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wantittoendsoon
Experienced
- Dec 11, 2022
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I should preface this with the fact that I have terminal stage 4 cancer. I had all of my treatments that I needed in the US, Chemo and everything else and I was in the wait and see what happens now phase of my treatment so I took this opportunity to do a little traveling. I went to see my Friends in the Philippines that I had met when they worked in the US. I was there for about a month when my health both physically and mentally were starting to decline. I needed a couple weeks in order to get a reasonably priced flight back to the US as last minute especially right around Thanksgiving is crazy. During that 2 week period I basically had a nervous breakdown and was online with my family in the US(12 hour Difference) and My friend in Scotland(4 hour difference) so I was pretty well covered with support. This friend of mine is Scotland would stay online with me for hours and talk and comfort mem we have been the best of friends for over 15 years and I considered her one of my dearest friends. She suggested that I go to Scotland for the Holidays before returning to the US as it would be my last chance. I was a mess online, crying, and telling her how scared I was of my own mortality, and basically how messed up my mind was, I was pacing for hours as I talked to her online, she stuck by me the whole time. I often told her that all I needed was a hug(as I think many of us can relate to) she said if I just got there I could have all I needed and she wanted me to sleep in her bed, we are in our 50's and I couldn't get it up with 50 viagras(Damn Prostate cancer) we are strictly platonic friends but very close. so I get there to the Philippines and we have a wonderful reunion. I had visited many times over the years. inexplicably after about 2 days she became completely indifferent to me. I let it go for a day thinking she was in a mood or something. I finally asked her what was wrong and she went off on me, telling me I'm so needy and clingy. that I was always hugging her during the day and "Groping Her" at night. this groping amounted to putting a comforting arm around her, which I thought was as comforting to her as to me. So now I am stuck here for 3 more weeks, I could head home to the US but once again it is Christmas time and what will be a $1000 flight in January is $4000 at the moment if I want to leave sooner. I have no idea what happened, I know this is one side of the story but I swear there is no other side, I came here, acted better if anything than I had been in the Philippines. basically slept the first 2 days after a 30 hour flight. The strange thing is that she doesn't only not care for me but truly seems to like seeing me suffer. I would NEVER have thought she could do this. so I'm miserable, completely alone even when she is here. To do this to someone that you considered your best friend and is literally dying is beyond confusing. I will talk to her one more time and if it isn't better I'm heading to the local pub which has rooms for rent, just like the hobbit...LOL (gotta love Scotland) and I'll enjoy the holidays with happy strangers rather than this version of my dearest friend. ANY thoughts? Bi Polar, Manic, Just fucking crazy? when I wasn't here we talked for hours every day now I'm here and she hasn't said 10 words to me today. Well that is my rant !!!