Help What do normal people do on the weekends?

[smile418]

This might appear like a really dumb question to have but it's a genuine problem of mine. It's the first weekend after my breakdown and the only thing I did today is feeling suicidal and hanging out on this forum. This behavior is obviously not sustainable so I am here seeking help.

There are a few additional problems that rule out some of the "easy" answers. Before I spend my free time on playing video games but now I can't be bothered with this at all anymore. Also my sexual drive has completely ceased to exist ruling out one or two other activities. I have found that in my life most people increase the average pain-level so ideally I would like to avoid anything that contains exclusively social interaction. Lastly the maybe biggest problem is the weekend itself because most activities (like sports, work, choirs or anything similar) are not offered during this time of the week because the people that provide them already have a life that they want to live on the weekend.

This forum has helped me in the past which is why I am asking for your help once again. I would appreciate anything helpful to my situation but I also would like to know what you generally like to do during the weekends and why, maybe I can get inspired. If not there is always the other option.

 

[Soulless_Angel]

I can't really answer your question, in relation to the title, what do normal people do on the weekends.... What do people define as normal? I personally hate the weekends!
Normal people if you go by society's standards, people either spend time with family, or go out and party the weekend away. neither are really appealing.

Sorry to hear you had a break down recently,

 

[Mr2005]

Get smashed

 

[CarefulWithThatAxe]

I tried being normal once worst five minutes of my life.

 

[Jean4]

I live here.

 

[enjoy]

i don't think there's any such thing as normal. the masses tend to go out with friends and get drunk, though. a lot of city people go clubbing, too.

 

[Deleted member 1465]

I used to do the gardening. I had two big gardens so it replaced all hobbies. Id also go walking and collect wild plants to bring back for the garden or hunt round the backstreets to womble some discarded masonry to add to the terrace.
In the winter I'd either work inside on the house or learn new software on the pc.
All gone now though.

 

[smile418]

I used to do the gardening. I had two big gardens so it replaced all hobbies. Id also go walking and collect wild plants to bring back for the garden or hunt round the backstreets to womble some discarded masonry to add to the terrace.
In the winter I'd either work inside on the house or learn new software on the pc.
All gone now though.

Do you mind telling me what happened? (Sorry I'm new here)

 

[waterbottleman]

Single guys go out so they can be rejected by 90 percent of women.

Single women go out so they can complain about 90 percent of men not being good enough.

From what I've heard gay people are often lonely cause it's hard to find new gay people who they don't know already.

Its a mixed bag for people in relationships, depends on the relationship, how long the Relationship has lasted (I.e. is it in the honeymoon stage or not). Some are happy, some are not.

50 percent of marriages end in divorce, then you have to consider that of the 50 percent that don't end in divorce, some certain percentage are unhappy marriages. So mathematically speaking most marriages are unhappy.

Our ancestors screwed everything up by having polygamous systems in which way more women had children than men. In fact according to DNA analysis 8000 years ago after the agricultural revolution 17 women had children for every one man. In more recent history, it's 5 women for every man.

8,000 Years Ago, 17 Women Reproduced for Every One Man

An analysis of modern DNA uncovers a rough dating scene after the advent of agriculture.

psmag.com

In other words women are all competing for the top men. The vast majority of men end up either dying alone or parring up with a woman who merely settles for them and they live unhappily ever after. Women have to choose between trying to get a top male in a faithful monogamous relationship (good luck with that) or settling for a "loser" and the only people who are actually satisfied with this system are the top males.

Thanks nature for creating a stupid system in which the vast majority of people live in misery and aren't satisfied.

We loser men (lol I know I'm one) should just kill ourselves off to improve the gene pool. Hey maybe everyone is better off without us after all even if we're kind decent people

Im a piece of shit, no one has ever loved me, no one values me even though I did everything were all told to do as kids to be "successful" and happy. Thanks society! Thanks nature! Thank you God!

No actually how I really feel is fuck you all for wasting my time and feeding me lies.

Would have been better off spending my youth traveling and having sex with sex workers or joining the military and dying serving my country. Better than being a cog in a machine for a society that tells you to do X, Y, Z and then when you do and try to cash in your chips for your reward it tells you you're entitled, are an asshole, you deserve absolutely nothing, are worthless, go fuck yourself, etc.

 

[Deleted member 1465]

Do you mind telling me what happened? (Sorry I'm new here)

Got ill and lost the house.

 

[smile418]

Single guys go out so they can be rejected by 90 percent of women.

