Help why am i like this?

[chemicalctb]

ive had a gambling problem for a long time and it just worsens my depression and now i was sent money by my thoughtful parents so i can travel to maybe lessen my depression a bit since it has reached new highs recently, but i lost that gambling and i dont have the guts to tell them. my mother insisted i see a psychotherapist, what are your experiences with them? its probable that the psychotherapist will relay to my mother information(they are close friends) how can i game the therapist to my advantage to give the illusion of being perfectly fine and without any(gambling or other) problem? i can just not tell her anything at all the whole session, but im not sure how those sessions work so any advice would be helpful, thanks in advance.

 

[Pineapplecrown]

Maybe you should push for a psychotherapist that isnt close friends with your mother.

 

[52shriek]

Yup, a therapist who's close friends with your mother raises big red flags to me

 

[Johnnythefox]

Could you not say that you have found your own therapist.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

Well you're an adult, so the therapist can't just break confidentiality on a non life-threatening matter just because they are friends with your mom. Make sure you sign an agreement to that effect before starting any sessions and you should be good to go.

 

[chemicalctb]

Could you not say that you have found your own therapist.

therapists here are mostly in it to make money they are ripoffs and unprofessional, she is not friends with my mother because of outside work relations, she is friends with her cuz my mom used to take us to her when we were little due to a barrage of problems at home and otherwise, which she kinda fixed, however i find the idea of telling someone else what is really going on for them to tell me "u need to drink more water" or "you should stop gambling" like yeah i know but why would i pay money to be told the obvious.

 

[chemicalctb]

Well you're an adult, so the therapist can't just break confidentiality on a non life-threatening matter just because they are friends with your mom. Make sure you sign an agreement to that effect before starting any sessions and you should be good to go.

interesting input, ill make sure to get her to sign an agreement before opening my mouth, she cant break that because i will sue her if she does, thanks man.

 

[Winona]

From my experience I can say that the therapist makes a conclusion only on the basis of what you will tell her yourself. She will not be able to influence you and extract any information, that you don't want to tell (e.g. under hypnosis). Not telling anything seems to be not the best option, as she may suspect that you are hiding something and may try to make you talk. In order not to arouse suspicion and not to lie, you can tell about any real but insignificant troubles that bother you, for example, something about your work or about relationships with your friends.

 

[chemicalctb]

From my experience I can say that the therapist makes a conclusion only on the basis of what you will tell her yourself. She will not be able to influence you and extract any information, that you don't want to tell (e.g. under hypnosis). Not telling anything seems to be not the best option, as she may suspect that you are hiding something and may try to make you talk. In order not to arouse suspicion and not to lie, you can tell about any real but insignificant troubles that bother you, for example, something about your work or about relationships with your friends.

you're right, there alot of things i just dont want to tell her, so i just make mountains out of small problems( ie my gambling) and let her try to fix that. seems reasonable as i wont be regarded as hiding information.. interesting inputs keep the advice flowing guys i love you all.

 

[Johnnythefox]

therapists here are mostly in it to make money they are ripoffs and unprofessional, she is not friends with my mother because of outside work relations, she is friends with her cuz my mom used to take us to her when we were little due to a barrage of problems at home and otherwise, which she kinda fixed, however i find the idea of telling someone else what is really going on for them to tell me "u need to drink more water" or "you should stop gambling" like yeah i know but why would i pay money to be told the obvious.

I agree that most therapists are money motivated. I was suggesting that you lie to your mother and say that you have a therapist when you do not.

 

[Justanotherconsumer]

Alcoholics in recovery don't go to bars. If you want recovery from gambling don't go to casinos.

 

[Ben]

If you're going to "game" a therapist or try to create illusions for them, do not go. They are trained to spot things like this, and trying to hide things will likely just make it easier to spot a issue.

Therapy is only for you. If you don't want it, don't go. If I were you, I would look into gambling addiction treatment. If gambling is to blame for a majority of your pain, then start there if you want to try and get better. Who knows, maybe if you kicked the gambling habit, there wouldn't even be a reason to talk to a therapist anymore.

 

[chemicalctb]

If you're going to "game" a therapist or try to create illusions for them, do not go. They are trained to spot things like this, and trying to hide things will likely just make it easier to spot a issue.

Therapy is only for you. If you don't want it, don't go. If I were you, I would look into gambling addiction treatment. If gambling is to blame for a majority of your pain, then start there if you want to try and get better. Who knows, maybe if you kicked the gambling habit, there wouldn't even be a reason to talk to a therapist anymore.

i should definitely try to actually get help from the therapist, but my gambling started due to my depression, i felt happy when i won, it took me in a moment of vulnerability and then destroyed me with really good ups and incredibly low downs..