I have a question for anyone here who is married what is it like? Also what is it like to have kids if you have any?
Stan
Factoid Hunter
- Aug 29, 2019
- 2,589
I think marriage is amazing when it works. Having a lover, best friend and many other things rolled into one person. Having kids for me completely changed my life. I was not longer my own priority in my life and its incredible if you can self reflect it that way. Watching them grow is huge fun. Kids can bring a lot o magic back to your life. Something like Christmas is a million times better with children. But on the reverse, they can give you concern, there can be a bit of a protectionist about you so I can now see why kids never grow up in the eyes of parents.
I'm just curious what it's like to have sex. Never got to try, never been close. Girls usually see the genetic disorders before "personality". Marriage is risky nowadays, would not go for it even if I had the chance.
Rachel74
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- Sep 7, 2019
- 1,716
I've been married 3 times.
First time it was when I was at uni. Around the time I got bipolar. Wasn't the best thing I've done.
2nd time he was a abusive wanker. I left him then he died.
3rd time he was a sweetie and is still my best friend and he looked after me but I didn't love him, we've not divorced as I don't see the point really.
Marriage isn't all it's cracked up to be and neither is sex.
First time it was when I was at uni. Around the time I got bipolar. Wasn't the best thing I've done.
2nd time he was a abusive wanker. I left him then he died.
3rd time he was a sweetie and is still my best friend and he looked after me but I didn't love him, we've not divorced as I don't see the point really.
Marriage isn't all it's cracked up to be and neither is sex.
Just wondering because I've always liked the idea of being married and having kids but not sure if capable plus there is someone special but I don't want to tell you my life story for I don't think you'd believe me plus I don't have all the imperial evidence on my side.
Empty Smile
The final Bell has rung. Goodbye to all.
- Jul 13, 2018
- 1,785
Hell.... PURE. HELL.
I was married for 10 years and it was hell. Death would have been better.
I was so happy when she finally asked for a divorce.
I was married for 10 years and it was hell. Death would have been better.
I was so happy when she finally asked for a divorce.
Didn't go well huh? But I imagine everyone has different experiences some good, some bad, some ugly and everything in between I won't ask you what happened though.
Empty Smile
The final Bell has rung. Goodbye to all.
- Jul 13, 2018
- 1,785
Oh, it'll be short and blunt....
Before marriage she was great, everything a man would want....
After marriage......... Well, have you seen the Snickers commercials where they say "You're not you when your hungry.", and the person is cranky as hell?
There weren't enough Snickers in the world to make her happy.
Angst Filled Fuck Up
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- Sep 9, 2018
- 2,984
At best, boring. At worst, soul-draining. I don't think marriage makes sense in a 2019 world. It's a nice notion, but the reality is that two people usually wind up together for the wrong reasons. There is almost always some kind of imbalance or foundational problem that will undermine the marriage in the end.
woxihuanni
Illuminated
- Aug 19, 2019
- 3,299
Well, was married in all but name (co-habitation is identical to marriage here). It is brushing teeth together, synchronising your breath as you spoon, it is not being fucking alone in the universe anymore.
Will shut up before grief washes over.
Will shut up before grief washes over.
dreamsofdestruction
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- May 9, 2019
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Empty Smile
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- Jul 13, 2018
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TowerUpright
Disillusioned
- May 26, 2019
- 602
Like an anchor. In good and bad ways.
Good in so far that we have support together. A common environment. Both want our kids to be reared in a productive way. Two paychecks.
Bad in that my CTB date is pushed back because of the children. No time to CTB without being noticed ( fasting tends to have questions asked).
Good in so far that we have support together. A common environment. Both want our kids to be reared in a productive way. Two paychecks.
Bad in that my CTB date is pushed back because of the children. No time to CTB without being noticed ( fasting tends to have questions asked).
Rachel74
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- Sep 7, 2019
- 1,716
Angst Filled Fuck Up
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- Sep 9, 2018
- 2,984
I've actually been thinking about marriage lately and how short it falls as far as what I need as a man. Like I wish it was possible to have two kinds of lives at once. One with a person who you know and care for, who you can just watch garbage TV with and forget to brush your teeth and it doesn't matter (sex optional). Then another life where you can basically just fuck around and do what you want. With the amount of infidelity floating around, and the options people have at their disposal as far as meeting new partners these days, it seems to make sense from a human needs perspective.
