Discussion Which one causes less pain to those who love you?

[roquentin]

To disappear completely and not know what happened to you, or to know that you are dead? I think disappearing would be less painful as it would leave a small hope. But the feeling of uncertainty could be more painful in the long run. So I wasn't sure and wanted to get your opinion.

 

[ham and potatoes]

I feel like just disappearing is just giving your loved ones false hope your still alive and drags out their grieving. At least when they have a body, there is a bit of closure

 

[abchia]

To know that i am dead. So they wouldn't wonder if i'm in pain, or give false hope.

A little ironic because they don't know that i'm in pain right now haha

 

[Forever Sleep]

I actually think that disappearing is worse. They will likely still suspect the worst but there may never be any closure. Plus- police will get involved, there'll likely be wide scale searches and if they suspect foul play- they may even suspect family and friends. My feeling is that it just spreads the pain out over a longer period- perhaps indefinately.

 

[Ambivalent1]

To disappear completely and not know what happened to you, or to know that you are dead? I think disappearing would be less painful as it would leave a small hope. But the feeling of uncertainty could be more painful in the long run. So I wasn't sure and wanted to get your opinion.

They need to know or they'll forever hope you're alive.

 

[FuneralCry]

I believe it'd cause less pain if they knew what happened as maybe it'd give them some closure rather than spending the rest of their existence wondering.

 

[Raven2]

Death will give family closure and they will grieve for you and it will be painful but less so than just disappearing and never knowing. it will give them false hope that your still alive.