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pleasexbexover

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hi! please be kind, forgive me if I sound stupid or tone deaf, that's pretty much been the state of my mind for the past 2 years. my health insurance cancelled literally a year ago (was on my mom's plan/medicaid and she passed at the end of 23). with everything I've had going on its been insanely hard for me to find the energy to go through insurance applications let alone actually fill them out. my income is extremely limited right now as well. so this kinda does sound really ignorant now that I'm typing it all out and reading it. I've checked on hers, and they don't have anything that would benefit me/I haven't taken before with no affect. I've been taking vistaril off and on since my dad died in 2017, a year later, my first therapist said I should be prescribed klonopin "but since he was a psychiatrist, he couldn't do it". Cut to, I am now seeing a psychiatrist, and even if I asked, I'd probably get denied anything stronger due to my history of self harm and suicidal ideation. So all I do is smoke weed, take my prozac and welbutrin. Any advice? I can't keep going like this but after lurking for years and finally making an account, I'm realizing that I'm not as ready for death as I thought I would be. I need help. Help that my family, friends, nor anyone in my life has been able to provide. 😞😓
 
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hi! please be kind, forgive me if I sound stupid or tone deaf, that's pretty much been the state of my mind for the past 2 years. my health insurance cancelled literally a year ago (was on my mom's plan/medicaid and she passed at the end of 23). with everything I've had going on its been insanely hard for me to find the energy to go through insurance applications let alone actually fill them out. my income is extremely limited right now as well. so this kinda does sound really ignorant now that I'm typing it all out and reading it. I've checked on hers, and they don't have anything that would benefit me/I haven't taken before with no affect. I've been taking vistaril off and on since my dad died in 2017, a year later, my first therapist said I should be prescribed klonopin "but since he was a psychiatrist, he couldn't do it". Cut to, I am now seeing a psychiatrist, and even if I asked, I'd probably get denied anything stronger due to my history of self harm and suicidal ideation. So all I do is smoke weed, take my prozac and welbutrin. Any advice? I can't keep going like this but after lurking for years and finally making an account, I'm realizing that I'm not as ready for death as I thought I would be. I need help. Help that my family, friends, nor anyone in my life has been able to provide. 😞😓
You should try to ask the psychiatrists now, you don't know if they will say yes or no until you've asked, they might prescribe a suitable anti-anxiety med if they feel like it. If they are unsure about it, explain that you want to recover and keep living, but it is a bit hard to live with all the anxiety that you're currently experiencing and that everything feels too overwhelming.
 
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Something easily accessible otc drug wise would be DPH (e.g.: benadryl) if only for the sedating effects...

But that is a slippery fucking slope and I honestly cannot recommend it for repeated use. It's a terrible fucking drug to be reliant on and soooooo soooooo damaging as you go up in dosage.

Best bet would be to look into herbal remedies and see if any work for you. Other than that, just shoot your shot with your psych and see if they can give you anything. Can't lose what you don't have.
 
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kotonearisato

memento mori
Feb 13, 2024
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Sorry, I'm a bit confused - if you're seeing a psychiatrist, what do you think you can't get? Even with a history of self harm there are plenty of anti-anxiety medications that can be prescribed. Just explain your anxiety has been through the roof and what you're on now isn't helping any.
 
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Kasumi

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Mar 3, 2023
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Sorry, I'm a bit confused - if you're seeing a psychiatrist, what do you think you can't get? Even with a history of self harm there are plenty of anti-anxiety medications that can be prescribed. Just explain your anxiety has been through the roof and what you're on now isn't helping any.
plenty?
I'd be very curious for my own anxiety disorder but to my knowledge there are basically just SSRIs (which don't work for me, also yucky sides), buspirone (which also acts serotonergic), and BZDs which acually help, but aren't exactly suitable for anything outside of PRN use.
(and I dont count meds with drowsiness as side effect like anti-histamines, or BP lowering meds that only help if your fear is a physical reaction rather than actual fear)
 
