her days with me by her side, so...

Is it too good to be true?

What should I do? Shall I believe her? I mean, she doesn't seem to be lying... but... I don't wanna break any hearts nor get mine broken...

Thus, any advice shall be appreciated!

Hugs and love,

Matt

Also if you met her weeks ago and she actually says she loves you then be extra careful. Ask yourself what someone with a healthy mindset would do. That's exactly what happened to me and I believed her. Literally the worst relationship I've ever been in. The lies, the screaming, the manipulation... literally a nightmare.

 

[KuriGohan&Kamehameha]

Only time will tell. You should take things slowly with her and try to get a good feel for who she is as a person. Don't jump into things too quickly, that was my mistake. Revisit the conversation in 6 months time, then a year, and see what she has to say then. A lot of people's patience and empathy tends to run dry the longer they have to provide support and compassion.

 

[LansJ70]

Why is his name crossed out?

 

[Snake of Eden]

Why is his name crossed out?

I was thinking the same thing. It is really weird. First he took his picture down then his name got crossed out

 

[Apricity]

I think he self banned. Either CTB or that woman changed his life for the better. I hope for him that it was the second reason.

 

[Journeytoletgo]

Wow, is he okay?

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

I think he self banned. Either CTB or that woman changed his life for the better. I hope for him that it was the second reason.

I can only hope things got better. I will miss him but I want him to be happy.

 

[Journeytoletgo]

I can only hope things got better. I will miss him but I want him to be happy.

Me too. He was such a kind person always replying to everyone here. I hope he's okay no matter his choice