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[Offbrandxactoknife]

I promised a good friend (I opened up to) we'll meet.
I also plan on attempting the same day.
Should I do it before or after we meet?

 

[Kikoo Loool]

I promised a good friend (I opened up to) we'll meet.
I also plan on attempting the same day.
Should I do it before or after we meet?

Do you mean you want to make a fake attempt?

 

[Nowilltolive90]

After, if this is a good friend then I'd like to think you care about their feelings, if ctb before meeting them they're probably going to live the rest of their life regretting not being able to see you one last time.

Also you can give yourself closure and it might make it easier for you to follow through with your method.

 

[Offbrandxactoknife]

Do you mean you want to make a fake attempt?

Define fake, I'm planning on actually killing myself

 

[Hopeindeath!]

I think you should meet with your friend. You might feel differently after.

 

[Kikoo Loool]

Define fake, I'm planning on actually killing myself

How would you meet him afterwards?

 

[Offbrandxactoknife]

How would you meet him afterwards?

I'm sorry I'm not a native English speaker, so I don't really understand.
My general plan is to meet my friend and then after I come home I'll CBT

 

[Quarky00]

Should I do it before or after we meet?

Neither .
If you ctb before meeting them -- they'll know something is wrong when you fail to answer/meet .
If you ctb after meeting -- when you meet -- they will feel something is wrong .

 

[autumnal]

Presumably he means either do it after they meet or do it before and thus not meet.

@Offbrandxactoknife - Your friend may blame themselves in either scenario. If you suicide after meeting them, they will worry that they missed seeing the warning signs and could have potentially saved you. If you cancel the meeting and then suicide, then they may worry that they should have been suspicious about the cancellation and realised something was wrong, and could have potentially saved you. Perhaps you might do best to meet them and put on a normal persona, nothing suspicious they will look back on in hindsight, and then maybe leave a bit of space before suiciding?

 

[Offbrandxactoknife]

Neither .
If you ctb before meeting them -- they'll know something is wrong when you fail to answer/meet .
If you ctb after meeting -- when you meet -- they will feel something is wrong .

I have to do it sometimes soon, I can't handle anything anymore

Presumably he means either do it after they meet or do it before and thus not meet.

@Offbrandxactoknife - Your friend may blame themselves in either scenario. If you suicide after meeting them, they will worry that they missed seeing the warning signs and could have potentially saved you. If you cancel the meeting and then suicide, then they may worry that they should have been suspicious about the cancellation and realised something was wrong, and could have potentially saved you. Perhaps you might do best to meet them and put on a normal persona, nothing suspicious they will look back on in hindsight, and then maybe leave a bit of space before suiciding?

They know I'm suicidal, we planned on going to a professional next week but I don't want to. I wish i could give it time but everything is too much and no one cares, so might as well just end it
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@Offbrandxactoknife - Your friend may blame themselves in either scenario.
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Do you think leaving a note or something will help?

 

[Quarky00]

I have to do it sometimes soon, I can't handle anything anymore

I understand that despair/pain -- and sense of urgency to end things . I have no solutions .

But I would personally do it on a quiet day , without plans or meetings , as it would add to the mess in my head . It may be different for you .. Just my 2 cents .

 

[Offbrandxactoknife]

I understand that despair/pain -- and sense of urgency to end things . I have no solutions .

But I would personally do it on a quiet day , without plans or meetings , as it would add to the mess in my head . It may be different for you .. Just my 2 cents .

I wish, unfortunately I don't have a day like that. I stayed at home to day so I only plan on meeting with the friend and going to the gym.

 

[Soulless_Angel]

Meet them, don't think about CTB, most defo not on the same day, meet your friend, are they the sort of friend you could talk too?

 

[Offbrandxactoknife]

Meet them, don't think about CTB, most defo not on the same day, meet your friend, are they the sort of friend you could talk too?

Yeah, they know pretty much everything. I don't want to make them worry about me