Who do you want to attend your funeral?

[persepexa]

I have a few people I would love to come to my funeral but I know they would never so it's hard to think about. My best friends of years disowned me when I went to prison. Now they wouldn't spit on me if I was on fire. I doubt they'll even find out when I CTB. Is there anyone that you would like at your funeral, regardless of whether or not they would come?

 

[dontwakemeup]

I don't want a funeral. If I do have one, I hope nobody knows and shows up. I lived my life alone so don't come to disrespect me and say goodbye.

 

[Nervous young man]

Is there an option for nobody. I don't even want a funeral, people didn't care about me when I was alive why would that change when I'm dead and even worse is the mere possibility that people would grieve over me. I don't deserve it at all its a complete waste of time. I hope anyone I ever cared about or ever cared about me is simply apathetic to my death.

 

[BorderlineQ]

I have two friends that I used to have that I want to be invited, but I don't expect them to come. Otherwise I assume family will be there. My biggest stipulation is that I have two coworker I do not want there by any means.

 

[persepexa]

I don't want a funeral. If I do have one, I hope nobody knows and shows up. I lived my life alone so don't come to disrespect me and say goodbye.

I can respect that. I used to think that way too. But I've come to terms with the fact that once I CTB that's out of my control and there will be a funeral and probably a write up in the local paper. I imagine maybe even a fundraiser since it's a small town and they like to rally around families in times like that, although I am very unpopular in my hometown so that might not happen.

Is there an option for nobody. I don't even want a funeral, people didn't care about me when I was alive why would that change when I'm dead and even worse is the mere possibility that people would grieve over me. I don't deserve it at all its a complete waste of time. I hope anyone I ever cared about or ever cared about me is simply apathetic to my death.

I feel the exact same tbh. But the reality is once we CTB we have no control over anything. Our families will hold a funeral if they're religious or from a traditional background like mine. But I told my family when I went to prison that I planned to CTB and wanted no funeral. I don't think they'll respect that wish however.

 

[Nervous young man]

I feel the exact same tbh. But the reality is once we CTB we have no control over anything. Our families will hold a funeral if they're religious or from a traditional background like mine.

All my exes are there, open casket.

 

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

I want no funeral, none of that bullshit. Just toss my ashes somewhere or bury them; I have no family who would take my remains.

My mother wanted the same--no funeral, no obituary, nothing.

 

[Richard Langford]

I want no funeral, none of that bullshit. Just toss my ashes somewhere or bury them; I have no family who would take my remains.

My mother wanted the same--no funeral, no obituary, nothing.

Extremely common these days - well the no formal funeral aspect.

 

[Jadeith]

I can respect that. I used to think that way too. But I've come to terms with the fact that once I CTB that's out of my control and there will be a funeral and probably a write up in the local paper.

Same here. Simply put, i don't give flying intercourse if there'll be any funeral at all and who will attend it, since i have absolutely zero control after i'm gone.
More - if, broadly speaking, my surroundings do not respect my wishes and decisions while i'm alive, it would be kinda stupid to expect that they will start after my death.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I hope to prepay for a direct cremation so- no funeral. I don't want people feeling obliged to travel hundreds of miles for some dry service. I doubt many would even so, it doesn't seem worth having one. I'm happier for them to remember me however they want to.

 

[identity0]

I will demand no funeral. Another family member did the same recently when they died and i think everyone was grateful for it

 

[outrider567]

No funeral--Just put me in my prepaid top level small mausoleum space, small building, facing west towards the setting sun

 

[Roadrunner]

For me, nobody. It will just make anyone close to me sadder. I hope they work on healing and getting over me as quickly as possible. I want to be cremated then scatter the ashes anywhere. Put them in the trash for all I care.

 

[FuneralCry]

I don't, I just want to be forgotten about like I never suffered at all, if it's up to me I'd choose to erase this futile, unnecessary existence that only ever caused me to suffer, I'd just never wish for this existence and to me existence just feels like a terrible mistake. Non-existence is all that can personally bring me any peace and is all that's positive for me, I just want to never suffer ever again, I'd be relieved to finally be able to rest with all finally gone for me, I just want to finally forget about this torturous, dreadful existence that more than anything I wish I was never forced into.