Of course, this doesn't take into account the benefits of combining resources or raising kids in a stable environment, but I just feel like marriage is basically trying to jam a round shape into a square hole.
Of course, this doesn't take into account the benefits of combining resources or raising kids in a stable environment, but I just feel like marriage is basically trying to jam a round shape into a square hole.
Rachel74
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- Sep 7, 2019
- 1,716
I didn't have kids because of my illness and didn't want to inflict that one them.
In order for marriage to work again you would have to go back to traditional gender roles. Feminism has been destructive to marriage, and the family. The genders are not equal and cannot be made equal because men and women have different strengths, weaknesses, proclivities.
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Rachel74
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Empty Smile
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Norest4thewicked
Losing it
- Nov 4, 2018
- 270
I've been married a long time. It's been a dead relationship for 3 years now. Joined together by debt, nothing else. She does her thing, I do mine. In all honesty, just find someone you dont like and give them half your stuff.
Rachel74
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- Sep 7, 2019
- 1,716
It has, but you would have to be pretty interested in this topic to fully grasp the consequences of feminism on civilization. I don't mean that I don't want women to have opportunity and if they want to be an engineer or whatever like not to be able to have the same rights as men. The problem with the modern version of feminism is it's breaking down gender relations and gives women rights, frees women from responsibility, and punishes men and masculinity. It alters which people are having the most kids too.
Not necessarily who u want to have lots of kids lol! Women are choosing the sexy guy over the responsible smart hard working guy. Normally without the transfer of wealth through the state women have to pick more responsible men who will stick around and provide. There's a lot of wealth transfer to women to make it appear like women don't need men financially. It's hidden to some extent. Many high paying jobs women have were created by the government not by the private sector market. Hopefully this makes some sense I'm high on speed again lol!
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Sweet emotion
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- Sep 14, 2019
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I think about that all the time. Usually every day. I got sick at 20 years old with Complex Regional Pain Syndrome which is the highest ranking pain condition in medical history. It is physically impossible for me to have any type of relationship because the pain is so extreme and also I have it in the vaginal area so I can't have sex. I'd be crying. I never got a chance to fall in love and to know what it feels like for someone to love me. That is a pain that is too deep to bear. I want to be in a relationship. I want to have a husband who adores me and has my back and conforts me. But I'll be completely honest. I wouldn't want to be with someone who has the physical illnesses that I have. I have no quality of life so why would I want to bring someone down with me? And no one would want to be in a relationship with me because of this. Let's face it. Everyone wants to have sex and I'm not able to. So let's just say I went out on a date to a restaurant with a guy which I would never be able to do but let's just say I did. And I tell him well, I can't have sex. Where do you see this relationship going? He'd be out the door! That's where it would be going. Out the door. I'm going to die without knowing love and it breaks my heart because I would be a wonderful girlfriend or wife. I have a lot to give. I'm 34 now and I see pictures on social media of all the people I went to high school with, with their husbands and wives and they look so happy. I hate when people tell me, well love isn't all it's cracked up to be. Or marriage isn't worth it. It's easy for them to day that because they've never been alone before. How do they know my marriage wouldn't have been amazing? How do they know I wouldn't find the love of my life somewhere? Everyone always tells me about bad experiences and say to me that I'm lucky to have never loved. Seriously? I think that is so insensitive. No one wants to be alone. We all want to find someone who makes life worth living for.
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stellabelle
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- Dec 14, 2018
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Not married, but engaged and living together 95% of the time. We share financial responsibilities and basic household responsibilities as well. We do well together most of the time but have different views. we Don't always see it from each other's perspective but we tend to move along and not bicker about it. We fight sometimes but do carry on and face one another, it's generally over a miscommunication, misunderstanding, or due to alcohol related incidents.
It's kind of weird when you get comfortable with your partner because the magic doesn't die but it doesn't always feel like the first time anymore. You have to actively work to keep the spark alive.
It's kind of weird when you get comfortable with your partner because the magic doesn't die but it doesn't always feel like the first time anymore. You have to actively work to keep the spark alive.
Rachel74
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- Sep 7, 2019
- 1,716
http://jesus-is-savior.com/Evils in America/Feminism/womens_rights.htm. This is the hidden cost of feminism.
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