I can't say I understand it either but, most of the couples I know
really wanted children- not just sex.
I don't think they hated life as much as I do though. Maybe they truly did/ do see life as a great experience to give to someone. Again- I don't understand that but for now at least (thankfully,) their children do seem ok.
I do find it worrying when people have children to fill a gap in their lives I suppose. Like, an emotional crutch. I suppose that doesn't necessarily mean they will be a bad parent or, their child will grow up to be unhappy.
It's just quite a bizarre idea though- to my mind but, cloaked in the whole- it's natural. But it's like- it's an experience
they want to have.
They want to experience that intense need of them I suppose- leading to an intense love. (In theory.)
But- this is a whole independent life you are creating to do this. It's not like signing up for a course to learn a new skill, joining social activities or dating sites to form new relationships, buying some fashion accessory to make you feel good. This is a whole life that will bring about a variety of good and bad consequences- and the bad things are unavoidable.
It makes you wonder- if it were another setting. A science experiement say. Press this button and a new life form will pop into existence. Bear in mind though what nasty as well as nice things could happen to it throughout the course of its life. Some of those things
absolutely will happen. It will have to die at some point. I wonder if in addition, if they were told they would be looking after this being, whether that would make them more likely to do it. I think it actually would in a lot of cases. I think plenty of people do think they could give a child a good life. I suppose some of them can and do. My parents weren't exactly terrible. Maybe, if they haven't experienced the level of unhappiness a lot of people on this forum have, it doesn't fully occur to them that that could realistically happen- regardless of how gooder job they do.