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kotonearisato

memento mori
Feb 13, 2024
119
plenty?
I'd be very curious for my own anxiety disorder but to my knowledge there are basically just SSRIs (which don't work for me, also yucky sides), buspirone (which also acts serotonergic), and BZDs which acually help, but aren't exactly suitable for anything outside of PRN use.
(and I dont count meds with drowsiness as side effect like anti-histamines, or BP lowering meds that only help if your fear is a physical reaction rather than actual fear)
There are also SNRIs, which are not SSRIs, but also many classes of anti-depressants are used off label for anxiety treatment. TCAs and MAOIs for example, but I also know wellbutrin is used off-label. Other things are trazodone, a few anti-convulsants, and a few anti-psychotics. By BZD I assume you mean benzodiazapines? There's a few that are actually prescribed at very low doses for daily use, so it's not just as needed. So yes, plenty of options.

Also, if it's available to you, spravato might be worth looking into. It's usually used for depression but it's been shown to be helpful for longterm anxiety management as well.
 
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Kasumi

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There are also SNRIs, which are not SSRIs, but also many classes of anti-depressants are used off label for anxiety treatment. TCAs and MAOIs for example, but I also know wellbutrin is used off-label. Other things are trazodone, a few anti-convulsants, and a few anti-psychotics. By BZD I assume you mean benzodiazapines? There's a few that are actually prescribed at very low doses for daily use, so it's not just as needed. So yes, plenty of options.

Also, if it's available to you, spravato might be worth looking into. It's usually used for depression but it's been shown to be helpful for longterm anxiety management as well.
SNRI, TCA, MAOI, those "classes" don't really matter much if their mechanism is the same.
Trazodone is an SRI at higher doses, at lower doses it's great for combating serotonin-induced insomnia, I'm only able to sleep on my MAOI because of Trazodone (aka I love it), anxiety still there though -_-
Bupropion I was not aware of that it can actually treat anxiety.
Also loved it, cause it was one of the few that didn't give me side effects. (also didn't help though :c)
Antiepileptics are vast and include Barbiturates, BZDs, mood stabilisers, gabapentinoids, etc.
I could actually imagine mood stabilisers, that might be worth a try for me, gabapentinoids are wild with very individual effects and side effects.
I tried Pregabalin for a while, but other than some extra weight it didn't give me anything.
Oh and it made me feel like I was going crazy at higher doses.
The thing with long term BZD use is, it's a muddy mess.
Theory and most doctors say they will stop working, though individual reports claim otherwise. I still have no idea what's actually the truth or if this is just individual. I'd love to have daily clonazepam working for me but at the same time I don't wanna f over my gabaergic system even more.

Yea I doubt my doctor would prescribe S-ket lol
Actually idek if it's available over here but I think?
 
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kotonearisato

memento mori
Feb 13, 2024
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those "classes" don't really matter much if their mechanism is the same.
TCAs work differently from SSRIs, it's not just affecting the serotonin reuptake. They're not selective, so they can be more effective but have a larger room for error, from my understanding. MAOIs also use a different mechanism than SSRIs, so I'm not sure why you're thinking it's the same, am I missing something..? I'm not as familiar with MAOIs compared to the others from personal experience, so I very well could be missing something lol

I also feel like a lot of psychiatrists are very quick to halt a treatment rather than play with dosing because it's a pain for them, not sure if that's been your experience though! It's certainly been mine with past psychs, and I think that's made me believe certain medications were not going to work rather than just the dosing was wrong. The difference a good doctor makes is crazy...
I could actually imagine mood stabilisers, that might be worth a try for me, gabapentinoids are wild with very individual effects and side effects.
For sure definitely worth looking into. I had best luck with lithium personally, but there's a lot more wiggle room with mood stabilizers for dosing etc in my experience.
Theory and most doctors say they will stop working, though individual reports claim otherwise. I still have no idea what's actually the truth or if this is just individual. I'd love to have daily clonazepam working for me but at the same time I don't wanna f over my gabaergic system even more.
I've also seen mixed messages on daily benzodiazapines, but from everyone I've seen who actively takes them, they seem to work well long term. Makes me wonder if doctors strictly don't want to bother dealing with the potential issues that a controlled prescription can bring so they say they don't continue to work. However you're absolutely right they are very hard on the body even at a low dose, so it's definitely a risk vs reward situation, a very personal decision! And I mean I guess all medication is individual to some extent, everyone metabolizes differently, so I feel like it's not really a bad thing to only be seeing success stories on a person by person basis, especially with something that's not commonly used.

