Discussion What's the most significant obstacle you've faced in your life so far

[ShinigamiApples]

What's the most significant obstacle you've faced in your life so far, and how did you manage to overcome it?

 

[timf]

Alcoholic parents.
Leaving home and joining the Army.

 

[Absolutely Mad]

There are many obstacles that I don't have the strength to overcome. However, if we talk about what we managed to cope with...

Probably, my inner voice, which was literally killing me. The personification of all regrets, doubts and destructive thoughts. Had to make it go quiet.
I think this problem appeared because I didn't want to accept who I really am. I had a certain view of myself, however, the expectations were at odds with reality.
It was only by truly accepting my flaws that I was able to suppress that voice within me.

Not like it really helped to overcome other problems. At least quit my addictions, which were destroying my body.
It just so happens that my mind is my main enemy. And the culture of my region has distorted my perception of problems, so I don't even take most of life's difficulties as something worth mentioning.

For example, it took me almost half a day to write something on this website and suppress my anxiety. Had a bad experience. I don't know if something like this counts as overcoming an obstacle.

 

[orca87]

The biggest obstacle has always been: me. It is me who cannot do the most basic tasks, no matter how hard I try. It is me, who cannot build and keep relationships, no matter how hard I try.

So far, I always built up an illusion of myself. It worked pretty good a couple of times. However, after I failed so many times, after that one big collapse, it is so hard to rebuild.

To me, it's crucial to take full responsibility. Not for everything that happens to me, but how I react to it as this is what ultimately determines happiness/success/whatever you want. Finding the energy to accept that responsibility and keep fighting no matter the circumstances becomes increasingly difficult, but the outcome will be the best feeling you ever had if you succeed.

 

[catastrophix]

It's really hard for me to pinpoint one event, because it's kinda like a domino effect— One bad thing happens, which leads to more bad things happening. Being a CSA and SA survivor was my first and probably most damaging obstacle. The abuse led to some of my mental health issues getting worse, and now I have such a strong phobia of socializing/being seen, and it's making my current situation absolute hell. It seems as if I'm so mentally ill that every day feels like the biggest hurdle to jump, only for tomorrow to have an even higher hurdle.

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

I don't want to delve too deep as it's kind of personal and not super common so it might mess with anonymity here. Anyways I had a traumatic event occur to me, lost almost everything, have PTSD now, and it's made everything a struggle. I can't even get over a breakup as a result of it. I might have even said it on here before, I have no clue, I can barely remember anymore. It's made recovery hard but I'm pushing through.

 

[aeris]

My dad and his obsession with the ideal family portrait. Tbh i'm still trying to overcome it by trying to find what i enjoy doing, no luck so far.

 

[FadingPossum]

The mortifying feeling of being completely alone and also being the only one who actually understands or gives a shit about my own problems.

Absolutely does not help that I'm also my biggest critic and the first to invalidate my own experiences.

 

[ShinigamiApples]

Alcoholic parents.
Leaving home and joining the Army.

Leaving home and joining the military can be good for creating a better life, but take care of yourself.

There are many obstacles that I don't have the strength to overcome. However, if we talk about what we managed to cope with...

Probably, my inner voice, which was literally killing me. The personification of all regrets, doubts and destructive thoughts. Had to make it go quiet.
I think this problem appeared because I didn't want to accept who I really am. I had a certain view of myself, however, the expectations were at odds with reality.
It was only by truly accepting my flaws that I was able to suppress that voice within me.

Not like it really helped to overcome other problems. At least quit my addictions, which were destroying my body.
It just so happens that my mind is my main enemy. And the culture of my region has distorted my perception of problems, so I don't even take most of life's difficulties as something worth mentioning.

For example, it took me almost half a day to write something on this website and suppress my anxiety. Had a bad experience. I don't know if something like this counts as overcoming an obstacle.

I appreciate your openness and honesty about the challenges you've faced. Overcoming one's inner voice and accepting our flaws can be an incredibly difficult process, and it's admirable that you were able to work through it.

While it may not have helped with other struggles like addiction, acknowledging and addressing one's inner demons is a crucial first step towards healing and growth. It's important to remember that everyone has their own unique set of obstacles and hurdles to overcome, and what may seem small to some can feel overwhelming to others.

