Help What do I do about my sister?

[LastAcrobat]

I've been trying to make sure my family doesn't care for me once I'm gone... to mixed results. I tried to use politics (my parents love(d?)) Trump so I just said some stuff against that to get them to try to hate me. This worked for a member but I guess I actually managed to start to get them to dislike him so idk what to do with that. It's still not a huge issue as I know they will get over my passing eventually.

On the other hand I never even took my sister into consideration. She is only a little older than me, and I'm seriously afraid she will attempt (and likely succeed) once I'm gone. I don't want her, and I don't want to be responsible for her death. If she went it would likely cause my parents to go as well as now two of their kids would be gone. I don't know what to do. I want to, I need to CTB, but I don't want to cause all this harm.

How can I make sure she doesn't hurt herself?

 

[DeathSweetDeath]

You can't.

 

[eyeswithoutaface]

Im trying to do the same thing w/ my family but if it were me... I'd leave a letter or a text that voices your worries if you're certain she will ctb after you if anything its a little guilt trippy but may help. but in my opinion, if people have something to live for, they won't want to die so easily. My parents siblings have killed themselves and ik theyre sad and dont like talking about it, but they're still here!

 

[LastAcrobat]

Im trying to do the same thing w/ my family but if it were me... I'd leave a letter or a text that voices your worries if you're certain she will ctb after you if anything its a little guilt trippy but may help. but in my opinion, if people have something to live for, they won't want to die so easily. My parents siblings have killed themselves and ik theyre sad and dont like talking about it, but they're still here!

My sister doesn't have many people except me I don't know what she would do, and if both of us are gone my parents would probably do the same with two of their kids CTB-ing…

I don't even know what to write in a note to try to calm her I never even considered it before now.

 

[Alpacachino]

You have to pour your heart out in a note. Leave a long,deeply thought out explanatory note.

 

[LastAcrobat]

You have to pour your heart out in a note. Leave a long,deeply thought out explanatory note.

I mean is there anything in particular I could write to make sure I avoid the worst case scenario?

 

[reticulator]

The only thing keeping me from really going is my son. I have a family, but things are so messed up, and my mental state is so bad I don't think I will be able to support them, which compounds the issue of course.

My son doesn't deserve a piece of shit mental wreck like myself, but will growing up with no father be even worse?

 

[BGman89]

why do you not want your sister to kill herself after you're gone, somebody you care about dying is one of the most miserable things that can happen and it's likely that she'll never get over it

 

[PI3.14]

Is your sister somehow prone to suicidal ideation? Like, she has a history of mental health issues or something? Cus, unless she does, and/or her life is bad enough to lush her towards that path, you can't be sure she will follow with it.

Unfortunately, I have siblings that I do care about too, and there is one in particular that I'm afraid she might do the same in the future.

Also, we're a large family, and me taking my life, might plant the idea in my younger siblings head, the idea that suicide is an option that can choose to take one day if they want. It scares me to think about this tbh.

 

[BwahBah]

Unfortunately, there is only so much damage control you can do in these type of situations. You can implement all the precautions and write all the letters in the world, but at the end of the day, you have no power or say in what happens or how it impacts those close to you (including how they respond / cope, and the ripple effects that will follow) once you're gone. The spread of pain and misery is the inevitable price you pay for choosing to end your own. Regardless of your personal philosophies on suicide, I think it's crucial that you at the very least accept and come to terms with this fact before going through with your ctb.

 

[LastAcrobat]

Is your sister somehow prone to suicidal ideation? Like, she has a history of mental health issues or something? Cus, unless she does, and/or her life is bad enough to lush her towards that path, you can't be sure she will follow with it.

Unfortunately, I have siblings that I do care about too, and there is one in particular that I'm afraid she might do the same in the future.

Also, we're a large family, and me taking my life, might plant the idea in my younger siblings head, the idea that suicide is an option that can choose to take one day if they want. It scares me to think about this tbh.

Yes, from what I remember she is prone to it