Discussion What kind of relationship do you have with your parents?

[Crash_Bash_Dash]

Like the title says, what kind of relationship do you have with your parents? Are they supportive and loving or are they abusive or even violent towards you? Or do you just feel alienated or uncomfortable with your parents?

I would say that I have somewhat supportive but also reserved and restrained relationship with them because of some things they do/have done to me. I feel that I can't talk about certain topics with them and they have sometimes been a bit nosy and too protective about the stuff that I do with my life f.e. they have wanted to dictate with whom I can hang out with (recently they have given up on that though) and want to "figure out" my life for me and give me unsolicited advice (my father mostly). They both also judge other people very eagerly and that's something I don't like about them too. Also there is one thing that I don't like talking about that has affected my life badly and I still hold a grudge about it toward my parents.

My mother is somewhat self-absorbed and wants things to be her way and my father just complies with almost everything she does and mostly doesn't have an opinion on things (or at least doesn't reveal them to my mom or others until he's forced to). We've also had arguments with my mom that have made me live partly in fear with her (like the one time when I was troublesome in her opinion, she threatened me with that I should be moved to orphanage or some other institute). My mother has also a tendency to be all about appearances too when interacting with other people and that annoys me too.

My father on the other hand regrets his past self and his career choices very much and is stagnated to his ways of thinking too pragmatically about career and school (I somewhat understand him because society is what it is) but I would have liked a father figure who would have been more aspiring and hopeful and not being so fatalistic about his life.

But critique aside, at least I have some financial (even though they should have no need to do that anymore) and some emotional support (from my mom mostly) sometimes and they have tried their best to be there even after I have fucked up my life. They have done some good thing in my youth too f.e. advocated me when I got bullied in high school and have tried to make me active with pushing me to some hobbies (even though I did drop them all eventually for a reason or another).

TL;DR: I would say pure love is a little restrained between us for good reasons (in my part of the relationship at least) but we work out just fine I guess.

So how about you guys and gals of SaSu? How do you feel about your parents?

Edit: I don't know, maybe this should have been an off-topic question but I can't change it to that subforum or can I?

 

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

I have zero relationship with them.

Dad died in '09 and Mom died in '20.

I had cut off contact with Dad a year before he died, no regrets. He was an abusive, narcissistic prick. I cut off contact with Mom several years before she died; she's not as bad as Dad was, but still fucked me up from childhood. They were producing and selling drugs for most of my childhood, they were totally open about that with me. I was surrounded by drugs, they did drugs every day in front of me.

 

[Dante_]

I'll be honest

Mom thinks she's great and worth talking to about anything because she loves me but she has an anger about her that makes it absolutely not worth the hassle of talking to her plus she has an attitude about her i fucking hate, nevermind the tone she takes on as she sees fit as an appropriate measure or something, I dunno...cant say I'll feel sorry for after im gone.

 

[kazatte]

my mother has done some things to me that i'd rather not get into on here but that all my friends can agree are horrible + my father has been dead for about 2 and a half years. i arguably had a better relationship with him, as the one i have with my mother is way too complicated to describe with words LMAO