Why are people generally fake happy when they talk to people?

[Close_to_freedom]

It's so annoying. Another reason in my long list of reasons to ctb.

 

[Outsider]

Cause if you are yourself, especially being sad and depressed people will reject and avoid you. They see you as having some kind of infectious disease. So you fake happy to fit in.

 

[ceelo]

It's so annoying. Another reason in my long list of reasons to ctb.

it's an american thing.

 

[TAW122]

Cause if you are yourself, especially being sad and depressed people will reject and avoid you. They see you as having some kind of infectious disease. So you fake happy to fit in.

This is a good answer, and I learned this the "hard" way. During my teenage years, I oftenly just didn't care about what society or the world around me thought and decided that if I felt sad, Idgaf, I want to show the world my "sadness". Only then did I learn that they world didn't give a shit, the people who (fake) concern, care, only did it out of pity, for their own agenda, or my favorite the religious proselytizers who treat the vulnerable (emotionally and physically, both) as some sort of 'project' they are working on. It absolutely infuriated me in my early 20's and only then did I decide to hide my pains, hide red flags, and then later decide that it was a me vs the world thing. I am absolutely alone in this world when it comes to topics of suicide, CTB, right to die, and no-one outside of this forum would empathize or give me time of day. This is why I am able to be fully myself here, but not IRL.

 

[GoBack]

It's survival isn't it, people have to pretend to be ok cause if not they're leavin themselves open and maybe get hurt.

 

[Soul]

It may be exaggerated in the US but it's not confined to the US. No one wants to hear about other people's problems; if I hear about them I might have to deal with them and get involved in who knows what and end up in the TANK! or in some elderly's apartment that smells funky.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

Seems a really broad and amorphous statement that people are generally fake happy when they talk to people.

How? Like putting on a hyperbolic smile when one talks to a baby and goes "goo goo goo"? Examples to describe what's being claimed would help.

 

[GoBack]

Seems a really broad and amorphous statement that people are generally fake happy when they talk to people.

How? Like putting on a hyperbolic smile when one talks to a baby and goes "goo goo goo"? Examples to describe what's being claimed would help.

Stepford wives

 

[SpottedPanda]

It might not be a matter of faking happy, but more to do with appearing to be friendly. It's just socially congenial that way.

If we didn't come across with at least a slither of high energy, society might grind to a halt with everyone asking what's wrong every five minutes, not to mention the concern directed at someone who didn't care about appearing to be friendly.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

Stepford wives

Okay, that's one example. I can comprehend it.

But widely generizable?

 

[MaybeSoon]

Humans are animals.. animals don't like to show weakness. That's about it.

 

[ghostspace]

I like making other people happy so generally I pretend to be happy. I'm a quite cheerful person, despite being a deeply unhappy one, so I prefer to have a positive affect on those around me because it gives me a small spark of joy.

 

[BitterlyAlive]

Social norms and acceptance play huge role. Also, personally, I try to fake it til I make it.