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- Aug 31, 2020
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TlL;DR: My Dad is fighting for full custody of my 16-year old sister. We just went to court yesterday, but we won't hear the results for a few weeks. Is it possible that my death, given that I am currently living with my father, could possibly impact the courts decision to grant my father custody?
We have had my sister on temporary emergency orders since February of this year on the grounds of a bed bug infestation at my Mom's house. They are not gone, but there are very few bugs left, but my Dad and the family who lives with him are much more emotionally stable than my Mom, and I personally think it will be incredibly important for my sisters mental health and high school success after my death that she stay with my Dad.
However, given that I moved out of my Mom's house to live with my father, I am worried that a suicide at my Dad's house may be enough grounds for my Mom to request her own temporary emergency custody order to regain my sister. I suspect she might try and argue that my Dad's house is affecting my mental health and thus possibly my sisters (and although this isn't true, I don't know if the court could see it that way). Even if they end up siding with my dad, a continued custody battle will definitely impact her especially while she is dealing with grief and social isolation due to COVID. I know it is a bit of a stretch, but I can't ask anyone irl about this without also giving away the fact that I am planning to die.
I am planning on leaving a very detailed note specifically for the court in the event my Mom attempts this, but I don't want to hurt my family more than is necessary.
I still have some things I need to do before I die, but I'm sure I will get done with them long before my sister will be in a good enough mental place to deal with my Mom's stuff, or old enough that Mom's decisions won't even matter.
We have had my sister on temporary emergency orders since February of this year on the grounds of a bed bug infestation at my Mom's house. They are not gone, but there are very few bugs left, but my Dad and the family who lives with him are much more emotionally stable than my Mom, and I personally think it will be incredibly important for my sisters mental health and high school success after my death that she stay with my Dad.
However, given that I moved out of my Mom's house to live with my father, I am worried that a suicide at my Dad's house may be enough grounds for my Mom to request her own temporary emergency custody order to regain my sister. I suspect she might try and argue that my Dad's house is affecting my mental health and thus possibly my sisters (and although this isn't true, I don't know if the court could see it that way). Even if they end up siding with my dad, a continued custody battle will definitely impact her especially while she is dealing with grief and social isolation due to COVID. I know it is a bit of a stretch, but I can't ask anyone irl about this without also giving away the fact that I am planning to die.
I am planning on leaving a very detailed note specifically for the court in the event my Mom attempts this, but I don't want to hurt my family more than is necessary.
I still have some things I need to do before I die, but I'm sure I will get done with them long before my sister will be in a good enough mental place to deal with my Mom's stuff, or old enough that Mom's decisions won't even matter.