What would make you Happy? cos I have no idea???

[IsThisTheEnd?]

shrink asked me what would make you happy but I honestly have no idea anymore, I honestly can't answer that question.

So....What would make you happy?

 

[ClownMe]

Sadly, nothing would make me happy. Ive only just realised this, life sucks and im too much of a pessimist to see it any other way.

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

Living in a society where my strengths are needed and my weaknesses are irrelevant--unlike the complete opposite, which is the case.

 

[TriggerHappy]

what . would . make . me . happy ?
happiness is by it's very nature illusionary. it is impermanent, fleeting even.
all emotions are transient.
trying to hunt happiness or hold onto it is the ironic paradox that makes us miserable...
what is happiness anyway ?
- please help me understand it...?!

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

A real girlfriend that I love who loves me back and who ends up being my soulmate also nothing bad ever happens to either of us ever again.

 

[TriggerHappy]

a councillor once told me thinking like that was - delusional.
(it had nothing to do with craving happiness, apparently..)

all it left me - years after struggling with it. was cynical.
how much is happiness tied in with 'success'
these terms are tricky - what is success anyway?!
what defines it?
cash or struggle & soul worth?

(i'm dribbling again... sorry)

 

[kovkay]

I've never really thought of long term happiness as attainable. Fleeting joys like food, sex, achievement bring a certain amount of dopamine/serotonin/norepinephrine. It might be helpful to get sunlight in the mornings and evenings, as well as eating foods that have precursors to those chemicals to make sure you receive the proper building blocks to feel good emotions.

Apart from that, I found that letting go of the outcome and desires has been really helpful. I'm trying to stop being so immersed in life, and I just observe it. I observe my emotions, whether they are good or bad, don't place judgement and try to let go. It takes practice and skill. Lately, though, I had some moments of calm and peace and I felt really happy. It's like when your mind clears and you just feel ~good~ for no reason at all. I think it's important to not chase this feeling.

 

[WaterHemlock]

I heard something Drew Barrymore said: I've stopped hoping for happy endings and started hoping for a good day.

Kovkay's answer above is a good one. Contentment is an attainable goal. And it takes work. Permanent happiness is a fantasy.

 

[Black Rose Bunny]

I think if I could just be normal. That would make me happy

 

[ExhaustedExistence]

True love. But it doesn't exist. Not for me.

 

[BornofDust]

Being able to fullfill my dreams. Being able to finally have inner peace. Maybe someone to love me unconditionally( relationship or friendship) and also being able to prosper in society without being a screw up. To finally have a peace of mind. All these things would bring in long-term happiness and peace.

I feel like not everyone in society is "meant " or even "suppose " to be happy. Because you have certain traits society and Nature detest, your happiness is not the goal of society or Nature since in accordance to the laws of society, you don't deserve to be happy. Your misery is acceptable and even logical since in the old ways of the world you would've been dead but since you are alive there must be otheways to ensure your further octrasation from the rest of society and Nature and ensuring your constant misery. Especially seen a lot of people like us are seen as a " blight to society " and "useless" and so if they can't out right kill us off. Then Octrasation is the ultimate key.


My happiness would be my inner peace. Would I get it. I don't know. Especially since the laws of society and Nature tries to or prevent this for certain people cause it's seen that its not " deserved" and that we are a " blight to society" so that's not a given. I still hope for happiness though. Like a little kid hoping Neverland is real.


Edit: I just had to turn a simple question into a rant lmao!

 

[Sherri]

Being loved helps me feel better, having someone who cares about you. Hope you have someone That cares about you. A big hug.

 

[DunnoWhyButYeah]

Being loved helps me feel better, having someone who cares about you. Hope you have someone That cares about you. A big hug.

Same. Atm I don't have and it affects me.

 

[sm20]

shrink asked me what would make you happy but I honestly have no idea anymore, I honestly can't answer that question.

So....What would make you happy?

All I want is to wake up 3 years in the past so I could avoid my physical problems. I'd stop exercising so I could avoid my chronic tendinitis, I'd stop listening to things so loud and that would stop my tinnitus, hyperacusis and visual snow. The only other thing that would make me happy is if in a few years these drugs that are being worked on cure or at least partially cure some of my issues. It's so far away and it's just a maybe though.

what . would . make . me . happy ?
happiness is by it's very nature illusionary. it is impermanent, fleeting even.
all emotions are transient.
trying to hunt happiness or hold onto it is the ironic paradox that makes us miserable...
what is happiness anyway ?
- please help me understand it...?!

I know it's real. I had it, even for a bit after my depression set in. For me it used to be self image and when I got that under control I felt happy nearly all the time. I didn't do any dopamine seeking activities I just felt good.

what . would . make . me . happy ?
happiness is by it's very nature illusionary. it is impermanent, fleeting even.
all emotions are transient.
trying to hunt happiness or hold onto it is the ironic paradox that makes us miserable...
what is happiness anyway ?
- please help me understand it...?!

I know it's real. I had it, even for a bit after my depression set in. For me it used to be self image and when I got that under control I felt happy nearly all the time. I didn't do any dopamine seeking activities I just felt good.

