Venting why would my parents bring me into this shit if they have seen it first hand?

[Darkover]

It makes no fucking sense at all, your parents got horny another accident happened

No one asked to be born yet we are supposed to be grateful for this.
I fail to see the appeal with life, as if the mere fact of being alive should somehow outweigh the difficulties they face.

anyone that complains "life is hard man" then has kids is not only a hypocrite but an asshole

 

[zekeyaeger]

some people are selfish as hell. they see kids as a meal ticket. fuck 'em.

 

[Outsider]

Sadly, many people don't give much thought before bringing a new life into the world. Sometimes, they simply want to have sex, and a child becomes an unwanted side effect. Others may think a child is like a pet that can be discarded once theyre mature.

 

[Darkover]

Sadly, many people don't give much thought before bringing a new life into the world. Sometimes, they simply want to have sex, and a child becomes an unwanted side effect. Others may think a child is like a pet that can be discarded once theyre mature

It's true that many people bring children into the world with little forethought, treating the decision casually, or even unintentionally, without much regard for the life that follows. The reality is that many don't fully grasp—or maybe don't even try to grasp—the responsibility, sacrifice, and challenges involved in raising a child. For some, the romanticized notion of having children is shattered by the hard work, personal sacrifice, and endless obligations that come afterward, leaving them feeling overwhelmed or even indifferent.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I can't say I understand it either but, most of the couples I know really wanted children- not just sex. I don't think they hated life as much as I do though. Maybe they truly did/ do see life as a great experience to give to someone. Again- I don't understand that but for now at least (thankfully,) their children do seem ok.

I do find it worrying when people have children to fill a gap in their lives I suppose. Like, an emotional crutch. I suppose that doesn't necessarily mean they will be a bad parent or, their child will grow up to be unhappy.

It's just quite a bizarre idea though- to my mind but, cloaked in the whole- it's natural. But it's like- it's an experience they want to have. They want to experience that intense need of them I suppose- leading to an intense love. (In theory.)

But- this is a whole independent life you are creating to do this. It's not like signing up for a course to learn a new skill, joining social activities or dating sites to form new relationships, buying some fashion accessory to make you feel good. This is a whole life that will bring about a variety of good and bad consequences- and the bad things are unavoidable.

It makes you wonder- if it were another setting. A science experiement say. Press this button and a new life form will pop into existence. Bear in mind though what nasty as well as nice things could happen to it throughout the course of its life. Some of those things absolutely will happen. It will have to die at some point. I wonder if in addition, if they were told they would be looking after this being, whether that would make them more likely to do it. I think it actually would in a lot of cases. I think plenty of people do think they could give a child a good life. I suppose some of them can and do. My parents weren't exactly terrible. Maybe, if they haven't experienced the level of unhappiness a lot of people on this forum have, it doesn't fully occur to them that that could realistically happen- regardless of how gooder job they do.

 

[ghost-shock]

They are selfish. They do it without thinking about the quality of life we are going to have.

 

[divinemistress87]

They do it to make them happy

 

[yumeganai]

lol i genuinely believe my mother only had me because she wanted me to be her retirement plan. she fell of with my older siblings and i'm the youngest. she's constantly doing shit to get me on her "good side" (minus the abuse) and whenever i pay off a bill for her she never thanks me like i'm supposed to be paying her shit for her. she's also always talking about "when we get a house" or "when i get a job and can buy her a new car" lol