Would ctb be the ultimate disrespect to family?

[Bruces]

Is it the worst thing you can do to family?

 

[muffin222]

I don't think so. It's incredibly hurtful and devastating to family, perhaps, but I don't see it as a disrespect. It's your free-will choice about your own fate

 

[InTheAirTonight]

No. Although the severity may change if you have dependent children or people who depend on you.

I'm young and single and I personally feel zero sympathy for my family's sorrow for many reasons.

 

[mathieu]

I think if you've got kids it's pretty devastating to them, but if not people sort of cope.

 

[nervousandanxious]

That's why I'm so fearful! I don't want to let my mother down. I don't have much of extended family and I'm not very close with my immediate family either. I feel like I have no one who truly loves me (besides my mom -.-), and this is why I want to go. Just feeling unlovable, is an awful thing. I've waited long enough but each year does not improve and I'm just getting older n older, which is something I fear.

 

[Notabadguy]

My loving parents are 66 and 70 yo, and I know they'll be devastated. Maybe the end of their lives. I feel bad.

 

[FriendofDeath]

It's absolutely the worst pain I have ever felt, and it has left me changed. I don't know that I'd use disrespect to describe it, especially if those left behind try to understand your reason for ctb.

 

[nervousandanxious]

My loving parents are 66 and 70 yo, and I know they'll be devastated. Maybe the end of their lives. I feel bad.

Yeah that's what I was thinking: to end my life after they are both deceased. So that I will not hurt them if I were to end my life before them. That's my only concern. I don't want to upset my mother. She would be devastated and bawling her eyes out. We have to be selfless and remember there are a few people who care about us in this world. . . even if we don't see it.

 

[Cosmiq]

I'm not sure if I think it's disrespectful. At most I think it can be hurtful, or they may feel some sort of shame or embarrassment. Like they failed as parents.

 

[autumnal]

Is it the worst thing you can do to family?

Any family for whom the primary reaction to your suicide is feeling disrespected is exactly the kind of family one would want to escape by suicide in the first place!

If you meant something a lot broader than 'disrespect', such as hurt or disappoint, then obviously the answer can be yes, and that is something you need to weigh up in your decision.

 

[Bluesummers]

Three reasons why I'm not sure I can do it (and I suppose it can be the same for many people)

1) The need for a painless and reliable method
2) Survival instinct and, of course
3) Pain and probably life-ending I would bring to my parents (not a question of respect)