what if i dont want to recover

[Life_and_Death]

as backwards as it might be, this feels most appropriate here.

so, im suppose to be "getting better" or more appropriately coping. which idk i guess but i dont feel like i want to. not committing suicide and working towards a better life ok debatable. but not drinking, cutting, smoking up.... idk. i know my SO wouldnt dare sit aside and watch me drown. especially considering it would be on his dollar i wouldnt even dare/want to, but... i just dont feel like stopping either...

im still in my "abusive" situation so of course im going to want coping mechanism...idk, maybe ill change my mind when/if i move

 

[Rabhen]

You know, the only thing it seems to me you need to recover from is control others gained over your being of self. You have been treated like shit and abused, okay, like being hit by another car as you sit at a light, ok, some injury that may need some healing, but YOU are not a diseased person that needs to conform to others ideals. Do not allow them to convince you that conforming is recovering, it is not, it is simply more abuse that you are having to endure, that you are expected to propagate onto yourself, to placate others. You may indeed have issues, health, emotional and others, but this does not make you an inherently diseased person who must 'recover' by conforming to appease others.

 

[Life_and_Death]

You know, the only thing it seems to me you need to recover from is control others gained over your being of self. You have been treated like shit and abused, okay, like being hit by another car as you sit at a light, ok, some injury that may need some healing, but YOU are not a diseased person that needs to conform to others ideals. Do not allow them to convince you that conforming is recovering, it is not, it is simply more abuse that you are having to endure, that you are expected to propagate onto yourself, to placate others. You may indeed have issues, health, emotional and others, but this does not make you an inherently diseased person who must 'recover' by conforming to appease others.

you do know that if youre going to be in a successful relationship that there needs to be compromises or else it will never work?
youre telling me to steal from someone i love, yeah im not going to listen to your "advice" at all.
i am the FARTHEST thing from a "conformist" so i really dont need this "advice".
also "diseased" or not, these habits arent healthy and can lead to long term health problems, only making my life worse then it already is, so im really not taking any of your "advice".

 

[timf]

Some when they encounter an uncomfortable environment do not even wait five minutes before taking corrective steps. Others may feel monumental inertia such that suicide seems much easier that trying to correct things. Trying to fix problems can seem more daunting than surrender and may even seem less certain of outcome.

If a person is not so much a "take the bull by the horns" sort of person, he may only find the motivation to fix things when pushed to the limit. If the source of the problems is intermittent, there may not be sufficient continuous motivation to follow through on corrective steps.

It can feel like an ant that tries to climb out of a bowl only to keep sliding back down. This situation can seem hopeless and contribute to seeing suicide as the only exit strategy. However, unlike the ant, we have the ability to consider options. For example, diet, exercise, entertainment, new associations and activities can open avenues of exploration that may offer options not even previously available or considered.

One problem is that difficulties can wear you down so that your focus becomes increasingly narrow. This is understandable, but tends to draw attention away from even considering possible solutions much less attempting them.