Taking the time to work through anxiety and other mental health challenges is an essential part of self-care and personal growth. It takes courage to face our fears and push through them, and every small victory is worth celebrating. Remember to be kind to yourself along the way and recognize your strength and resilience in the face of adversity.

It's really hard for me to pinpoint one event, because it's kinda like a domino effect— One bad thing happens, which leads to more bad things happening. Being a CSA and SA survivor was my first and probably most damaging obstacle. The abuse led to some of my mental health issues getting worse, and now I have such a strong phobia of socializing/being seen, and it's making my current situation absolute hell. It seems as if I'm so mentally ill that every day feels like the biggest hurdle to jump, only for tomorrow to have an even higher hurdle.

I'm so sorry to hear about the difficult challenges you've had to face. Surviving CSA and SA is incredibly traumatic and can have a profound impact on one's mental health. It's understandable that the abuse has led to a phobia of socializing and being seen, which can make life feel like an ongoing struggle.

It's important to recognize that healing from trauma is a process, and it's okay to take things one day at a time. It's also essential to prioritize self-care and seek support from trusted friends, family members, or mental health professionals. Remember, there is no shame in asking for help when you need it, and small steps towards healing can make a significant impact over time.

You are strong and resilient, even in the face of these obstacles, and I believe in your ability to continue to overcome them.

 

[voc_89]

resisting the desire to end it all

 

[ShinigamiApples]

The mortifying feeling of being completely alone and also being the only one who actually understands or gives a shit about my own problems.

Absolutely does not help that I'm also my biggest critic and the first to invalidate my own experiences.

I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling alone and that you often invalidate your own experiences. It can be incredibly challenging to feel like no one else understands or cares about our problems, especially when we are our own harshest critics.

Remember, you are not alone, and there are people who care about you and want to support you. It's essential to practice self-compassion and treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a friend in need.

If you're struggling to find support from others, consider reaching out to a mental health professional or support group. They can offer a safe and non-judgmental space to discuss your feelings and work through your challenges.

You are worthy of love and support, and your experiences are valid. Don't be afraid to reach out for help when you need it, and remember to be kind to yourself along the way.

My dad and his obsession with the ideal family portrait. Tbh i'm still trying to overcome it by trying to find what i enjoy doing, no luck so far.

I'm sorry to hear about the pressure you feel from your dad's obsession with the "ideal" family portrait. It's understandable that this can make it difficult to find your own passions and interests.

Remember that it's okay to take time to explore and try new things, and it's normal to not have everything figured out right away. Be patient with yourself, and don't be discouraged if you haven't found something that clicks yet.

Try to focus on what brings you joy and fulfillment, even if it doesn't fit into your dad's idea of the "ideal" family portrait. It's essential to prioritize your own happiness and well-being, even if it means breaking away from others' expectations.

Keep exploring and experimenting, and don't be afraid to seek support from loved ones or a professional if you need it. You deserve to find your own path and pursue your own dreams, regardless of anyone else's expectations.

I don't want to delve too deep as it's kind of personal and not super common so it might mess with anonymity here. Anyways I had a traumatic event occur to me, lost almost everything, have PTSD now, and it's made everything a struggle. I can't even get over a breakup as a result of it. I might have even said it on here before, I have no clue, I can barely remember anymore. It's made recovery hard but I'm pushing through.

Remember to take things one day at a time and that healing is possible.

resisting the desireto endit all

I want you to know that you're not alone in feeling this way, and it takes a lot of strength to resist the urge to end things. Please know that there is hope and help available.

 

[aubrey!]

myself. the problems i've created.

unescapable.

 

[Absolutely Mad]

I appreciate your openness and honesty about the challenges you've faced. Overcoming one's inner voice and accepting our flaws can be an incredibly difficult process, and it's admirable that you were able to work through it.

While it may not have helped with other struggles like addiction, acknowledging and addressing one's inner demons is a crucial first step towards healing and growth. It's important to remember that everyone has their own unique set of obstacles and hurdles to overcome, and what may seem small to some can feel overwhelming to others.

Taking the time to work through anxiety and other mental health challenges is an essential part of self-care and personal growth. It takes courage to face our fears and push through them, and every small victory is worth celebrating. Remember to be kind to yourself along the way and recognize your strength and resilience in the face of adversity.

Thanks a lot for your reply. Indeed, you say the right things - and it is essential to remember about them.
Sometimes I fail to keep a cool mind and then I tend to forget about the truths you mentioned.

