Why is it so hard to find help?

[blackdogs]

I've recently started looking for help and I have never experienced so much aggravation to help myself. This is started to border on excruciating.

 

[Life_and_Death]

lack of understanding from other humans and government mental health systems suck. honestly i mostly help myself

 

[Lilacmoon]

a lot of it is useless. many don't know how to help even if they want to. others think surface level stuff is enough help. (just try smiling more hehe.) take into account waiting lists, covid concerns being the priority, the NHS (if you're in the UK) and well, it's really hard to help.
helping is hard.
good luck to you.

 

[Weather]

Here, here. They always say to reach out and ask for help when you are depressed/suicidal... but actually finding this supposed "help" is darn near impossible. Good on you for trying, though. I'm proud of you.

 

[Emily_Numb]

What sort of help? Very vague post to actually give any sort of meaningful answer to.

 

[MichaelNomad123]

Mental health help is in its infancy. It isn't really treated with the same importance as other fields. Furthermore, the folks running the show are extremely detached from the plight of the modern man where depression is rife. They don't care. There are other issues of course and ultimately it depends on where you live. If you lived in the UK, I would tell you to go to your GP and tell them your problems. They will likely refer you to a mental health professional on the NHS. If they don't, you can insist on it and they have to do it anyway.

 

[Emily_Numb]

Mental health help is in its infancy. It isn't really treated with the same importance as other fields. Furthermore, the folks running the show are extremely detached from the plight of the modern man where depression is rife. They don't care. There are other issues of course and ultimately it depends on where you live. If you lived in the UK, I would tell you to go to your GP and tell them your problems. They will likely refer you to a mental health professional on the NHS. If they don't, you can insist on it and they have to do it anyway.

Are you in the UK? You won't just get referred to the CMHT because you asked your GP once. Doesn't really work like that.

More often that not your GP will be your first line of 'therapy' and care. Will likely want to try you on medications first. Waiting's lists for anything MH related on the NHS are crazy. Months upon months for therapies in some areas.

Having money doesn't make you any better either. As someone who has spent thousands upon thousands on private mental healthcare, it's no better. Faster yes, doesn't fix you though.

Does OP mean excruciating because they can't get the help they think they need or require or they it's painful going through the healing process?

Like I said, this post is open to so many interpretations without further detail.

 

[MichaelNomad123]

Are you in the UK? You won't just get referred to the CMHT because you asked your GP once. Doesn't really work like that.

More often that not your GP will be your first line of 'therapy' and care. Will likely want to try you on medications first. Waiting's lists for anything MH related on the NHS are crazy. Months upon months for therapies in some areas.

Having money doesn't make you any better either. As someone who has spent thousands upon thousands on private mental healthcare, it's no better. Faster yes, doesn't fix you though.

Does OP mean excruciating because they can't get the help they think they need or require or they it's painful going through the healing process?

Like I said, this post is open to so many interpretations without further detail.

I am in Northern Ireland. That's exactly how it works here. From experience and from third party accounts.

Waiting lists are long, yes.

I don't think it matters what the OP means. Any information is useful information. You're being too literal.

 

[blackdogs]

Mental health help is in its infancy. It isn't really treated with the same importance as other fields. Furthermore, the folks running the show are extremely detached from the plight of the modern man where depression is rife. They don't care. There are other issues of course and ultimately it depends on where you live. If you lived in the UK, I would tell you to go to your GP and tell them your problems. They will likely refer you to a mental health professional on the NHS. If they don't, you can insist on it and they have to do it anyway.

Unfortunately I'm not in the uk

Are you in the UK? You won't just get referred to the CMHT because you asked your GP once. Doesn't really work like that.

More often that not your GP will be your first line of 'therapy' and care. Will likely want to try you on medications first. Waiting's lists for anything MH related on the NHS are crazy. Months upon months for therapies in some areas.

Having money doesn't make you any better either. As someone who has spent thousands upon thousands on private mental healthcare, it's no better. Faster yes, doesn't fix you though.

Does OP mean excruciating because they can't get the help they think they need or require or they it's painful going through the healing process?

Like I said, this post is open to so many interpretations without further detail.

I haven't yet been able to start any kind of healing process.

 

[Gentleman]

My advice is don't pay much attention to the stigma. Remember when you stare into the abyss the abyss stares back at you. Focus on the positive.

 

[Wisdom3_1-9]

I don't think help really exists. I hate to sound so negative, but it's just what I've come to realize. "Help" is just "hurt" in a series of disguises.

 

[signifying nothing]

You might try looking at some of the apps available, depending on what kind of help you're after.

 

[kappa]

Here, here. They always say to reach out and ask for help when you are depressed/suicidal... but actually finding this supposed "help" is darn near impossible. Good on you for trying, though. I'm proud of you.

Yeah telling someone your suicidal is a great way to be forced into your ER and possibly the mental hospital.

 

[SweetSurrender]

I've given up on therapy. I have had so many negative experiences, though I've have some nice therapists too. Even then I feel like they like they don't know how with my problems.