 

[lookup]

I wish I could just be forgotten. I wish I could just be an unidentified corpse when I'm gone and that my family would be able to go on as per usual with their everyday life

 

[intintint]

No one. I would hate for some people to make it about themselves if I am dead. Like this isn't about you, and it's just awful for people who actually care. But sadly I feel like a lot of people would try to turn it and make it about themself somehow which irritates me lmao. And also, well the few people who actually care should not have to think about organizing a death celebration party and also mourn? It just makes it all harder for them.

 

[youknowyoureright]

I have a few people I would love to come to my funeral but I know they would never so it's hard to think about. My best friends of years disowned me when I went to prison. Now they wouldn't spit on me if I was on fire. I doubt they'll even find out when I CTB. Is there anyone that you would like at your funeral, regardless of whether or not they would come?

Ideally I wouldn't want a funeral as I'll probably get deadnamed by everyone and my family would probably use an old picture of me pre transition. I guess I won't care because I'd have passed but if I had a choice I'd rather just be forgotten honestly.

 

[lavenderlilylies]

No one actually. I hate how funerals are done where I'm from. Although It's sad if absolutely no one showed up, there aren't anyone in particular that I want there and I'd rest better if people I respected weren't.

I'd go with the option of no funeral at all but I wouldn't get that even if i asked for it so

 

[JesiBel]

I don't want a funeral, just to be cremated.

 

[futurecorpse]

I don't want a funeral. Maybe a quick view with certain family members and then direct cremation. Funerals are meant for the living anyway. I know I won't be able to control anything after I ctb, so I can only hope my wishes are respected

 

[singingcrow]

I don't want a funeral. Maybe a quick view with certain family members and then direct cremation. Funerals are meant for the living anyway. I know I won't be able to control anything after I ctb, so I can only hope my wishes are respected

I don't either. are you going to write in your suicide note that you don't want one?

 

[futurecorpse]

I don't either. are you going to write in your suicide note that you don't want one?

Yes, I stated which funeral home and what kind of arrangement I'd like. I even put in red "Please respect my wishes AND my privacy."

 

[bpd_sucks]

I just hope my mom doesnt come

 

[sukiduki]

i don't think i would have one. my family wouldn't care to reach out to any friends and they don't like spending money where it's not needed. we didnt have a funeral for my grandpa. just let the funeral home cremate him and had his ashes spread at the funeral home's convenience.

 

[ctb2soble]

I don't want a funeral at all. Cremate me and throw my ashes to the wind back in my home state. I think my parents would want one though, which is another reason why I don't want to ctb til they are gone.

 

[OptingOutSmiling]

I think they're kind of pointless, funerals. The person is gone already, it's like showing up after the fact, while we should care while alive. If there is an option where the body is cremated by officials, without family involvement that would be great, to spare the ones who feel like they need to plan a memorial or something. I'd rather be cremated and planted under a tree by someone who doesn't know me. Funerals are way too expensive too.

 

[-Tandem-]

Honestly I would rather not have one. But I guess just my immediate family

 

[Shadows From Hell]

I don't want one. I'd rather die and never be found, and if I am ever found, I'm hoping I'm nothing but bones by then.

But if my body is found soon after ctb, I want to be cremated.

 

[divinemistress36]

I want to cremated . Funerals are expensive and I think they are creepy
, people coming in to look at dead bodies

 

[brokeandbroken]

I have a few people I would love to come to my funeral but I know they would never so it's hard to think about. My best friends of years disowned me when I went to prison. Now they wouldn't spit on me if I was on fire. I doubt they'll even find out when I CTB. Is there anyone that you would like at your funeral, regardless of whether or not they would come?

Why would I want anyone to show up. They all had at least some hand in putting me there even if it was just with apathy. So nobody. I don't even want a funeral. Mourning feels wrong for the reasons above and celebrating well even more wrong.