What is the reason?

[Crazy4u]

Why do I remember random painful memories all of a sudden? some of the events happened many years ago. Some of them are not so serious but makes me angry, sad, or both.

 

[motel rooms]

Because our brains don't play fair.

 

[Crazy4u]

well, it is unfair to feel the same pain several times over a stupid memory!

 

[rationaltake]

Certain things trigger memories. Scents, words, sights.

 

[timf]

Sometimes memories are suppressed until we are better able to process them. Other times memories are triggered by circumstances similar to the previous experience. These act act like a warning.

Memories of abuse or trauma can be like memories of a car accident. Yes it was unfair to be so injured, but for all practical purposes, regret, anger, and bitterness only contaminate the future and a higher priority is to work on making the future as good as possible.

 

[LivideLamb]

Why do I remember random painful memories all of a sudden? some of the events happened many years ago. Some of them are not so serious but makes me angry, sad, or both.

Trauma brains work in a hell of a weird way. Were those memories repressed? If so, your brain might decide to remember them now, knowing that you have everything in you to deal with them in a healthy way. Either way, I really wish you the best. Don't beat yourself about feeling angry, sad, and all those "negative" emotions, they're emotions none the less, that what makes us humans

 

[Sherri]

I wish I had the answer a wise one to give you, sadly personal speaking my brain also remembers more the bad sadder times than the happy days who happened not that long ago, yet I revive events that happened when I was a child. A big hug.

 

[Crazy4u]

Trauma brains work in a hell of a weird way. Were those memories repressed? If so, your brain might decide to remember them now, knowing that you have everything in you to deal with them in a healthy way. Either way, I really wish you the best. Don't beat yourself about feeling angry, sad, and all those "negative" emotions, they're emotions none the less, that what makes us humans

everything in me is repressed not just my memories. My life, my feelings, my thoughts,...etc are all repressed. I lived my entire life like that.

I remember flying to San Diego on Southwest at night. I was happy and excited to visit the city and the beaches for the first time. I suddenly remembered an awful memory and started crying silently in the airplane! I am glad the person next to me didn't pay attention

 

[LivideLamb]

everything in me is repressed not just my memories. My life, my feelings, my thoughts,...etc are all repressed. I lived my entire life like that.

I remember flying to San Diego on Southwest at night. I was happy and excited to visit the city and the beaches for the first time. I suddenly remembered an awful memory and started crying silently in the airplane! I am glad the person next to me didn't pay attention

I'm sorry about that... Life's unfair, wish our mental health didn't make us suffer. Also, there's no shame in crying, it can make us feel better.
Did you ever thought of going to therapy for all those repressed things?