When did you realize that nobody was coming to save you

[sserafim]

What I mean by this is, you could spend your whole life in a house in the middle of nowhere and rot away there. Maybe a neighbour would gossip about you from time to time, or a man with a meter would come to your house to check things. However you would be forgotten by society and would spend out your time there. When a teacher gives out to you for not doing your homework, or your parents bother you with what life will be like as an adult you don't really listen to them. However as an adult now, I realize that there's nothing really beyond your teenage years. Life is more about survival and all forms of community are cut off from you, especially as a neet.

I wish I realized this sooner, that nobody was coming to save me. There's lots of old people nobody cares about for a start, I guess as NEETs we join this group early on. I mean it's good for natural introverts I would assume.

 

[CTB Dream]

Hpn injury damage say come come nobod come

 

[LaVieEnRose]

When nobody came to save me

 

[sserafim]

When nobody came to save me

I'm trying to say that new people are born every day and people are forgotten every day. I could have said that none of us are really important.

 

[divinemistress36]

About 4 years ago it hit me hard that nobody was coming to save me and at the end of the day we are on our own

 

[Little_Suzy]

I am among the fortunate ones, living and dying by the creed, no man left behind.

Your squad is out there; keep looking.

 

[CTB Dream]

Yea v undrstd ppl frgt no care, time move move all ppl frgt simil no exst, ppl old ppl die all frgt, 8bil 1 prsn simil no exst

I'm trying to say that new people are born every day and people are forgotten every day. I could have said that none of us are really important.

 

[Vicolo cieco]

It became clear when I couldn't achieve any of the milestones that society regards as important.

 

[m1ll1pede]

What I mean by this is, you could spend your whole life in a house in the middle of nowhere and rot away there. Maybe a neighbour would gossip about you from time to time, or a man with a meter would come to your house to check things. However you would be forgotten by society and would spend out your time there. When a teacher gives out to you for not doing your homework, or your parents bother you with what life will be like as an adult you don't really listen to them. However as an adult now, I realize that there's nothing really beyond your teenage years. Life is more about survival and all forms of community are cut off from you, especially as a neet.

I wish I realized this sooner, that nobody was coming to save me. There's lots of old people nobody cares about for a start, I guess as NEETs we join this group early on. I mean it's good for natural introverts I would assume.

I got sent to a mental hospital, my mom never came to see me on visitor days bc places like that "triggered her"

 

[Aloneandinpain]

I think there's always people willing to save women (assuming they're moderately attractive). Same goes for the top 5% of men.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I didn't. I'm still clinging on to this hope because I'm stupid and ignorant and deserve to die regardless for how much of a failure I am.

 

[rokonie]

I don't keep in touch with people outside of my family irl so i'd obviously have little people who would save me.
Online "friends" only care enough to say "Hope you feel better soon" and that's about it. They obviously can't do much either.

 

[vitbar]

I've always felt I was to blame for my situation. At least in the ways that matter. That I'm in my own way. Never felt like anyone could save me from myself.

 

[lost_ange2211]

I kinda think differently about it. I learned that the only person who can save you is in fact yourself. Other people can help us, assist us, support us, be there for us. Professionals can give us the "tools", advice, treatment and a direction but it's still up to you wether to go down that direction or not, to accept it or not, to do it or not.

All the "we get saved" thing imo traces back to some kind of religious believes. With a savoir, a higher being on top that really/ maybe could change things. But I don't believe that.

 

[SchizoGymnast]

I've been receiving the message since I was a young child but my dumb ass only fully internalized it when I was in my 20s when I tried to find "affordable" housing.

 

[lnlybnny]

We're not important as we think we are but everyone thinks they are the most important person in the world… it's weird

 

[Catch-22]

I held out hope for a long time ... I'm disabled and have been most of my life but on Christmas Eve of last year I was informed by my elderly mom that she was not going to make sure I had any type of housing or money when she passed away. Because in her words she didn't want to bother with it and if I asked again she'd make sure she didn't. My abusive sister will inherit everything and I will be left with nothing. I am too sick to live on the streets so my only option is to CTB. There is no one to save me and no one that cares.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I got the impression early on that some of my family weren't at all interested in my choices or future so, I got a sense I was on my own quite early on. Not that that's all together true. I was lucky enough to still have more people care than some. Still- if you get that impression, I imagine there probably is something to it.

Other than that, I truly believe that life takes effort. People simply can't care about us if they don't realise we exist! If we make no effort to meet people. To form relationships, to care about others ourselves, I'm not sure how it could even happen. That's kind of miracle level luck. I guess we all fantasize about finding that special person who gives a shit enough about us to 'save' us but yeah- I think it requires effort to be out there in the world to find them. That's assuming we are capable of course.

But yeah, sadly I think all relationships are about an exchange in effect. Not many people will be willing to just give all the time. They'll likely want something in return. Honestly- wouldn't you?