I appreciate your intention to help. Like, really. It was pleasant to read your comment about my situation.
But what's about you? I'm not sure if you want to speak about any of your obstacles, but if you have such wish, I would be happy to listen.

 

[BloomingStrella]

Being born might be the most significant obstacle, and the fact I'm extremely harsh with myself, thinking every terrible thing that happens to me is because I deserve it and worse. I always punish myself tenfold for even the slightest of mistakes.

I haven't overcome either yet.

 

[7thundercloud]

What's the most significant obstacle you've faced in your life so far, and how did you manage to overcome it?

Emotionally abusive and manipulative girlfriend. I broke up with her, haven't really overcome it because I still get scared of what others may be thinking of me and how mad someone might be at me. We also go to the same school, so whenever I see her I tense up and want my skin to turn inside out.

 

[ShinigamiApples]

Thanks a lot for your reply. Indeed, you say the right things - and it is essential to remember about them.
Sometimes I fail to keep a cool mind and then I tend to forget about the truths you mentioned.

I appreciate your intention to help. Like, really. It was pleasant to read your comment about my situation.
But what's about you? I'm not sure if you want to speak about any of your obstacles, but if you have such wish, I would be happy to listen.

It's great to hear that my response resonated with you! I completely understand how easy it can be to get caught up in the moment and forget the important things we know to be true. We all have moments where our emotions get the best of us, and that's okay. Remember to be kind to yourself and take the time you need to cool down and collect your thoughts. And of course, if you ever need someone to talk to or some encouragement, feel free to reach out. I'm always here to help in any way I can.

My family went through a divorce, and after all the things that were happening in the house, I left school for three months and stayed in my room the entire time. However, after those three months, I realized that I didn't want to continue living like that. I decided to change my life, returned to school, finished my education, and started working two jobs. As a result, I was able to do the things I wanted to do. I hope this explanation helped you understand me better, and thank you for your time!

Being born might be the most significant obstacle, and the fact I'm extremely harsh with myself, thinking every terrible thing that happens to me is because I deserve it and worse. I always punish myself tenfold for even the slightest of mistakes.

I haven't overcome either yet.

Thank you for sharing this with me. I understand that being born into a difficult situation or being overly critical of ourselves can be tough to overcome. It sounds like you've been dealing with these challenges for some time now, and that takes a lot of strength.

I want you to know that it's okay to be kind to yourself, even when things don't go as planned. Making mistakes is a natural part of life, and it's how we learn and grow. It's important to remember that you deserve love and compassion, just like everyone else.

You're not alone in this, and there are resources available to help you overcome these obstacles. Speaking with someone close or trust can help a bunch.

Please don't hesitate to reach out for help if you need it. You're doing great, and I believe in you!

Emotionally abusive and manipulative girlfriend. I broke up with her, haven't really overcome it because I still get scared of what others may be thinking of me and how mad someone might be at me. We also go to the same school, so whenever I see her I tense up and want my skin to turn inside out.

I'm sorry to hear that you went through a tough time with your ex-girlfriend. Dealing with emotional abuse and manipulation can be incredibly challenging and can have long-lasting effects.

It's a big step that you recognized the situation wasn't healthy and made the decision to break up with her. However, it's understandable that it may take some time to overcome the negative impact the relationship had on you.

Feeling scared or anxious about what others may think of you is a common response after experiencing emotional abuse. It's essential to remember that the opinions of others don't define you and that you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. It's okay to take the time you need to heal and work through your emotions.

It can be challenging to see your ex-girlfriend at school, but it's essential to prioritize your own well-being and safety. If you're feeling uncomfortable or unsafe, it may be helpful to talk to a friend about how to manage the situation.

Please remember that you don't have to go through this alone, and there are resources available to help you.

You're doing the right thing by taking care of yourself, and I'm here to support you in any way I can.

myself. the problems i've created.

unescapable.

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time with the problems you've created. It takes a lot of courage to admit when we've made mistakes and face the consequences of our actions.

But please know that it's never too late to turn things around and make positive changes in your life. You have the strength and resilience to overcome these challenges, and I believe in you.

Remember to be kind to yourself and show yourself the same compassion and forgiveness that you would offer to a friend. We all make mistakes, and it's through these experiences that we learn and grow as individuals.

