Would you rather get a goodbye letter or not?

[Sadness20]

Someone I like, just told me she wouldn't want a goodbye letter, would you?
If you were a loved one, would you rather get a goodbye letter or not?

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

I would assume yes. Although I don't really feel anything at this point so nothing really matters.
I think most people will be able to figure out why I had done it… If I had the energy or motivation I would at least try to say goodbye to all my friends and family and let them know How much I appreciate their love…

 

[WorthlessTrash]

Maybe. To clear up why person CTB'd if nothing else.

 

[outrider567]

Well, mine is a more of a to-whom-it-may-concern- letter

 

[Cathy Ames]

Yes. I have a huge lack of closure and no way to get it now.

 

[outatime_85]

I would leave notes; they would also have my journals as well.

 

[Seeking_Peace]

No. I'd want the person to leave without expressed guilt.
I don't plan on leaving a note given the context would be extremely negative and I'd have a ton of negative words for particular people. Also, I don't want to give anyone power over my death.

 

[Lebensunwertes]

Should my time come I will leave all my journals. I recently finished writing in the third notepad. I have been keeping a journal since 2015 as this was my only shoulder to cry on. My final entry will be my suicide note I guess. I'm going to simply describe what made me take up such decision and how I reflect on life.

 

[Hirokami]

The closure would be nice, though I wouldn't want to put pressure on an already suffering person. It would be entirely up to them.

 

[Sittichmutter]

Yes, a letter, notes, anything...
For the ones that are left behind, the doubt, pain and guilt are unbearable.
People who Ctb, many times, do not feel loved by their families. It is the depression twisting the perception of reality.
It is important to tell the reasons and the pain, so people can try to understand.
Yes, a letter, notes, anything...
For the ones that are left behind, the doubt, pain and guilt are unbearable.
People who Ctb, many times, do not feel loved by their families. It is the depression twisting the perception of reality.
It is important to tell the reasons and the pain, so people can try to understand.

 

[hellispink]

I would not leave anything. I feel like it is too much to explain and it is exhausting expressing myself with people I never was able to be myself with. I feel like they do not care so I would not really waste my time.

 

[FuneralCry]

I would personally. To me, it would be better than nothing and maybe it would give me some understanding as to why the person chose to do this. Without a note, I would be left with unanswered questions. I think that in general, notes can be a form of closure.

 

[Midnight-rain]

I know I would. I'm not super close with many individuals anymore. Likely to be gone in a few months. But closure is a power tool.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Yes, definitely. Relatives have left notes for me after natural deaths and they have been a great source of comfort. I imagine there are a lot of unanswered questions after suicide and it must go some way to answering them.

Still- I do understand when people feel like they can't be authentically nice in them. If there are grievances that maybe they don't see much point in expressing but at the same time- can't honestly leave out- then I can see why someone wouldn't leave a note.