But I digress! I hope anyone else stumbling across this thread might get some insight from it, haha
 
Kasumi

Kasumi

tired
Mar 3, 2023
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TCAs work differently from SSRIs, it's not just affecting the serotonin reuptake. They're not selective, so they can be more effective but have a larger room for error, from my understanding. MAOIs also use a different mechanism than SSRIs, so I'm not sure why you're thinking it's the same, am I missing something..? I'm not as familiar with MAOIs compared to the others from personal experience, so I very well could be missing something lol
Ah sorry, yes of course they are different, but I meant that they target the same system in the end. The mechanism how they do that plays a role for sure, but if your anxiety simply isn't impacted by changes in serotonin activity, or just of a different nature then it doesn't matter much whether you're ihibiting reuptake or directly agonise specific receptors.
I don't really like this classification stuff tbh, because, especially for TCAs, there is a ton of variance. Admittedly some SSRIs are very clean and almost exclusively inhibit SERT, but lets take venlafaxine which is marketed as SNRI,.. it's so much more selective for SERT that it only starts acting as NET a little bit at high doses.
Compare that to the other popular SNRI, Duloxetine, which is way more balanced in its targeting.
MAOIs inhibit the enzyme monoamine oxidase, which is responsible for breaking down monoamine neurotransmitters, so rather than being broken down after reuptake, they stay available, basically, the availability of neurotransmitters is increased.
I also feel like a lot of psychiatrists are very quick to halt a treatment rather than play with dosing because it's a pain for them, not sure if that's been your experience though! It's certainly been mine with past psychs, and I think that's made me believe certain medications were not going to work rather than just the dosing was wrong. The difference a good doctor makes is crazy...
Mhh basically I've been on a med, if there was no response raise the dose until max dose is reached, if there is still no response after like 6 weeks, then its out the window.
Alternatively of course if side effects were intolerable its also out the window.
F.e. with Pregabalin I didn't go til max (600mg / day) because it would literally make me go crazy. 450 was fine, I was on that for like 2 months, but well, aside from feeling a little tired occasionally there was nothing. 600mg was then enough to really show its effect,... just that the effect was pretty awful for me.
And yea, I feel like if I have had a good doctor from the beginning that asked the right questions, we could've guessed pretty quickly that the nature of my problems isn't due to some serotonergic dysregulation and rather because of something more in the direction of neuronal hyperexcitability / dysregulation in inhibitory control.
But you'd have to spend many hours on a patient to figure that out and my past doctors simply didn't.
For sure definitely worth looking into. I had best luck with lithium personally, but there's a lot more wiggle room with mood stabilizers for dosing etc in my experience.
Pretty scared of lithium ngl, also I heard once ure on it ure usually not getting off it again? but clearly that worked for you so?
I was more thinking in the direction of Lamotrigine, as it's sorta the same area as BZDs (which have been the only thing to work so far), just from the opposite end (like rather than increasing inhibition what BZDs do, it's reducing neuronal excitation).
I've also seen mixed messages on daily benzodiazapines, but from everyone I've seen who actively takes them, they seem to work well long term. Makes me wonder if doctors strictly don't want to bother dealing with the potential issues that a controlled prescription can bring so they say they don't continue to work. However you're absolutely right they are very hard on the body even at a low dose, so it's definitely a risk vs reward situation, a very personal decision! And I mean I guess all medication is individual to some extent, everyone metabolizes differently, so I feel like it's not really a bad thing to only be seeing success stories on a person by person basis, especially with something that's not commonly used.

But I digress! I hope anyone else stumbling across this thread might get some insight from it, haha
oops, guilty of the same here I suppose.....

oh one thing to add, for all women out there,.. Progesterone is important,.. hormonal birth control is no joke like for realsies.
If you wanna learn more look up the role allopregnanolone plays in stress and anxiety, and look up zuranolone trials.
 

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