As for anyone even noticing whether we've died. Depends on whether we work. Then, our bosses won't be ringing out of concern. They'll be phoning to give us a bollocking because we haven't showed up! As for me, depends on what I'm doing. It's entirely possible no one would notice for months. Or, perhaps only a handful of people would.

But ultimately, I think this kind of thing is self inflicted to some extent. I don't think very much at all in life comes to us. We have to make the effort to get what we want. If that's people who care about us and our family don't, we have to put in the effort trying to form other relationships. Of course, if those relationships also turn out to be unreliable, you can start to lose hope.

 

[todiefor]

When I told my parents I'm thinking about getting a divorce because my ex is abusive and my mum said not to because it gives her anxiety knowing I may not produce her grandchildren.

I stayed for another 5 years. When I was actually getting a divorce my dad said my ex probably want to divorce me because I probably swear at him (I swore at my dad when I was 11, at which point my dad decided to completely have nothing to do with me, and he kept to his word, he standards by that decision still. I do not swore at my ex at all, but my ex did say I was being controlling when I suggested he perhaps shouldn't swear in front of our friends kids. My ex insists our friends don't mind).

and now I'm here.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

Ever since I gained critical thinking skills. Nobody is going to save me because it isn't in the interests of other human beings to do that. Most human beings ultimately care about themselves the most and that's it. I'm no exception to that. Also, how exactly will other people save me? I need to be saved from being a wagie normie but the only way I can be saved from that is by being dead (because society has too much power for it to be changed). Of course I don't expect anybody to kill me or to legalise euthanasia for me. In the end, if I want to be dead, I have to do it myself... nobody will come to save me.

Believing that other people will save you is just an inevitable trip to disappointment

 

[leavingthesoultrap]

When I was 27. After my marriage failed

 

[przeciwwymiotne]

What I mean by this is, you could spend your whole life in a house in the middle of nowhere and rot away there. Maybe a neighbour would gossip about you from time to time, or a man with a meter would come to your house to check things. However you would be forgotten by society and would spend out your time there. When a teacher gives out to you for not doing your homework, or your parents bother you with what life will be like as an adult you don't really listen to them. However as an adult now, I realize that there's nothing really beyond your teenage years. Life is more about survival and all forms of community are cut off from you, especially as a neet.

I wish I realized this sooner, that nobody was coming to save me. There's lots of old people nobody cares about for a start, I guess as NEETs we join this group early on. I mean it's good for natural introverts I would assume.

When my whole family abandoned me because I became severely anorexic, irrational, suicidal and developed a disability.

It hit the hardest while I was in a forest trying to hang myself. I realised there ain't no way someone is going to stumble upon me and save me. And even if they did this life is so fucked up I wouldn't be able to bear it.

Still, I wanted someone or something to show up and fix everything for me. Guess I'm a bit egoistic.

 

[Darkover]

20 years ago when i was 18 years old when my biological needs that need to be met went unfilled leading to great pain, we get pain from wanting something but not receiving it, that's when i realized we are on our own in this world, i should of got off this ride back then

 

[LaVieEnRose]

When my whole family abandoned me because I became severely anorexic, irrational, suicidal and developed a disability.

It hit the hardest while I was in a forest trying to hang myself. I realised there ain't no way someone is going to stumble upon me and save me. And even if they did this life is so fucked up I wouldn't be able to bear it.

Still, I wanted someone or something to show up and fix everything for me. Guess I'm a bit egoistic.

Cześć, haven't seen you in a while. Nice to see you even here. Hope you're okay though it doesn't sound like it.

 

[przeciwwymiotne]

Cześć, haven't seen you in a while. Nice to see you even here. Hope you're okay though it doesn't sound like it.

Hi, dziękuję. I'm way better, it's unimaginable how better my life is. I'm so proud of myself. I fucking did it myself. Wanna chat a bit in the DMs? How is ya?

 

[ThisGameIsOverrated]

I always kinda knew this as a kid, not as much as I do now but seeing how homeless people are just not cared about or even acknowledged at all when they're literally begging for money in spaces with hundreds of people made me realise that you could seek for the help of thousands and not a single one will even listen to your pleas

 

[DeIetedUser4739]

A few months ago after being effectively lobotomized by psych meds I went to every specialist you could think of trying to see if they could fix anything but no avail.

 

[derpyderpins]

I still have these fantasies of someone coming to "save me." Putting my faith far too much in people. How would you want to be "saved?"

I'm trying to say that new people are born every day and people are forgotten every day. I could have said that none of us are really important.

It's a shitty feeling. If I died, I could largely be replaced by the next man up. It's important to fight the black and white thinking, though. Having lost a friend recently I know he can't be replaced. If you suddenly disappeared, no one could replace you, even in this online-only context.

 

[ecliptic]

There isn't a time where I thought someone would save me.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

Hi, dziękuję. I'm way better, it's unimaginable how better my life is. I'm so proud of myself. I fucking did it myself. Wanna chat a bit in the DMs? How is ya?

If you would like.