 

[FuneralCry]

I cannot remember really what happiness is actually like. Sometimes I might feel the slightest bit content, such as being around my cat and drifting off into sleep. I have anhedonia and I just see life as kinda pointless. I would feel happy knowing there was an peaceful guaranteed end to it all, I can finally reach death.

 

[ThrownAwayTom]

Apart from that, I found that letting go of the outcome and desires has been really helpful. I'm trying to stop being so immersed in life, and I just observe it. I observe my emotions, whether they are good or bad, don't place judgement and try to let go. It takes practice and skill. Lately, though, I had some moments of calm and peace and I felt really happy. It's like when your mind clears and you just feel ~good~ for no reason at all. I think it's important to not chase this feeling.

Have you used any particular methods or good reading materials/authors for stuff like this? It's something I've been reading a lot about recently

 

[kovkay]

Have you used any particular methods or good reading materials/authors for stuff like this? It's something I've been reading a lot about recently

Just the basics. The Dhammapada got recommended on youtube to me recently so I gave it a listen. Alan Watts is pretty popular:




I also like to just google stuff and read whatever comes up, but I haven't found "the book", you know what I mean? What about you? What type of stuff have you been reading?

 

[avoid_slow_death]

Honestly? Besides death? Drugs. I mean some hard drugs. Ones that take you out of reality or distort it so much you don't care. Those kind.

 

[MYStERY_Man]

Have you used any particular methods or good reading materials/authors for stuff like this? It's something I've been reading a lot about recently

Just the basics. The Dhammapada got recommended on youtube to me recently so I gave it a listen. Alan Watts is pretty popular:




I also like to just google stuff and read whatever comes up, but I haven't found "the book", you know what I mean? What about you? What type of stuff have you been reading?

Sorry to barge in, but a while ago I found a book/guide with very good ratings. It takes some real commitment, so I left it aside, but it might be y'all thing:

Amazon product ASIN 1501156985
EDIT: I noticed the Brave browser breaks the Amazon gadget/thing. If it happens over there, the title is The Mind Illuminated.

 

[wanttodie]

if i died that make me happy

 

[demuic]

If I could live in a utopian virtual reality simulation 24/7.

 

[april]

I think that if I had a body that I was comfortable with, and freedom from societal pressures and responsibilities, I would be very happy. The second part is more than wishful, I know.. I'll focus on the first part first lol

 

[ThrownAwayTom]

Just the basics. The Dhammapada got recommended on youtube to me recently so I gave it a listen. Alan Watts is pretty popular:




I also like to just google stuff and read whatever comes up, but I haven't found "the book", you know what I mean? What about you? What type of stuff have you been reading?

Sorry to barge in, but a while ago I found a book/guide with very good ratings. It takes some real commitment, so I left it aside, but it might be y'all thing:

Amazon product ASIN 1501156985
EDIT: I noticed the Brave browser breaks the Amazon gadget/thing. If it happens over there, the title is The Mind Illuminated.

Thanks both for your recommendations. I'm nearing the end of a book called Waking Up by Sam Harris. He's an atheist but it's about meditation/being present and takes a lot from Buddhist teachings about the conscience etc.

It does take a lot of practice and commitment though - but the book still has some really interesting stuff about the science of the brain and how we perceive emotions and how they effect us.

I will look at both of your links :)

 

[TooConscious]

If I had a bearable level of health I'd be in a totally different situation, productive instead of destructive, instead I have been spit on by fucking Doctors who ruined my life, the medical system is rigged to be evil. It's proven that at best they cure the symptoms of one illness while injecting us with another, most people refuse to believe it but the evidence is there.
Plus the side effects of one medication require more medication with comes with more wide effects. Till we're screwed.
Family damage you beyond repair an realize how petty all your suffering has been. This hell.

 

[WornOutLife]

Be in shape, have more money, date some girls, visit my dog more often, master my japanese and travel to Japan.

Still, I would be suicidal. No matter how happy I become. CTB is just in my genes.

 

[heretogethelp]

sleep more, i'm already oversleeping but that is the idea. Life sucks, i need to escape as much as possible. If i'm awake, then i'm streaming dark/depressing movies & tv shows :(

 

[IsThisTheEnd?]

sleep more, i'm already oversleeping but that is the idea. Life sucks, i need to escape as much as possible. If i'm awake, then i'm streaming dark/depressing movies & tv shows :(

Well I have wondered if being in a coma would be nice, but how could I tell.

 

[motel rooms]

A Leonard Cohen afterworld so I can sigh eternally

 

[TheAmazingCriswell]

Living in a society where my strengths are needed and my weaknesses are irrelevant--unlike the complete opposite, which is the case.

What are your strengths, if you don't mind me asking?

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

What are your strengths, if you don't mind me asking?

Bent penis (can reach around corners), ability to activate incel-rage and enter berserkergang, can eat/drink things that are not tasty without complaining, pretty good at Mario Kart, 75 IQ (good for communicating with children, haven't actually gotten it tested so I'm estimating).