Single women go out so they can complain about 90 percent of men not being good enough.

From what I've heard gay people are often lonely cause it's hard to find new gay people who they don't know already.

Its a mixed bag for people in relationships, depends on the relationship, how long the Relationship has lasted (I.e. is it in the honeymoon stage or not). Some are happy, some are not.

50 percent of marriages end in divorce, then you have to consider that of the 50 percent that don't end in divorce, some certain percentage are unhappy marriages. So mathematically speaking most marriages are unhappy.

Our ancestors screwed everything up by having polygamous systems in which way more women had children than men. In fact according to DNA analysis 8000 years ago after the agricultural revolution 17 women had children for every one man. In more recent history, it's 5 women for every man.

8,000 Years Ago, 17 Women Reproduced for Every One Man

An analysis of modern DNA uncovers a rough dating scene after the advent of agriculture.

psmag.com

In other words women are all competing for the top men. The vast majority of men end up either dying alone or parring up with a woman who merely settles for them and they live unhappily ever after. Women have to choose between trying to get a top male in a faithful monogamous relationship (good luck with that) or settling for a "loser" and the only people who are actually satisfied with this system are the top males.

Thanks nature for creating a stupid system in which the vast majority of people live in misery and aren't satisfied.

We loser men (lol I know I'm one) should just kill ourselves off to improve the gene pool. Hey maybe everyone is better off without us after all even if we're kind decent people

Im a piece of shit, no one has ever loved me, no one values me even though I did everything were all told to do as kids to be "successful" and happy. Thanks society! Thanks nature! Thank you God!

No actually how I really feel is fuck you all for wasting my time and feeding me lies.

Would have been better off spending my youth traveling and having sex with sex workers or joining the military and dying serving my country. Better than being a cog in a machine for a society that tells you to do X, Y, Z and then when you do and try to cash in your chips for your reward it tells you you're entitled, are an asshole, you deserve absolutely nothing, are worthless, go fuck yourself, etc.

First of all I am sorry that you are lonely and unloved. I felt the same way before I had my breakdown recently. I am still unloved but it doesn't bother me because as I said all my sexual instincts vanished.

If you don't mind I would like to disagree with you on a couple of your points:

1. Our ancestors screwed the system
2. Only the top males are satisfied with the system
3. You're a piece of shit :)


1. The reason why women are pickier than men in my opinion is primarily the 9 month waiting period between creating offspring and by extend they invest may more time and resources in nurturing the child than men do. That is just the way it has to be biologically. The only way the disparity could be prevented is if there were way more woman than man. But such a system just wouldn't work out because men are supposed to gather the resources for the offspring while women are at home caring for the child. If there were no men all not just the children but the women too would die.
The 17:1 ratio didn't change the evolutionary programming the only thing that it did is that I might have created a slightly less functional gene pool.

2. There are plenty of suicides from extremely successful men and even more of them are deeply unhappy even though they have access to virtually any woman in the world. While it may suck to not have any woman to love you ultimately she wouldn't solve your core issues. The same of course goes for women. Even if they can get a high status male there is a good chance that there are various problems in the relationship making them both unhappy. As you said women face their own very different challenges. But it all comes down to finding a meaning/purpose for your life that you believe in and devoting everything you have to it or ending your life (my choice). Anything else is guaranteed to fail.

3. You are not a piece of shit. Even if you feel like nobody loves you you still can find inherent worth. As I said above life is about finding anything that keeps you going. It doesn't have to be a woman or children. Have you tried to look into other things like a hobby that can fulfill you or maybe some way to help people which is usually quite rewarding? If you tried and failed there's always the other choice but until then you truly have nothing to loose.


Thank you for your reply it was very engaging

 

[waterbottleman]

First of all I am sorry that you are lonely and unloved. I felt the same way before I had my breakdown recently. I am still unloved but it doesn't bother me because as I said all my sexual instincts vanished.

If you don't mind I would like to disagree with you on a couple of your points:

1. Our ancestors screwed the system
2. Only the top males are satisfied with the system
3. You're a piece of shit :)


1. The reason why women are pickier than men in my opinion is primarily the 9 month waiting period between creating offspring and by extend they invest may more time and resources in nurturing the child than men do. That is just the way it has to be biologically. The only way the disparity could be prevented is if there were way more woman than man. But such a system just wouldn't work out because men are supposed to gather the resources for the offspring while women are at home caring for the child. If there were no men all not just the children but the women too would die.
The 17:1 ratio didn't change the evolutionary programming the only thing that it did is that I might have created a slightly less functional gene pool.