No matter how unescapable things may seem, there is always a path forward. Take things one step at a time, and know that you're not alone in this. I'm here to support you in any way I can, and I believe in your ability to overcome these obstacles and create a brighter future for yourself.

 

[azzy]

What's the most significant obstacle you've faced in your life so far, and how did you manage to overcome it?

i thought this was interesting. reflecting back, i know i may sound attention-seeking or playing things up, but there's been so much that's happened there's no way it could be one definitive obstacle anymore.

if i were to choose what did me the "final blow" per say, it'd be getting sa'ed as a young minor. so much led up to it and i'd consider that the climax of everything that happened turning into one epitomization to send me over the edge.

i wish i knew about this website then, because if i did my overdose attempt might've been more effective. i guess it's just living until the next bad low… or bad circumstance i seemed to be cursed with happening.

 

[charlotte_]

I have a lot of them, but perhaps the most persistent one is my lack of self confidence. I developed it out of childhood trauma and a lot of things I've encountered in my life. Missed a lot of great opportunities because of it, whether in work, study, relationships ect. I could never bring myself to just believe that I can do anything well, as I always have an inner critic that tells me that I'll mess up and make a fool outta myself. Still working on recovery but it's a long way to go lmao

 

[Ambivalent1]

Mental illness that is unresponsive to therapy and meds

 

[ShinigamiApples]

I have a lot of them, but perhaps the most persistent one is my lack of self confidence. I developed it out of childhood trauma and a lot of things I've encountered in my life. Missed a lot of great opportunities because of it, whether in work, study, relationships ect. I could never bring myself to just believe that I can do anything well, as I always have an inner critic that tells me that I'll mess up and make a fool outta myself. Still working on recovery but it's a long way to go lmao

I'm so sorry to hear that you're struggling with self-confidence due to childhood trauma and other life experiences. It takes a lot of strength and courage to work on overcoming something like that, and I want to commend you for your efforts. It's understandable that your inner critic can be hard to ignore, but remember that it's not always right. You are capable of achieving great things, and you deserve to believe in yourself. Recovery is a journey, and it's okay if it takes time. Just keep taking those small steps forward and celebrate your progress along the way. You've got this!

i thought this was interesting. reflecting back, i know i may sound attention-seeking or playing things up, but there's been so much that's happened there's no way it could be one definitive obstacle anymore.

if i were to choose what did me the "final blow" per say, it'd be getting sa'ed as a young minor. so much led up to it and i'd consider that the climax of everything that happened turning into one epitomization to send me over the edge.

i wish i knew about this website then, because if i did my overdose attempt might've been more effective. i guess it's just living until the next bad low… or bad circumstance i seemed to be cursed with happening.

Wow, that's really tough. It sounds like you've been through a lot, and I can't imagine how hard that must be. I want you to know that it's okay to talk about these things, and you're not attention-seeking at all. It's natural to reflect on our experiences and try to understand them better.

It's understandable that the experience you mentioned has had such a significant impact on you. Trauma can be incredibly difficult to overcome, and it's important to take your time in healing. It sounds like you've already made a lot of progress, though, and that's something to be proud of.

I want you to know that you're not alone, and there are people who care about you and want to support you. Remember that you're not cursed, and bad circumstances don't define you. You have the strength to keep going, and there are better times ahead.

 

[StolenLife]

Bullies, misophonia and cruel people.

 

[never mind me]

Dealing with self hatred related to a difficult upbringing with an abusive, mentally ill father.

 

[Dead Ghost]

Assume the CTB.
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Assumir el CTB.

 

[ShinigamiApples]

Bullies, misophonia and cruel people.

I completely understand how you feel. Dealing with bullies and cruel people can be incredibly difficult and draining. And misophonia can make everyday situations unbearable. It's tough to go through all of this and it's important to take care of yourself. Have you tried any coping strategies for dealing with these issues? Maybe talking to someone about it or finding a creative outlet like writing or art could help you feel better. Remember, you don't have to go through this alone.

Dealing with self hatred related to a difficult upbringing with an abusive, mentally ill father.

I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling with self-hatred due to a difficult upbringing with an abusive, mentally ill father. It's understandable that growing up in such an environment can have a profound impact on your sense of self-worth and how you view yourself. It takes a lot of courage to acknowledge these feelings and work towards healing from the trauma. Remember that it's not your fault and that you deserve love and kindness, especially from yourself.

 

[HadItAll]

Chronic physical illness. Nothing comes close.