2. There are plenty of suicides from extremely successful men and even more of them are deeply unhappy even though they have access to virtually any woman in the world. While it may suck to not have any woman to love you ultimately she wouldn't solve your core issues. The same of course goes for women. Even if they can get a high status male there is a good chance that there are various problems in the relationship making them both unhappy. As you said women face their own very different challenges. But it all comes down to finding a meaning/purpose for your life that you believe in and devoting everything you have to it or ending your life (my choice). Anything else is guaranteed to fail.

3. You are not a piece of shit. Even if you feel like nobody loves you you still can find inherent worth. As I said above life is about finding anything that keeps you going. It doesn't have to be a woman or children. Have you tried to look into other things like a hobby that can fulfill you or maybe some way to help people which is usually quite rewarding? If you tried and failed there's always the other choice but until then you truly have nothing to loose.


Thank you for your reply it was very engaging

I don't disagree with anything you said, my post was meant to be cynical and comical at the same time. I think there is definitely truth in a lot of what I said but it's more nuanced than how I presented it and as you've pointed out here.

As for me personally it's too late for me. I used to have hobbies and all that but one by one my depression has consumed me to the point that I have no energy, motivation, or passion to do any of them anymore. My body may still be alive but when it comes to who I am on the inside/my soul/whatever you want to call it is dead. I'm merely surviving on this planet as an empty biological organism I'm no longer a human being with interests, hopes, and dreams.

I just want to end my suffering so I think it's best for me to ctb.

 

[I_love_to_bake]

Single guys go out so they can be rejected by 90 percent of women.

Single women go out so they can complain about 90 percent of men not being good enough.

From what I've heard gay people are often lonely cause it's hard to find new gay people who they don't know already.

Its a mixed bag for people in relationships, depends on the relationship, how long the Relationship has lasted (I.e. is it in the honeymoon stage or not). Some are happy, some are not.

50 percent of marriages end in divorce, then you have to consider that of the 50 percent that don't end in divorce, some certain percentage are unhappy marriages. So mathematically speaking most marriages are unhappy.

Our ancestors screwed everything up by having polygamous systems in which way more women had children than men. In fact according to DNA analysis 8000 years ago after the agricultural revolution 17 women had children for every one man. In more recent history, it's 5 women for every man.

8,000 Years Ago, 17 Women Reproduced for Every One Man

An analysis of modern DNA uncovers a rough dating scene after the advent of agriculture.

psmag.com

In other words women are all competing for the top men. The vast majority of men end up either dying alone or parring up with a woman who merely settles for them and they live unhappily ever after. Women have to choose between trying to get a top male in a faithful monogamous relationship (good luck with that) or settling for a "loser" and the only people who are actually satisfied with this system are the top males.

Thanks nature for creating a stupid system in which the vast majority of people live in misery and aren't satisfied.

We loser men (lol I know I'm one) should just kill ourselves off to improve the gene pool. Hey maybe everyone is better off without us after all even if we're kind decent people

Im a piece of shit, no one has ever loved me, no one values me even though I did everything were all told to do as kids to be "successful" and happy. Thanks society! Thanks nature! Thank you God!

No actually how I really feel is fuck you all for wasting my time and feeding me lies.

Would have been better off spending my youth traveling and having sex with sex workers or joining the military and dying serving my country. Better than being a cog in a machine for a society that tells you to do X, Y, Z and then when you do and try to cash in your chips for your reward it tells you you're entitled, are an asshole, you deserve absolutely nothing, are worthless, go fuck yourself, etc.

Marriage encourages toxic relationships. Love transcends written laws, it is foolish to try restrict our love in this way. Much discontentment can be attributed to our obsession with judging relationship status. The people you love does not define you. How you treat the people you love defines you. How do you treat people that you love?

Yes, you were lied to. It's so hard to come to terms with this. The path to enlightenment is painful.

Nature did not create this toxic system. Scared, confused people created this system. They were trying to protect themselves from being hurt, and from being alone.

Best of luck.

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

On weekends I rehearse with my band, go jogging and we smoke weed in the nights. Anyway I don't like my life. And I don't know if that is normal..

 

[Marchioness]

I'm very social and get invited to several events or parties or volunteer work so my weekends are almost always booked with random things to do. Depression creeps in when I spread myself too thin.